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    Have you ever walked up to a guy and asked him if he wanted a lapdance and he told you "no" because he was married or had a girlfriend? I think I know the answer to this question, but I'm curious nevertheless! I personally, if I was in a relationship that I valued I would not go that far. I mean sitting there looking is one thing, but having payed a girl to get up on me would always be in the back of my head and I would feel bad about having done it later. I'm totally serious.

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    I wouldn't even come to the strip club at all then. If I came with friends I'd make sure I tipped well and paid the girls for the time they spent talking to me.

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    Fully body contact is not the same as sitting there and watching beautiful women strip.

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    I've never had a guy say no for that reason. I've had guys say no that didn't give reasons, so maybe they didn't want to say? I think that probably about half (or more) of the guys that come into strip clubs are married or have girlfriends, and many of them get lap dances.
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    If you're watching, then at least make sure you're tipping generously. We don't like working for free.

    When I was married, my husband would go to the club with his friends occasionally and I loved it when he got a couple of dances. He'd come home with a raging hard-on and *I* was the one that got satisfied, not the dancer. Worked out well for me.

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    it happens all the time.. if you value your relationship that much as to go into a club and say that then what on eatrh are you doing there in the first place.. i normally respond saying relly me too anit that funny .. its really no excuse in my eyes what you can sit there and look but no pay because you are attached please!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Downey_Guy
    Have you ever walked up to a guy and asked him if he wanted a lapdance and he told you "no" because he was married or had a girlfriend? I think I know the answer to this question, but I'm curious nevertheless! I personally, if I was in a relationship that I valued I would not go that far. I mean sitting there looking is one thing, but having payed a girl to get up on me would always be in the back of my head and I would feel bad about having done it later. I'm totally serious.
    IMO, you shouldn't even go to a stripclub if you're going to feel guilty about getting a lapdance.

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    I personally, if I was in a relationship that I valued I would not go that far. I mean sitting there looking is one thing, but having payed a girl to get up on me would always be in the back of my head and I would feel bad about having done it later. I'm totally serious.
    As noted above, why bother going to the strip club then?
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    Yes, I hear that one more often than I care to remember. It also seems to come from the guys who are most likely to ask me if I do private dances. some people are so two faced.
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    Ok, I've heard this before, and its no big deal. Some guys go to the clubs by pressure from their friends. As long as the patron is upfront and respectful, it shouldn't be an issue. Look at this as a retail outlet, not everyone is going to buy.

    If they use that as an excuse and its convincing, I "thank them" for honesty. That tends to lead to a couple of dances, don't ask me why, but it worked out for my bottom line...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    If they use that as an excuse and its convincing, I "thank them" for honesty. That tends to lead to a couple of dances, don't ask me why, but it worked out for my bottom line...
    Even if the guy was dragged into the club by his friends he's going to have a natural curiosity about what a LD from a beautiful stranger would be like after he observes for a while. He could probably spend all night saying no to "wanna dance" girls but a low pressure approach from polite beautiful woman is going to make him feel like it's OK to go for it....and dammit we know it's way more than OK
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    Ah fuck them then. At least they informed me so they don't waste my time
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    Quote Originally Posted by Downey_Guy
    Fully body contact is not the same as sitting there and watching beautiful women strip.
    So dont get a lapdance. I suppose one could ask for an "air dance." but at the same rate. But tip generously and/opr do get something, dollars for time or a table dance.

    If that's too much just get a sexy DVD and stay home.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Monolith
    Ah fuck them then. At least they informed me so they don't waste my time
    Yep... I still think it's annoying as well as silly to come in at all, but as long as you DO tip for the time you spent in the club; and I mean on the dancers you so obviously were admiring on stage, then it's your game.
    Please don't actually have a girl sit with you for a while, waste her time on the hustle and then use that line, not cool. If you want her company, pay for it, if not, be up front about it.
    And don't think that many dancers will be pleased to get a line like this because as everyone else was saying above, if you aren't comfortable, why come in at all?
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    Take your significant other with you and ask her how she feels about it. If she refuses to check it out, you've got problems.


