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    Okay. Deep breath. I'm embarrassed about sharing this, but it's something that's been on my mind, and here's a thread addressing it, so here goes - I need the experts' advice on this.

    It was finally my first night (hooray) a few days ago, and I go in again in a couple more days. Monday night I gave a total of four dances: three private/lap, and one VIP room (woohoo!), which in our club is 15 minutes. To my utter surprise, I did find myself getting turned on. And it had NOTHING to do with being attracted to the guys or not. Really. One of the guys was cute, but totally not my type at all. I'm talking 'turned on' purely on a physiological level; in other words, I was getting a little wet. (Again, this is really embarrassing, but I need to be honest here.)

    I was really perplexed by this, and I hope it doesn't always happen! Sheesh. A lot of your classic strip club frustrations came up that night, like drunken louts who can't figure out the credit card/funny money exchange yet keep insisting on a dance, etc., but this was totally unexpected and really, really threw me. After thinking about it for three days now, I came up with a combination of two factors that could be causing it. One, the movement we're doing is, frankly, sexual movement, even if you're not grinding (which I wasn't, really), so maybe my body was responding to this movement in almost a behavioral conditioning way. The only other time my body has moved in a similar way was in sexual situations, and so it triggered a similar physical reaction? My body was responding to my body, if you know what I mean.

    I suppose the second part of the puzzle could simply be power. Supposed to ge the "greatest aphrodesiac", right? I'd never held that kind of RAW power before - I mean, maybe in personal relationships, but nothing like this. You all know what I'm talking about. It was really something, the few times I sort of stepped outside myself and observed what was going on - Wow, this guy is rock hard, basically just from looking at me! I don't mean to suggest that this is a major ego trip, but it's all new to me, and I can't help taking note . . .

    Anyway. Help! This really has to stop, first because it's just kind of gross, isn't it? Our club doesn't require hard contact, but it is nude, and I certainly don't want to be touching a strange guy even lightly if that is happening! I also need to have stronger boundaries than this if I'm going to make it in this biz. Any advice or similar experiences here? The majority of posters on this thread so far have said that it either never ever happens or that it's a rarity. Again, I want to emphasize that this has absolutely nothing to do with finding the guy attractive. Anyone else had my problem?
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    i have definitely been turned on a couple times. ..but not usually becuz i liked the guy. it was becuz i was already turned on and hadn't had sex for awhile. yes i have been wet. no lie. yes ! i know its just a job,but i've been dissapointed that not many cute guys came in. the type of guys i think are cute never came in. but i haven't danced at alot of clubs yet.

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    I can turn myself on but that's just becasue I'm in love with me
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    Default Re: Do you ever get turned on by lap dancing

    I'll admit to sometimes getting turned on while I am giving a guy a lapdance and catch my reflection in one of the mirrors... it all depends on whether or not the custy is hot and if I'm in that mood.

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    Oh yeah, I used to all the time. BTW, this is the same stock respones I've given the previous 1,693 times this has been asked.

    Of course, I'm lying.
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    Default Re: Do you ever get turned on by lap dancing

    so what turns yo uon ,the savage groping guy or the guy with the light touch?

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    Default Re: Do you ever get turned on by lap dancing

    a decent proportion of my dancing time (probably 80 percent or so), the mere act of performing a dance for a guy often gave me an orgasm or close to it, whether it was a no-contact or contact dance. of course, i also am prone to things like orgasming on stage, so one can't say i am remotely representative of all dancers.

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    Default Re: Do you ever get turned on by lap dancing

    Hi, just wondering if you have ever had to call on one of the bouncers, due to an unruly customer. If so how was the situation dealt with?

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    I've not yet had to alert a bouncer for anything, so I can't speak to that question (yet), sorry!

    Well, I'm glad to hear that even if I'm in the minority, I'm not alone. I also suspect that this surprising reaction of mine (let me be totally clear - I wasn't close to orgasm, just a little aroused, with a bit of the standard physiological manifestation of arousal for women) will diminish with experience. I will focus on mentally detaching myself, somehow, from the movement I'm doing in the meantime.

    To the person who asked about whether it was gropers or "light touch"ers that turned us on - well, based on my limited experience, it was clear right away that it's the well-behaved lads that make it easier to get into what you're doing and enjoy it. The ONE mildly grabby guy I had - I wasn't aroused at ALL. (Hey! Maybe that's the key! I'll make sure every dance is a wrestling match & therefore totally unsensual for me! )
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    er, why? if it pleases your body to dance for the customers, why not retain that enjoyment? it can even be used as a selling point if one wishes. i'd personally rather feel some seconds of pleasure dancing mainly for guys who are cool than forcing myself to not have my own fun out of some sense that it's wrong to enjoy one's work. it's sensual entertainment and if one derives some sensual pleasure, well heck, it's that much longer before you start loathing the customers for just existing, maybe.

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    Girl don't worry about it. All that will go away over time and if it doesn't I would use it to my advantage and like moan and stuff and make the guy feel like he's so amazing and then get him for some more money! But your absolutly right WE do have all the power in a lap dance and It is a wonderful feeling

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    Over the years I've known several dancers to get genuinely aroused during PD's. Interestingly enough they've been dancers I've come to know well, and who have come to trust me to be well behaved and stay well inside their personal limits.

