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    Default How often do you get asked out?

    and when you do, how do you answer in order to get him to quit asking/bothering you & not hinder him from spending more money on you?


    I have a problem with this & I'm sure most of you girls do too, lately I have been trying the "I only like girls" line to get them to leave me alone.

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    I tried the " I'm gay" line, and one guy offered to " change my point of view" LOL so to speak. I simply tell the guy I'm married, and I wear my grandmother's wedding ring on one hand, and another diamond ring on the other...so far, only one man has given me his e mail address on his card which he left folded in the twenty he gave me.

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    Too much and it's usually by motards that have yet to spend a dime. I remind them that if they don't spend in my club, why would I give them a chance to take me out in the real world.

    Dumb.

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    I get it at least once almost every night I work (that or an escort/"private party" solicitation ). It seems like there is no good response that works for everyone.
    Saying you like girls just makes them imagine you with your girlfriend inviting him along. I've tried "I don't date customers and it is to bad we didn't meet in other circumstances" but that seems to backfire the most.

    I've found the boyfriend thing works to some degree. Even the most persistent guy who claims he can treat me better etc. still has that sense that you are allusive and unobtainable. (And perhaps he should spend more money to impress you?)

    And sometimes I'll just take their phone number to shut them up.

    There are some good hustlers at my club who are really good at defering dates and getting guys to keep coming in but of course only for so long. My biggest confusion is the guys you just know have asked several dancers out and have gotten rejection after rejection after rejection, but still keep trying like its really going to happen.

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    unusually, i only seem to get it when i'm really cutting to a customer! i once spent 30 minutes making fun of this guy in front of his friends (he was wasting my time and kept making stupid comments) and after it all, even though he wasn't going to book me (which is fair, i thought - who would want to when i'd just acted like that) but THEN he proceeded to ask me if i'd go to dinner with him. to which i just replied only if it's a paid booking.

    he got the message that i was there to work. and yes, like crow said, if you're not going to spend in the club, how do i know you're not gonna be a stingy cad outside?
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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    i think every woman that works the same job as we do gets asked out at least 3 times a day especially at work

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    I'm not very nice. I'll say, "Oh, I don't think my husband would like that," or if they ask me if I'd like to hang out I'll say, "Oh, gosh, I do that sort of thing with my friends." Unless it's a really nice and otherwise well-meaning guy and not the normal drunk who hits on you. The nice guys I let down more gently.

    Guys who ask you out are shitty customers; you might get a tiny bit of money from them from leading them on but not much, and they are freaking annoying, especially if they have no clue as to whether you might actually like them or not.

    But you know, they wouldn't keep asking if they didn't get lucky some of the time, I guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan Wayward
    I'm not very nice. I'll say, "Oh, I don't think my husband would like that," or if they ask me if I'd like to hang out I'll say, "Oh, gosh, I do that sort of thing with my friends." Unless it's a really nice and otherwise well-meaning guy and not the normal drunk who hits on you. The nice guys I let down more gently.

    so even after you mention the fact that you're married/attached they still want to spend money? Even though they know they aren't going to get a chance to go out with us I think they'd be turned off after hearing that.

    Guys who ask you out are shitty customers; you might get a tiny bit of money from them from leading them on but not much, and they are freaking annoying, especially if they have no clue as to whether you might actually like them or not.

    But you know, they wouldn't keep asking if they didn't get lucky some of the time, I guess.
    Yeah you'd think so but that is not always the case. For example one guy I had just met the first time the other night immediately started to tell me how he wanted to take me home so I just told him I was only into girls & he was like "oh that's cool, as long as you let me watch." WTF?! Dude are you that retarded? I guess I need to be more mean. lol

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    i get asked every night, on a regular basis. So do alot of the other girls in my club. It seems, maybe 70% of custys on any given night are asking us out. It depends on the location of the club.
    Our club is across the street from hotels and condos. In fact, theres nothing but hotels, motels and condos here. ..theres alot of bored guys who come over here trying to get us to go out with them. I mean, its bad. Theres some guys who ask if they can rent and take us up to thier hotel room. After 4 years of being asked out on a nightly basis..

    I either laugh at em, tell em to get the yellow pages and look up "escort"
    Or tell them that im "romantically involved" which is totally ambigouous but it works great.
    Or, if they try to ask if i do extras... I tell em theyd have a better chance in a regular bar getting laid....eh at least its a suggestion for them.

    During spring break, when there was alot of college kids.. one guy literally begged me to go with him after work. I swear, he was beggin. I told him no, and I went to sit with another custy, and what do you know. He walks up to me, while im sitting with another customer, and gives me his number on a napkin.. HAHA I crumpled it and made a freethow in the trash when he left.

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    Almost every customer I speak to on any given night asks for my number. Sometimes even custys that I don't bother to speak to. I've tried every, single line you can think of. Now, if the guy is annoyingly persistent, I look him dead in the eye, straight-faced, and say a firm no. Don't smile at him while saying no and don't smile after. They always get the hint after that.

    I hate the guys who are like, "Oh, I'm just here to have a good time. I don't want to spend money on you in this place. I want to spend money on you outside... you know... show you the better side of life."

    Oh please, do you have any idea how I grew up? My bad days are your better side of life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greggy
    Oh please, do you have any idea how I grew up? My bad days are your better side of life.
    Hah! I love it. "Thanks, Mr. Knight in Shining Armor, but I think I'd be the one rescuing you."

