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    i will preface this by saying that this question may be really stupid and probably asked before somewhere, but i couldn't find it when i searched the forum.

    last night was the first time i worked, so i ended up mainly observing. after tip-out, i ended up with $30 from when i had to go on stage. the rest of the time i basically chilled with the younger customers, drank their beer, and asked them what they thought about the strippers on stage, to try to find out what men thought looked good. a lot of the other dancers were really helpful and taught me what to do up on the stages, but...
    i can't figure out how to give lapdances. i tried to watch girls giving lapdances, but they were always in the corners of the club, which are very dark, so the only things i ended up seeing were like dancers kicking their legs above men's heads, which didn't look too basic.
    how do you start a dance out? do you grind facing backwards or forwards? on the customer's leg? between? this seems ridiculous that i don't know how to do this, but i guess the only dance i've ever given on someone's lap has been the horizontal macarena, haha. if there's any videos online, that would be helpful. i've tried looking, but the only thing i can find is carmen electra's aerobic striptease which seem definitely not helpful.

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    Do what makes you feel comfortable first. If the girl next to u is giving a blow job dont give a blow job too :-) no but seriously practice being sexy on a chair at home then try it at work. dont grind too hard or too much.

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    it's hard to figure out when you are new...you want to please the guy but sometimes they want more than you're willing to do, they can tell that you are wanting to make it good for them and that you are a little nervous or shy. don't let them push you into doing anything, you're just starting and if you have to turn someone down that is making you uncomfortable, do it! there will be plenty more to come along.
    i would just sell the dance, then when you get there, try to do what the others are doing. you'll be able to see them better once you're back there. try not to copy someone move-for-move, but try to get the basic movements by glancing at them and then just try to do the same but in your own way. just take your time and learn as you go, unless you want to get a lapdance video. i haven't seen any of those but i've heard they are good for learning basic moves. good luck!
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    Maybe you should try going to another club and buying a couple dances, telling the dancer that you are trying to learn how to give a lap dance.


    This thread also has a lot of ideas: http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=52805

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    Go to another club and buy some dances. It's one of those things you can't really learn by watching; you have to learn from experience. Get a couple of dances yourself, from a few different girls so you can see different techniques, and pay attention to what they do.

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    In the end, always ALWAYS remember it is a strip tease... learn the art of seduction! Find out what are the 'hot spots' on a guy (if you are allowed to touch him). Move very slowly as this is looked at as 'sexy' and 'seductive' dancing. Keep eye contact with the customer without staring him down.. do it in a sexy manner.

    Do not grind on a customer if you can help it. Lap dancing is NOT about grinding - it is about seduction.


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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl
    Do not grind on a customer if you can help it. Lap dancing is NOT about grinding - it is about seduction.
    I totally agree! Since my club is a very low contact BIKINI BAR, the rule is that you have to be 6 inches away from the customer's crotch and you are only allowed to touch his shoulder and knee areas...TECHNICALLY...but a lot of girls try to get away with taking their breasts out or grabbing places they shouldn't. It happens...but the guy who is more inclined to spend a lot of money, from my experience, is one who is respectful of women. So, I think the grind is pretty unnecessary most of the time.

    Start off always by looking him in the eye...eye contact is important and so is a smile. Even if he totally repulses you, pretend the best you can that you are enjoying yourself and are in some way, attracted to him. That is your job. You are selling a fantasy. You don't have to rub your breasts in his face the whole time or give him the total "dry hump" routine. It gets boring after a few songs anyway.

    Tricks I use are running my fingers through his hair, gently massaging his arms or legs, or even the back of his neck. Let your hair brush the side of his face and give a sexy sigh in his ear. Another one is to get on your knees and give him bedroom eyes while your face is level with his package. While you do this, you can run your nails up his calves. They moan every time I do this.

    The "knee nudge" is far sexier than an ass grind in a way because you can make it seem unintentional. This is when both of your legs are between his and you can lean into him a little and let your knees brush the crotch of his pants. Every movement should be subtle, especially during the first dance he buys. Always leave him wanting more.

    Learn the rules of your club directly from the manager, and just for good measure, ask the girls what is expected and what they can get away with. Eventually, you will find new ways to entertain a customer. Creative ideas will come to you as you get used to them.

    Good luck and happy dancing,
    Alexxa

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    This thread also has a lot of ideas: http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=52805[/QUOTE]

    i went to this thread and it does have a lot of tips!!! but one thing i want to know. how do u do that hand stand thing?! my club layout is like a restaurant booth for 2 minus the table in the middle.
    LOok at me!!! men who spend money... im as innocent as can be!!! until we get outside...

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