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    The best way to handle this is to just sit stage side. If you are sitting and tipping stage side, you are not likely to be asked for dances, hence, no reason to explain your "no" answer.

    I'm not exactly sure why getting a dance would be cheating but just looking isn't? What difference does it make? I always assume that if a customer tells me the "but I'm married" line that it is just a brush off or an excuse to be cheap in the strip club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    I'm not exactly sure why getting a dance would be cheating but just looking isn't? What difference does it make? I always assume that if a customer tells me the "but I'm married" line that it is just a brush off or an excuse to be cheap in the strip club.
    Exactly! I'd be curious to see how many wives would see the fine line between just looking and getting a dance when it comes to deciding if it's OK with them or not. My hunch is that most if the time your screwed (or not, at least not for a while) either way.
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    I think the reason I asked was I was reading about Prince Wllliam going to a strip club after his military graduation and he told a stripper he didn't want a lapdance because he had a girlfriend. I was kind of impressed and thought it was very gentlemanly of him. It's a good sign of class for the future King of England.

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    I think it has nothing to do with class; I think it's silly. If your girlfriend is so uptight that she feels threatened by a lapdance, then she's not going to want you at the club either.

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    I think the reason I asked was I was reading about Prince Wllliam going to a strip club after his military graduation and he told a stripper he didn't want a lapdance because he had a girlfriend. I was kind of impressed and thought it was very gentlemanly of him. It's a good sign of class for the future King of England.
    Then I feel bad for William; who wants an uptight bitch like that? It can only get worse from there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Downey_Guy
    I think the reason I asked was I was reading about Prince Wllliam going to a strip club after his military graduation and he told a stripper he didn't want a lapdance because he had a girlfriend. I was kind of impressed and thought it was very gentlemanly of him. It's a good sign of class for the future King of England.
    More I suspect down to the worry of Paparatzi photos. The future King of England with a naked wench on his lap - now there's a photo worth $$$'s.

    More seriously, I know the club in question - it's Spearmint Rhino at Colnbrook close to Slough. Never been inside, but I know the door staff have something on an on/off feud with the local gipsies. Now that would have been a headline if the feud had reignited that night.

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    Well, hold on a minute, everyone--so long as the guy is 'paying per view', so to speak, there isn't a damned thing wrong in my mind with not feeling a need to have another woman rubbing all over him, especially if it's his crotch we're talking about.

    If I had a serious girlfriend, and she went to a male stripclub, and was content to look at guys without feeling it was vitally necessary to have her kitty rubbed thoroughly by a guys dick, I'd think that was just fine.

    The polite thing to do is to pay the dancers for their time, getting your dick rubbed is not a crucial part of the process, for me--in fact I never get lapdances, and probably never will--unless it's at home where they are a hell of a lot more fun.

    I don't see a damned thing wrong with being a gentleman and keeping your dick for one woman, so long as your money is going where it should.

    The one exception I have made to the lapdance thing is when women I have dated have gone with me and we got a lapdance together--but that's a little different, and it was more for her than for me anyway, by a long way.
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    we have a few regulars who come to the club to drink and watch the girls, but don't buy dances because they're married. as long as they TIP i don't mind it. most of them are honest about it up front so i don't feel like i've wasted my time. staring at the stage and never tipping a girl is fucking irritating as hell though. i can't stand guys that do that. one guy in particular comes in 3-4 times a week, sits at a table near the stage, stares the entire time, has 4 or 5 drinks and has NEVER tipped anyone. i used to go say hi and shit, but i stopped. the other day i was sitting next to someone near him and he said "are you too stuck up to say hi now like everyone else?"

    ................. arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrg. idiot.

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    Next time tell him "Money talks...", Penny.
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    Djoser, that's a great song to play when the club is full of cheap looky-loos who wonder why the dancer isn't bothering to take anything off anymore.

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