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    Today I went to Ulta and treated myself to some beauty products, and was tempted to get a Brazilian wax. However, whenever I make myself beautiful, I only get mad b/c my boyfriend won't take the effort to make himself appealing to me. He's overweight with a paunch that makes sex awkward (I have to suck in my stomach to accomodate his gut), it's like fucking a pregnant woman. I've asked him to please try to exercise more or eat better, but it always ends up with him getting defensive. He's finally stopped drinking so much soda because a recent Doctor's visit revealed high blood sugar. However, he's so busy that he eats on the run and doesn't like the "rabbit food" that I make. I don't care if he never has washboard abs, I simply want him to make a fucking effort.

    My feelings can be summed up in a Q & A to Dr. Ruth Westheimer:
    Q: My husband has gained a lot of weight over the course of our marriage. I am not as attracted to him as I used to be, although I still love him very much. Despite marriage counseling, I'm still having trouble getting past my issues with his physical appearance. Do you have any advice?

    A: Weight gain is a tricky issue because it's perceived as "voluntary." For example, many men lose the lovely locks they had when they were younger. While some women may not be attracted to their husbands' baldness -- they may have even avoided dating bald men -- they are now willing to overlook hair loss because they know it's no one's "fault." Weight gain, on the other hand, can cause resentment because it is considered a matter of choice. Weight gain also tends to go hand in hand with inactivity. Someone who has gained a great deal of weight just can't get around the way he or she once did. It may even affect the person's ability to make love. If you enjoy physical activity and he can no longer keep up, then you have another reason to resent this change.

    So, you see, it may not just be his actual appearance that is bothering you. You might be blaming him for his choices -- perhaps subconsciously. If your husband has simply given up on his weight, that may be a bigger factor than what he looks like. If you think this is the case, you should talk to him. Tell him it's not the actual weight that bothers you as much as his attitude. If he is willing to make more of an effort to control his weight, both by eating less and by getting more exercise, then you might be able to overlook those extra pounds -- even if he's never svelte again.
    I think that the relationship is going sour anyway after more than 2 years, but we're living together and I'm trying to make things work again. Things may get better because I quit my horrible, stressful job at a nursing home, but I fear that we're growing apart. Another problem is that I'm not interested in sex anymore, mainly because of the weight issue. I know that love is possible without sex, but he thinks that I just want to be platonic friends. I want to go out on more dates and try to rekindle what we once had. Any comments? Our lease expires at the end of May, so it's not long until we're both obligation free. I feel awkward about asking him to care about his looks because there are so many other things that I'm not holding up. For example, the apartment is a mess, I owe him back rent, and he's helped me out with a lot of things. I'm trying to make a quid pro quo on the issue of appearance by itself. For example, I once tried to encourage him to lose weight by offering to get Brazilian waxes again. It's sad that when I dress up, it's not for him, it's for everybody but him because I'm so mad about it.

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    was he always overweight?

    If so, it sounds like you might be growing tired of him and are looking for a reason to break up.

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    He's overweight because he wrecked his knee in a car accident and still overweight due to sedentary lifestyle and crap diet. He works and goes to school (I'm suspecting otherwise on the school part though), so it's not like he's useless. The weight thing has always been an issue, and I'm sick of always being the one to make efforts to arouse him. There are less options for men to drive their women crazy with, as I wouldn't get turned on by him in lingerie. A lot of options are exhausted by his bad knee and his weight. I've bought sexy lingerie and outfits, gotten Brazilian waxes, and do Kegal exercises to keep him happy. What the fuck am I going to get in return? I'm certainly not going to get great sex while I'm getting crushed by that gut. He's always offering to buy me lingerie and pay for my waxes, but what is HE going to do for ME? It took my a year to get him to regularly clean his ass so I wouldn't be gagging from the stench of poop or seeing skid marks on the sheets, but he still asked for me to wax my muff. He'd cry and get ashamed and apologize, but the situation didn't improve till I ordered him to go down me right after taking a shit, only wiping a little, and not showering that day to give him perspective.