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    At least 3 times a night...
    i've got a few lines -
    "Oh you wouldn't like me outside of the club, the light in here is very flattering!" said in the right way custies realise that is a polite 'no'
    "We don't exist outside of here - the boss locks us up in a box each night and gets us out for our next shift"
    "I'm a figment of your imagination - if you go home and sleep well you'll see me in your dreams"
    "My boss wouldn't like that, i'd get the sack... in fact if i spend any more time talkin instead of dancing i'm for it!"
    "My boyfriend wouldn't like that"

    Just be firm and confident but keep smiling when you say it and they come back for more cuz they realise that's the only way they get to see you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sinn
    During spring break, when there was alot of college kids.. one guy literally begged me to go with him after work. I swear, he was beggin. I told him no, and I went to sit with another custy, and what do you know. He walks up to me, while im sitting with another customer, and gives me his number on a napkin.. HAHA I crumpled it and made a freethow in the trash when he left.

    Once a guy tipped me (onstage) his number on a napkin! When I realized it wasn't a dollar I took it out of my gstring and threw it off the stage.

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    Beware the "I only like girls" line...they love that and will usually try harder.

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    I once saw a customer going around the club to all all the dancers asking, "Wanna go out?" "Wanna go out?" "Wanna go out?" -- sort of like a parody of the girls who ask, "Wanna dance?"

    When he got to me, I told him, "Maybe later."

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    Like most dancers I know I get asked out several time every shift and yes it is very annoying.

    How do I handle it. I tell them that I don't date customers. If the persist I walk away from them. Have I lost a customers here and there doing this, sure. But I'd rather lose them right away then deal with their pressure for dates and sex while trying to keep them spending.

    There are just too many customers out there who don't pull that crap to bother with the ones that do.

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    the guys who want to "take me out and show me the better side of life" or whatever are always the cheap asses who won't spend money in the club at all. They try to "pull me over" all the time and take up my time, so they can talk on their cell phone the entire time to g-thug no. 2, and in between tell me how wonderful it is to date them. Generally I say that I have someone waiting for me and that I'll check back later. I stay busy and then later in the night they either buy a dance to get my time or realize I'm working and leave me alone (and pray on some other poor girl)


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    I once saw a customer going around the club to all all the dancers asking, "Wanna go out?" "Wanna go out?" "Wanna go out?" -- sort of like a parody of the girls who ask, "Wanna dance?"

    When he got to me, I told him, "Maybe later."
    that's hilarious.

    Unfortunately I'm one of those girls who says no, but gives them that glimmer of hope. I know it's bad and will cause me some grief - but DAMN if they don't start coming in and spending money all the time. It's so hard to resist. But I think Spartaca had some awesome lines - I'll be using those.

    "Oh you wouldn't like me outside of the club, the light in here is very flattering!" said in the right way custies realise that is a polite 'no'
    "We don't exist outside of here - the boss locks us up in a box each night and gets us out for our next shift"
    "I'm a figment of your imagination - if you go home and sleep well you'll see me in your dreams"
    "My boss wouldn't like that, i'd get the sack... in fact if i spend any more time talkin instead of dancing i'm for it!"
    "My boyfriend wouldn't like that"
    And to answer the question: All the time, by all kinds.

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    I don`t remember what thread it was from but someone else on this site suggested something along the lines of "I don`t go to the zoo and try to take home the cute polar bear so you shouldn`t come to the club and try to take home the dancers."

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    very often, at least every other shift. i think it's the same for all the girls though.

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    And to answer the question: All the time, by all kinds.[/QUOTE]

    Holiday!

    You should be getting close! I hope you are doing well, and best wishes!

    IME, it takes about 3-4 months b-4 they bring up the idea! 3-4 months of being a regular customer who understands that we are at her place of business, and strives to treat her like I would like to be treated. I make a point of never knowing a lady's real name except when she has given it to me, and never coming on to her in any way; that means being a gentleman inspite of having had a Martini (or three!).

    A tip 'o the hat to my girl-friends (not girlfriends)! My life is better for knowing ya!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SabrinaSweet
    There are just too many customers out there who don't pull that crap to bother with the ones that do.
    Exactly.

    To answer the question in the title of this thread: Do you mean how many times per hour or how many times per shift? heh

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    Default Re: How often do you get asked out?

    Didn't I read a post in a previous thread in which the dancer's response was, "You'll have to book it with my pimp" and she pointed to the bouncer.

    Then there's the response Lynn Snowden gave in her book, Nine Lives: From Stripper to School Teacher. Whenever a customer asked her to leave the club with him, she'd say in a slightly hurt voice, "What do you think I am, a prostitute?" But she once had a French customer respond, "No, no, my cherie. Not for money. For amore."

    -Ev

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    Are you talking about per shift/hour?? It really varies. I have my young guys just wanting my number to "hang out" and older men who "just want to give me something better than all this" gag...







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    AAAAARGH! All the time, it drives me nuts!. Even with a good explaination (if I'm not working, I'd rather be home with my children, blah blah) they just don't get it. I always say no. I hate the freaks who then follow you about trying to justify why you should go out with them. Yuck.
    I just had a really good regular hassle me to do the darting thing, sigh, I just knew that was the end of a good thing, and sure enough he hasn't even said hello to me since I said no.
    I don't string them along anymore, they don't spend, and just cause hassle.

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