Hi girls, I have a question about my first real regular. I'm still pretty new to dancing, (since October) and about a month or two after I started, I was just sitting at the bar, smoking a cigarette, and started chatting up a Middle-Eastern guy that was sitting there. He ended up getting a VIP, and I danced the whole time (I think it was 15 min) and he just kind of watched and looked rather uncomfortable. I figured maybe I wasn't what he expected, but he said he would be back. The next time he came in, he got another VIP and discovered that I could sit and talk with him on the couch. He still apologizes profusely for making me dance the first time. So we just sat and talked about his family back home, he's from Iran and has lived here for I think 5 years. He doesn't have a lot of friends or a girlfriend, he's not a bad-looking guy, but he's kind of shy and apparently a very hard worker, owns a successful business, so he doesn't really get out much. He asked to take me to dinner and I told him that I did not date guys that I met at the club, no offense to him, just a personal rule of mine. Truth is, I have a boyfriend that I have been with for almost two years now. I also told my customer that I had a female roommate.
Well, basically, he started coming to see me every Wednesday, and eventually stopped getting VIP's because he was like "why should I give them $25 of your money?" so we just sit at the bar and talk and throughout the time we sit there he gives me 20's for my time. He calls me his love, his best friend, his angel, he really looks forward to our time on Wednesdays. And all we talk about is movies, his family, my future plans for school, etc. He's given me perfume, a gold bracelet, I told him I was learning to play guitar and he bought me two books about guitars. He's a really nice guy, and appreciates the fact that when he comes to see me, I am at work.
I guess my question is about my own conscience. The past three weeks or so have been kind of hellish, I had to miss a lot of work, and it was like, I couldn't really give a definite answer as to when I would be back. Well he became extremely worried, was coming to the club almost every day, asking my manager if I was okay, had they heard from me, was there anything he could do. So I saw him last night after about a week and a half and he said he wanted to help me out and make sure I wasn't stressing about missing work, and he gave me $1000!!!! I mean, just for perspective a great night at this club is 3-400. When he puts money in my garter I don't even look at it, I just look at him and thank him. Well last night I went upstairs to "freshen up" and I was arranging the money he had given me and I just stood in the dressing room like "HOLY SHIT". I went back downstairs and thanked him numerous times. He says he doesn't expect anything from me, and has not even posed the question of us going out since he did the first time, but I guess I just wonder if he thinks that eventually if he keeps coming to see me, keeps giving me this money, that I'll see that he's not a freak and I'll go out with him. Do I tell him I have a boyfriend? I asked another dancer about this and she said no, your personal life is none of his business, he is the one making the choice to give you that money, you're not asking for it or giving false promises. What do you girls think?
*Sorry so long, but I thought the details were necessary![]()



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