    Another reason why I'm mad at his weight issue is b/c it reflects certain qualities, like laziness. He has severe body acne but doesn't bother applying his prescriptions, he smokes, eats high-fat foods and plays Warcraft rather than exercise. Maybe it is time to break up. A few times, he said that he would go on a diet and start exercising, but each time was short lived because he led me around with false promises.

    Dammit, this happens every time I treat myself to makeup, a haircut, or new clothes.

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    I think I'd have dumped his ass a long time ago. A person who shows so little concern for his appearance / health won't miraculously change. He's lazy and it clearly won't get any better.

    I remember your previous thread on this issue. It's obviously been bothering you for a long time and getting worse. Do what's right for you hun.

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    I would be annoyed too. I think it's perfectly reasonable to expect your man to make the effort to try to be sexually attractive for you.

    It's double annoying for us because we spend our lives making the effort for men (for profit, but whatever); besides that, I find that my overall level of attraction to a man goes hand in hand with his actions and the kind of effort he puts into the relationship.

    I don't know what kind of advice to give you...except maybe he just doesn't get that you're looking for a show of consideration; he probably thinks it's just a superficial looks thing. Maybe stress it to him- that you want him to show that he cares about making you happy in this particular way.

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    I'm still reeling over the part where you made him get right up in your poopy ass!

    Anyway, I'd tolerate the weight if everything else was perfect. But that's me. And everything would have to be P-E-R-F-E-C-T

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    To illustrate my case with him, I made a list of the efforts I make vs the ones he makes.

    Me:
    1) Wearing sexy lingerie and costumes.
    2) Removing unsightly hair on body and face, namely Brazilian waxes.
    3) Wearing high heels to accentuate my figure (he goes nuts when I wear heels).
    4) Doing Kegal exercises to further pleasure him.
    5) Watching my weight. I'm not supermodel slender or toned, but I'm still a size 2/3 and eat a pretty healthy diet.
    6) Maintaining a healthy, clear complexion with acne products and makeup. He loves my natural face, but loves it when I make the effort to look gorgeous.
    7) Styling my hair.
    Maintaining good personal hygeine, namely privates, by washing with soap and water and freshening up with moist wipes.
    9) USING THE NUVARING SO WE DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT CONDOMS, NEVER MIND THE FACT THAT I'VE BEEN BLEEDING FOR THE LAST 3 WEEKS SINCE I STARTED USING IT.
    10) Dressing to impress. He's taken me shopping a couple times and bought me outfits that he liked, but he doesn't own a single pair of slacks or a dress shirt.

    Him:
    1) Shaving and getting haircuts.
    2) Okay personal hygeine. Freshening up with moist wipes or even beter, soap and water, would be appreciated. Guys need to wash more often due to more hair and sweating more.
    3) Wearing condoms when I stopped taking the pill because of complications.


    I wouldn't care about the weight so much if it didn't interfere with sex or if it didn't reflect his lifestyle. Hehe Emily, referring to my booty as my "poopy ass" makes me feel soooo mature and dignified lol.

    Also, the double standard of women maintaining themselves for men drives me nuts. Since preteen years, we're taught to make ourselves attractive to boys in the forms of teen magazines, love letters, etc. Women are encouraged to buy age-reducing products and buy sexy lingerie to entice their men, and almost all efforts to spice up relationships are targeted at women. I expect both sides to contribute. My bf buying me lingerie is not a good substitute for contribution, it's a self-serving ulterior motif.

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    I am so sorry that you are going thru this! Have you talk to him about this! Is he depress? maybe if you talk to him about how bad he is letting himself go! dose he realize how much stuff you go thru just to please him! I know sometimes after an injury especially one with your knees. It is hard to stay in shape. I am pretty sure he feel bad that he looks 8 months pregnant. (just an expression I don't know how big his stomach is)
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    He won't change... I try to get my bf to try to look better too and he takes it as insulting... some people just don't care and nothing is going to change that.

