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    i've been married for a lil over two years. my husband is a pretty controlling person but has been ok with the fact that i want to strip. has anyone had any experience with serious relationships and stripping either causeing problems or stripping making the relationship better?? i'm really nervous to start problems but he said he was ok with it and i want to run with that before he changes his mind. lol he's also never been in a strip club before and i don't want him to see it because i think he wont like the idea.

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    Just out of curiosity,how is he controlling???
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    This sounds like a touchy situation to me. I was stripping when i met my husband so i can't really comment. It sounds llike you guys should really talk this through before you jump into anything. IMHO

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    I started stripping after we had been married for 1 1/2 years or so. My hubby has never been in a strip club and I don't want him to b/c I think then he may have a problem. I also never tell him ALL that REALLY goes on there, if ya' know what I mean. I don't do any extras and such, but I do work in a club where grinding on the guy is expected, but I don't let my guy know all about it, nor do I tell him about the propositions I get or the things the guys may say.
    I think you should really really talk about it, about what is expected in the club and what you would feel alright with doing. Think about it: he may one day walk into the club and see you dancing for a guy-then what?
    If you do go for it, then I would reccomend setting some ground rules as well. An example I have is that my hubby does not come to the club when I am working without telling me first. If he has a problem, then we discuss it-don't keep it bottled up. But no screaming or yelling either.
    Also if you are sexually active dancing may affect your sex life. So take that into consideration as well.
    Best of luck!

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    i'm engaged but i met my partner in a strip club. i'm going back part time after two years off and he's ok with it, just a little nervous that i'll enjoy it 'too' much, he's ok with the idea that i'm there just to make the money i need for my surgery, if i said i missed dancing and wanted to be back in the clubs he'd be more worried. i do miss "dancing" but i definately DON'T miss hustling the men in there and he's cool with that. I'D be worried if i missed flirting with other men....
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    I was dancing before I met my hubby. Believe me we've had our troubles. But, that's because he's in the biz. ; and, he knows how scummy these men can be. But, for the most part it doesn't take a toll on our lives. Unless, I don't make money and I call him to bitch. He feels like kidnapping me and taking me home and showering me w/ money. (Run on sent. I know.) Gotta luv him! Make sure you're ready to take the plunge into this biz. Only the strong survive! Lots 'o luck!
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    Yeah, we'll definitely have to talk the whole thing through. To answer the first reply. He is controlling in the sense that I can't do much without him around or wanting to know what i'm doing. But when he was ok with me stripping i figured maybe he was trusting me a lil more. But I did tell him i wouldn't want him to see me and he was ok with that too

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    Just an observation,but I see him freaking out pretty badly after you start dancing.If you think he is being controlling now,you ain't seen nothin' yet.He might want you to start dancing and take the money from you.I've seen this a million times.Like I said,just an observation.

    Anytime a poster says they have a controlling man,I can't help but be concerned.
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    I found that the right man accepts what I do by knowing it's just a JOB. Thus why I married my husband

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    some guys like stripping some guys dont, some go as customers and like it but when their gf wants to dance they get upset, some dont mind at all, it may be a trial and error, but never let a guy get in the way of something you want to do, cause if he does he really does not love you at all!! plus the money is a bonus and causes less stress around the house BUT late nights and long hours can be causes of arguements, unless he works night shift of course!! follow your heart, maybe try pole lessons first to see if you just want to swing around a pole, or if your SERIOUS about doing dancing!! good luck
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    Im married to a stripper, I met her at a club so obviously she was dancing before I met her. I used to go visit her once a while at the club, but found that I haven't done that for about a year. She said it 'distracted' her and she wouldnt hustle for $'s and just hang with me. Because its a JOB she's there to make money and can spend time with me at home so I don't go anymore.

    We don't have a problem with her dancing as we both look at as a way for her to make more money in less days than she could doing anything else. We are both very trusting of each other.

    I'd be pretty leary of a guy who is 'controlling', no matter what might be said now, if you sense he's got some controlling issues now, it will only get MUCH worse if you start dancing and strange guys start putting money in your thong. I'd be pretty careful to start with.

    Take a job bartending at a SC and see what his raction is to that, that's a 'safer' first step than causing big probs.

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    Yeah, it sounds like your husband is a ticking time bomb anyway. If it's not dancing, it will be something else. Controlling, jealous, possessive guys usually turn out to be abusers; why would you want to be married to someone who doesn't trust you or respect you?

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    I was dating my husband before I started dancing then after two years or more of dancing we married. He is not a jealous guy but it ruined our marriage. I have no idea what changed between the time we were dating and the time we married but something did and it wasn't pretty. Be sure and carefull with your relationship.... they should last longer than your job. Good luck.

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    I had been with my boyfriend (now fiance) for a year before I started dancing. I've now been dancing for 6 months and have never had a problem. I was lucky though because my boyfriend digs it, he comes in to visit me - tips me, tells the other custies there how great I am (as a "regular") The customers just think he's my regular and usually tend to tip me and buy dances off of me. Works out great. Good luck to you sweetie!

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    I'm getting married in Sep. My fiance doesnt mind me stripping even after we're married.

    Most girls at our club are happily married & most our thick customers find this VERY hard to believe!

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