    I've also been aware that the arousal has been for their own personal motives, and not because they're dancing for me. In other words, (if this makes sense), the fantasy they've followed has been their own; hasn't directly involved me, and I've merely been the vehicle for their enjoyment.

    (Bit of role reversal here - which rather tickles my sense of humour).

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    Im too focused on how my legs hurt and how i wish the man would quit moaning and whats going on downstairs and stuff to think about gettin turned on. the only time i get turned on at work is when i think about comin home,takin a shower,and wakin up my man.....u know the rest. lol but yea, its all just work to me, and who wants to work? lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella
    er, why? if it pleases your body to dance for the customers, why not retain that enjoyment? it can even be used as a selling point if one wishes. i'd personally rather feel some seconds of pleasure dancing mainly for guys who are cool than forcing myself to not have my own fun out of some sense that it's wrong to enjoy one's work. it's sensual entertainment and if one derives some sensual pleasure, well heck, it's that much longer before you start loathing the customers for just existing, maybe.
    I like how you think.

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    hahah yah I do too sometimes even if the custy isn't that hot....but I agree with the other girl I think its more from the moves I am doing and not so much who I am doing it to

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    Hahaha...I haven't done a lap dance yet...all table b/c of laws, but heck, if you get off to it, great....more money for you i'm sure.
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    Default Re: Do you ever get turned on by lap dancing

    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman
    Yes.


    Yes, I do.

    Hahaha!

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    I like your response. It makes me think alot about what my focuse should be as well. I just wish I had that man to come home too but eventually I'll find one. I do as well think about the money that could potentially be downstairs!!

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    HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!

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    I just had my first official lapdance ever (had mini-nude-laps before), with a beautiful black dancer, and as we kept going, I could smell her getting aroused (as well as early on she was just bouncing on me, and the last song we were fucking through my pants (she was nude). My clothes still smell of her sex, which is incredible. (I wish someone could bottle that smell) All I can say is, the experience obviously wasn't as good as good Real Sex, but I feel more satisfied and more "laid" than I have in most of my relationships. I think I'm going to have more private dances in the future. I take it they're not all as good as I had tonight?

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    ^^^ Haaa... no! But I'm glad you got a good one.

    I get most turned on when they can't touch me at all but they really want to. I love the tease. When it's a nice, respectful guy who keeps his hands on the seat and his breath speeds up and he keeps telling me how beautiful and sexy I am... THAT gets me hot. I love it when he'd do anything to touch me but won't do it without my permission!

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    Perhaps she gave me a special one because I told her it was my first, although I doubt that would in any way make her aroused. The last time I was in this same club one of the veteran dancers was drunk on her birthday and was obviously so into it with this one guy she completely ignored other people's money and just kept going and going and was obviously getting off on it (the guy only gave her a $1 tip). It was a little weird, but hey, that guy got his money's worth, and it wasn't even a private dance.

    I've been to stripclubs 15-20 times in my life and have always been asked about private dances, but I figured they were just expensive rip-offs, and I'd rather spend my money spread out on many different dancers. A friend said, "Why don't you try one next time? They can be pretty nice. You've seen pretty much everything you're ever going to get from the edge of the stage". All I can say is, he was right (even if many private dances probably are, in fact, just expensive versions of the stage show)

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    Some will let It happen because they get turned on by the dance and the physical closeness alone and some have their own fantasies going on. And some will let it happen because they are drunk and the ones that aare the most fun turn-on and/or cum because it is fun for them and they like whom they are with. Everytime it has happened to one of my dances, it involved a lot of hard grinding. In some cases we have talked very explicitly about sexual activities, and sometimes hardly a work need to be spoken, we just knew this was goingto be a good time for her. But since grinding was allowed by the clubs and the dance cubicles were video monitored, neither of us could get in trouble. Finally for most dancers, we had several good conversations in the club before this occurred. Seems to me that it can be fun and profitable for all involved; we just don't tell the other dancers. Telltale -soft intense moaning, a little perspiration, strenuous slower movements, a beautiful smile and a nice hug afterwards. Priceless! I just love it.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    I get most turned on when they can't touch me at all but they really want to. I love the tease. When it's a nice, respectful guy who keeps his hands on the seat and his breath speeds up and he keeps telling me how beautiful and sexy I am... THAT gets me hot. I love it when he'd do anything to touch me but won't do it without my permission!
    That's EXACTLY right. I have yet to get turned on by a wrestling match, but the above scenario is right ON. The times they have to take a deep breath, close their eyes for a second and mumble something like "Oh man, oh my God" . . . Yeah.

    Off topic: Yekhefah, I just have to say that I LOVE your little kitty avatar! Been wanting to tell you that in an appropriate forum, but haven't encountered one yet . . . makes me giggle every time.
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    You know, we tend to talk on this forum as if there is a "typical" dancer and a "typical" customer. In reality we are all individuals, with our own very distinctive likes and dislikes.

    You wouldn't be dancers if, (apart from the finiacial motivation), you didn't get a degree of pleasure from showing off your bodies, and I wouldn't be a customer if, (despite knowing something of the realities of a dancer's mindset), I didn't get a degree of pleasure out of looking.

    Every now and then I think you can get a dancer and a customer who enjoy each other's reactions. The dancer likes the knowledge that her customer is getting pleasure out of studying her body, and the customer likes the knowledge that the dancer is enjoying showing off her curves.

    It doesn't even require that dancer and customer are attracted to each other - it just needs both parties to like how the other is reacting.

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