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    I do not understand why people find it insulting, when they do not want to be with somebody who has a body like them!
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    I know that people don't change unless they want to (they might change how they react to things, but the core personality will always be the same). Still, he's surprised me. A blood test revealed a thyroid imbalance, which points to bipolar (not surprising, as it runs in his family and he sometimes gets really dark spells of depression). He went straight to a psychiatrist, checked with a second psychiatrist, and is currently on lithium. He also stopped drinking soda cold turkey and has not purchased any in the last month other than the occasional diet soda with a combo meal. He is depressed about how his weight went up when he lost his knee, but stopped caring and became indulgent b/c of his near-death experience.

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    Oh my, I know how thyroids promblems can affect a person weight. HE need to talk with his doctor about getting his life back, and other options that can help him loose weight effectively. When you have thyroid promblems, depending on the type over or under active. loosing weight can be a bit of a struggle. He lost his knee, he is going to need some motivations. It seems like he is in a rut! Maybe you and other family members can work out a plan to motivate him! But I will have a talk with him and the doctor and see what his choices are to loose that weight! Tell him sometimes things happen life that makes us want to give up, but that dose not mean we should! You should never give up! I want you to ask him Do you think I gave up on you? Tell him you are still here, but you can not help a person who dose not wanna be help? You can not wacth him do this to his body and not say anything about it! Tell him lets get help? Let's talk to a doctor and look at some option on loosing weight! I know you said he is bipolar , hang in there make sure he take his meds, I wish you the best. It sounds as if you really care for him a whole lot! I hope things get better for you!
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    Quote Originally Posted by leilanicandy
    I do not understand why people find it insulting, when they do not want to be with somebody who has a body like them!

    i totally agree....

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    Being thankful for being giving another chance at life doesn't give you the Wonka Golden Ticket to eat whatever you want. Just because he feels like he can be indulgent doesn't mean he can be a glutton. Indulgence can mean many things. Maybe he should indulge on a walk or a bike ride outside on a nice day. Indulge in a healthy lifestyle so you can live 50. I know that when I started dropping a lot of weight I felt like I was giving my self the best gift I ever could. Knowing that I was improving my chances of a longer natural life was so much more fulfilling than that piece of cheesecake and Mountain Dew I always craved.

    If it bothers you that much (and you sure as hell sound like you have more than enough reason to be tired of it) and you feel this strongly, it probably is time to bow out. People do make lifestyle changes, (myself, for example) but they usually come after a big huge epiphany. He's going to have to really wake up and choose to do it. You can't do it for him. Plus, I think he might take it a little better if it came from a male friend instead of his girlfriend.
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    Take it from a fat, balding, toothlessly slobbering PL like me--if he hasn't made his health and appearance a priority now, there's nothing to suggest that he will in the future. And yet, you're still buying into his self-pity and woe-is-me routine--he's guilting you into staying in a relationship that you know has fundamental problems regarding health and hygine and the attendant impact on physical attraction and sexual desire.

    And for the record, if I had a near-death experience, food wouldn't be my indulgence.
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    All your reasoning is quite valid to me and I agree with making an effort on his part of the relationship . My wife and I both work out and we dont even come close to what we were when in our 20's ( I would kill for that stomach ) but we don't look bad for our age. We are still very much attracted to one another we probably dont eat all the health foods we should but I try and compensate with workouts ( 6days a week mostly cardio ) .
    I think you should have a talk with him and explain all the same reasons you have just explained here . He will get mad but it must be said because now he is probably oblivious to any problems . You have put this much effort in the relationship for a reason . At least for yourself if you tell him your feelings and he doesn't respond its not on you and you will leave the relationship knowing you put fourth every effort possible . Hope I explained that correctly good luck to you .

