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    How are you perceived by family and friends? it will be interesting to know..

    Most of my female friends are exotic dancers too .. however, I have noticed that girls my age (20-25), mainly black or mixed race girls who do not dance find it harder to accept our occupation! They continously look down on us as if we are filth.. we get called names such as hooker, prostitute.. slut...whore... this can be quite upsettiing at times but The fat wedge in my purse most nights normally take my mind off shallow opinions..

    I was just wondering if anyone round about that age (20-25) has or is experiencing the same thing..with girls u went to school or college with for example...?

    What do your family think.....?
    I have not told my dad exactly what it is I do and I am nearly three years in .. Is anyone in this same position?

    Am I the only one who is proud to be an exotic dancer?
    I owe my success to having listened respectfully to the very best advice, and then going away and doing the total opposite

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    For me, there are two sides to the coin.

    Like you, I'm kinda proud to be a dancer! :-) Because now that I dance, I make a good salary, am financially independent/able to support myself, and work in a job that basically says "I'm hot & attractive" because if I wasn't, I wouldn't be working at one of the top 3 clubs in my city! Most of my friends know that I dance. When I first started dancing, I told my close friends; they knew I was in the worst possible financial situation, so they were happy for me because they saw it as an opportunity for me to dig myself out of the hardship I was in, and they saw me become a more responsible person as a result of dancing. I also told a lot of my friends who knew people that mocked me for being penniless, back when I was poor. In a way, this was outta spite, because I was annoyed at people for backstabbing me when I was poor and I wanted to show them what I've become, financially speaking. What happened was, a lot of these guys formed a better opinion of me because they saw that I have my own place now and things worth money, i.e. a new car, nice furniture, college degree, etc(shallow, I know). I tell a lot of guys that I meet, honestly because most guys find it cool/sexy and I know that telling them I'm a stripper makes sex a lot easier to obtain!!

    I also like to mention that I'm a dancer to the people who run my credit. People such as potential landlords, car dealers, salesmen, etc. I do this because it's a clear indication that I have more than enough money, so they are more willing to work with me. There were situations when I did not have enough established credit, so it was difficult for me to obtain an apartment lease or line of credit...but once I told them I was a dancer, they were a lot more willing to work with me. For example, my most recent apartment that I moved into...the landlord didn't even require me to show proof of income or paystubs after I told her I was a dancer...she knew many tenants to be dancers & housemoms, so she knew all about what a good money flow us dancers have, and she assumed me to be financially capable right then-and-there!

    It seems that in this day and age, stripping is not as taboo as it once was. Especially with the way sexuality is glorified in the media, on MTV music videos, slutty clothing styles, increased sexual activity in younger teens, etc. And with the way American society praises money & wealth, I've found that I was criticized/scorned more when I was penniless & working a minimum-wage retail job, than now that I am a dancer with my own apartment & collateral. Maybe dancing is the lesser of the two evils?

    But then there's the people I do not tell. For starters, my family. I was raised with rather strict, old-fashioned morals. My dad and siblings still do not know I dance, and if they found out, I would be mortified!! Along with my family, none of my relatives, friends of relatives, or anyone remotely associated with my family knows. There's also the group of kids I grew up with, such as high school classmates or distant friends from my hometown...I don't tell them, because I wouldn't want them to misjudge me. I wouldn't want them being all like "why are you a stripper when you have a college degree?" simply because it would be humiliating for me to tell them that I got into dancing because I couldn't find a job in my field. So yeah, it's a double-sided coin.

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    I totally feel you on the family side of things.. ive never known how to tell my dad, hes an italian man with very strong morals and I think he would disown me if he found out, he thinks i work behind the bar.. if only he knew aye!
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    My parents know. It's kind of like a don't ask, don't tell situation.

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    Most of my friends know I dance and they don't think any differently of me. I'm on a break right now and nobody has tried to discourage me from going back to it.

    My parents are a different story. They don't know and I'd rather they didn't find out.
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    This topic has been discussed so many times...

    Friends know, friends are fine with it. Hell even my man knows(I would hope so we live together) and hes okay with it.

    Family...my mom knows.. she thinks its cool.... shes European french though so shes bound to be nutty My dad on the other hand... Italian... with 'mafia' connections(hes a teamster) I think I would rather he not know. Thank god my parents hate eachother so I dont have to worry bout mom telling him

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    They treat me like....a person.....kthnx
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    its not what i do its the person i am .. they treat me like i treat them

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