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    Angry My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    Last night I went to work at a club where I haven't danced in a while. I'm the same size I've always been 5'7 and 135lbs. He pulled me into a little room and said "I'm going to be nice. I'm going to hire you back but you need to lose weight and you have to work weekends, Friday, Saturday, and Sunday." I didn't know what to say, other than "Are you serious?" I ended up saying "ok" because I needed to work and this club was one of the only ones worth a shit in this city. I've been bummed out ever since. I don't know what to do, whether I should quit dancing all together or go to a lower quality club so that I don't feel so inadequate.

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    Just work and ignore it. If you're the same height and weight, it may be that you're a little less muscular since the last time you worked there, and a few days on the pole can fix that right up -- or it may be that the manager is just a stupid asshole, or blind as a bat, in which case the only way to deal is by working and ignoring his stupid shit. If they don't have weigh-ins, you can say "Yeah, I've lost five pounds" when he asks you.

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    ^^^ shes right. just worry about toneing up.
    You say psycho like it's a bad thing

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    oh my gosh! That is not good! I dont think you need to loose weight. You can become more tone. But weight lost i do not think that is healthy. I think two weeks of dancing will do the trick. They deciding what days you work. I don't know what to say about that, Do you think it will hurt to ask him why these days? Thats if you dont want to work them! I think the manger is mean. Maybe a good talk asking why do you he said certain things might help!
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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    Just ignore it. He's a sleazy guy who makes himself feel better by preying on the self esteem of strippers. If the customers still love you, you don't need to lose weight.



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    Jerk. I've dealt with managers who thought it was hilarious to feel your ass "Just to make sure you're not getting fat."

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    girl, f**k him! Make ur money and be happy. No matter what, the customers are the ones paying. Right!

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    (If you're white): get a tan and tell him you've lost 5 pounds.

    But overall, just ignore it- go in and make your money.

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    Quote Originally Posted by Lena
    Just ignore it. He's a sleazy guy who makes himself feel better by preying on the self esteem of strippers. If the customers still love you, you don't need to lose weight.
    I think so! For him to tell you this and then to tell you to work the usually busy nights is contradictory. He just sounds like an ass.

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    Omygosh that sucks so bad. I agree with everyone else. He can go f*** himself and you focus on making all the money you can
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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver
    (If you're white): get a tan and tell him you've lost 5 pounds.

    But overall, just ignore it- go in and make your money.

    Agreed. I got a tan and everyone was all "oh you lost soooo much weight". I only lost like five or seven pounds, but the tan makes a huge difference.

    Anyway, that guy's a dick. Ignore ignore ignore.

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    Those are the biggest money days, anyway. He's just going out of his way to be a prick; it makes him feel like more of a man. I actually feel sorry for people like that.

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    thats pretty dumb on his part.... any good manager knows that guys like girls in all shapes and sizes... i work at very upscale club where everyone is basically perfect... i am definitely not stickly but athletically built.. concentrate on toning up.... all i can say is your weight compared to your height is perfect... id have to see a pic to really tell.... shrug off the comment... you're fine.

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    I agree with getting a tan. I had a manager tell me the same thing and I was exactly the same size as I had always been. Turns out I was looking a little pale as well as wearing an outfit that wasn't flattering to my shape, so the illusion was that I had gained weight.

    I sold that outfit and got a tan and the manager was all about complimenting me on my weight loss .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena
    Just ignore it. He's a sleazy guy who makes himself feel better by preying on the self esteem of strippers.
    That is exactly what I was thinking.

    I wouldn't worry about it. At 5'7" your weight is just fine. Don't allow yourself to become one of those unhealthy toothpick type girls. It's not sexy in the least.

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    Yeah, hes an ass, you prob look great.

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    Misery loves company my dear! It probably made his night to see the hurt in your eyes as he said those things to you. Ignore him! Don't give him the satisfaction.







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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    I sold that outfit and got a tan and the manager was all about complimenting me on my weight loss .
    I second this line of thinking. Whenever feasible, it's so much better to outfox them using their own biases than to ignore them.

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    Default Re: My new manager told me to lose weight and I'm not even chubby.

    that happenned to me once. They allowed me to work the floor but not do stage work. (GAY) When my customers would ask why I didn't go on stage, I told them exactly why. A few of the customers gave the manager a peice of thier minds, because IM NOT FAT! It's ridiculous. Alot of men prefer curvier girls like I am. I left that club 3 weeks later. It wasn't worth my time to put up with thier bullshit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan
    that happenned to me once. They allowed me to work the floor but not do stage work.
    That is actually to your advantage. Why waste precious time dancing on stage when you could be selling dances. Time is money!!!!







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    WTF? 135 is thin for your height..... ugh. What a jerk.
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    ^^ Good Lord, please don't become of of those sickly skinny girls who look like they've been on a coke binge since the late 90s! Your weight sounds fine for your height but maybe some toning up and a tan would help. But please don't go too far. There are some girls at my club who are so skinny it is very uncomfortable to watch them. You just want to feed them a hot fudge sundae.
    The guy sounds like he needed a little power trip to boost his fragile ego.
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