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krazyjane
    Today I went to Ulta and treated myself to some beauty products, and was tempted to get a Brazilian wax. However, whenever I make myself beautiful, I only get mad b/c my boyfriend won't take the effort to make himself appealing to me. He's overweight with a paunch that makes sex awkward (I have to suck in my stomach to accomodate his gut), it's like fucking a pregnant woman. I've asked him to please try to exercise more or eat better, but it always ends up with him getting defensive. He's finally stopped drinking so much soda because a recent Doctor's visit revealed high blood sugar. However, he's so busy that he eats on the run and doesn't like the "rabbit food" that I make. I don't care if he never has washboard abs, I simply want him to make a fucking effort.

    My feelings can be summed up in a Q & A to Dr. Ruth Westheimer:


    I think that the relationship is going sour anyway after more than 2 years, but we're living together and I'm trying to make things work again. Things may get better because I quit my horrible, stressful job at a nursing home, but I fear that we're growing apart. Another problem is that I'm not interested in sex anymore, mainly because of the weight issue. I know that love is possible without sex, but he thinks that I just want to be platonic friends. I want to go out on more dates and try to rekindle what we once had. Any comments? Our lease expires at the end of May, so it's not long until we're both obligation free. I feel awkward about asking him to care about his looks because there are so many other things that I'm not holding up. For example, the apartment is a mess, I owe him back rent, and he's helped me out with a lot of things. I'm trying to make a quid pro quo on the issue of appearance by itself. For example, I once tried to encourage him to lose weight by offering to get Brazilian waxes again. It's sad that when I dress up, it's not for him, it's for everybody but him because I'm so mad about it.
    My personal policy is, no smoking, no kids, and you have to workout. The rest is negotiable. If I take the time to take care of myself, you should be willing to do the same. Turn to flab and your ass is out the door. I have trained too many people with serious disabilities to be swayed by excuses people can’t/wont workout and take decent care of themselves. BTW, his bad knees would be greatly helped by his losing weight, so there is a medical/practical reason for losing weight in his case. Many back and knee problems are greatly improved or cured by people losing a substantial amount of weight. Sounds to me like you deserve better….
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    if your man can't even clean his ass, wow. dump him, because you can easily find someone better and more mature. Or maybe that will give him the incentive he needs to get the bal rolling again.

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    KrazyJane.

    I SHAKE MY HEAD @ U.

    I know EXACTLY what you are going through. DSU had it dead on.

    His weight is not the issue. His lifestyle is. His weight is just the most visible result of what he thinks and how he feels.

    Sure there may be depression and whatnot, but it is NOT your job to defend his reasoning! You have been sticking by him for so long, you should at least see visible attempts to change his life. Have you seen him try?

    I was very very big, and so was my ex-wife. (note: we both gained 100+ lbs in the marriage.) This was prior to the divorce, but one day I realized that I just felt unhealthy and I started to be more active and I dropped over 100lbs in a YEAR! While I was doing this, her and I where having mucho problems (ask Rhiannon, back in the day she used to hear about it daily) but I would try to build our relationship around her and I working together to achieve similar goals. But she would never leave the couch and we would argue because I always want to go work out when law and order was on and whatnot, or whatever the excuse of the day was.

    Look, I ended up seeing changes, and she got worse, her indifference and lack of attention to "Us" and more into the excuses of why I was bettering myself and she was getting worse. Then it became the focus of her anger. But she would ALWAYS have excuses to why she wouldn't do simple things! I came home one day and she was sitting on the couch and eating a meatball sub letting the juice drip onto the carpet saying she would clean it later, when it hit me. She may love me, but she doesn't love me enough, and especially not the way I needed to be loved. The person I married was no longer there, just the depressed person that could only get off the couch to go to work. I ended the marriage and talked to tampadancer on the phone for about 4 hours about something completely different that evening (I will still never be able to thank C O, Rhia, and Tampadancer enough for the support they gave me through this) but, it needed to be done, and you know what, I realized I had been out of love with my wife for a very long time.

    Granted, Weight obviously wasn't the only issue, but in it was what you'd expect to happen to a person who stopped caring about themselves and lived a life of excuses and can nots. Sooner or later, they have to get off the couch. And what's worse? I was getting that way because it was depressing me.

    Hope this helps.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    Take it from a fat, balding, toothlessly slobbering PL like me--if he hasn't made his health and appearance a priority now, there's nothing to suggest that he will in the future. And yet, you're still buying into his self-pity and woe-is-me routine--he's guilting you into staying in a relationship that you know has fundamental problems regarding health and hygine and the attendant impact on physical attraction and sexual desire.

    And for the record, if I had a near-death experience, food wouldn't be my indulgence.
    Casual has an elegent way of simplifying the problem, but KrazyJane, one thing he said is sooooo important:

    he hasn't made his health and appearance a priority now, there's nothing to suggest that he will in the future

    He can NOT do this for you. He has to make this a priority for himself. His GUILTING YOU into doing things FOR HIM so that maybe he'll change FOR YOU.

    You can be an inspiration, god knows I had many of them, but he has to want it for himself.

    Again, much luck and hope!

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    The Doctor is IN

    Bipolar and low energy plus somewhat low respect for his lover? A lot of detailed issues, but basically I feel you have grown tired of putting up with him.

    BTW bipolar is a major psychiatric illness and to an extent it is hereditary. Do not marry this guy.
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    I see lots of hot guys at the gym, and many are married (much to my dismay), but I have to give them major credit. They are off the market and they still care about their apearance.

    I know it's possible!

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    this sort of double standard drives me nuts. don't we women have to put up with enough? i am not saying that your man is like this, but i know several lazy, unattractive guys who have ridiculous standards for women. one of them in particular i dated for a while, and is still actually a good friend of mine who i still love and respect but it took a while for me to accept him as him once i realized many guys were no different. i hestitate not in calling him on his shit though. i don't put up with him treating me or anyone in my presence with ignorance and disrespect.

    this guy seems to only be friends (and dates) with thin, attractive women and likes to be surrounded by them which sure, is okay, but he isn't really a looker himself, other than some sort of weird quirky charm. when we were dating he once started bothering me to shave my pussy so he could "go down on me easier." now,my standards for my own little lady are different now, but back then i was still clean and neatly trimmed at all times. HE on the other hand looked like a fucking jungle. seriously im talking willow tree. even despite my offers to trim it with blunt ended scissors FOR him to show him how nice it could look, he refused. (this is also despite the fact i would not be the least bit squeamish about it AND that he would probably recieve the best blow job in the world following). after i had enough of his "suggestions" i did shave my crotch for my own amusement but left something very offensive in a thin design in the hair. hah, he wouldnt talk to me for days afterward and i can't say that i was terribly disappointed. he gave lousy head anyway. ALSO these are guys who will in their heart claim they don't see sexual inequality in our society.

    sorry about the tangent but i wish you luck and i know that they are more attentive and respectful guys out there, especially for a smart, attractive and REASONABLE person out there who will appreciate everything you do for them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by red diving girl
    after i had enough of his "suggestions" i did shave my crotch for my own amusement but left something very offensive in a thin design in the hair. hah, he wouldnt talk to me for days afterward and i can't say that i was terribly disappointed. he gave lousy head anyway.
    what was the design? you gotta tell, you tease

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    Default Re: BF's weight makes me mad

    So he pays the rent, lends you money, takes care of you in other ways, and you work out and make yourself attractive for him. He doesn't care about being attractive for you, and you don't keep up with the housework.

    Basically, you don't like him. He's not doing anything awful, it's not "wrong" of him to not lose weight. But like somebody else said, the weight thing is a physical manifestation of your incompatability. So quit agonizing over whether the weight thing is a good reason, and just dump him because you don't like him/aren't compatable anymore.

    Lena



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