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    I'm getting really tired of dancing lately. I wish I could find a "real" full-time job in my field by now. I completed my Bachelor's degree in math this past December and am seeking a job in finance, but despite my smarts/qualifications I am really terrible at landing jobs. I'm kinda getting burned out on dancing at my current club in Philly, despite it being such a nice club. The money has sucked lately, I resent the fact that I have to lie about my job to my family & random guys I meet, I resent missing out on a social life because I work nights(I don't make as much $ working days), and then there's the health issue. Not only does dancing provide NO healthcare benefits, but it is a germfest work environment which has made me very sick multiple times this season. I almost fear my health working so many shifts, but I need the money, esp since I missed a lotta shifts a few weeks ago when I was sick with parotiditis(I know, it's a catch 22!!!).

    Tonight was exceptionally bad! The customers were LOUSY and I only left with like 100 bucks. That's TERRIBLE money for stripping, esp considering all the taunting that I had to put up with tonight. At one point, I literally told some fugly afro-bearded dude that I wanted to stick a 12" dildo up his ass. (That is because the cheap bastard initially asked "can I squeeze your nipples?" For a dollar?! And he didn't even have any money out. So I said "maybe in the couchroom" and he said "I'm gonna touch your pussy in the couchroom" so that's when I made the dildo comment. The whole time, he didn't tip a single cent to me, but if he did, I woulda never said my dildo comment.) Another time, some drunk blithering idiot who resembled the loser from Offspring's "Pretty fly for a white guy" music video, was mocking me and kept teasing me by waving a dollar bill in front of my face as if I was a dog playing "catch" and refused to give me the dollar until I did the very rude thing I saw another girl do one time, basically DEMAND a dollar from him then he mocked me by saying "You're doing all that, just for a dollar?" Needless to say, I did NOT go sit with him after collecting my tips inside the bar, like he asked me to. God for 100 lousy bucks, I'd rather wait tables at TGI Friday's, where at least I can keep my fucking clothes ON. My one friend was one of the only people who did good tonight, and I guess other people caught on to this, because she had over $100 stolen from her. Meanwhile the DJ was ready to rip his hair out, because the girls were acting like prissy snobs and making all these demands. And the housemom was also a victim of theft, done outside of work by a fellow dancer at our club. I think we all hated our club tonight!!

    I'm sick of it!! Do I just need a change of scenery? I don't know. Thing is, I'm a VERY tolerant(and friendly, believe it or not!) person and no matter how much chaos there might be, I can deal with it as long as I'm making MONEY. But lately, I've really sucked at making money at my club, with the exception of a few good days sprinkled on occasion...but that's not enough. I'm strongly considering moving up the date of my Atlantic City daytrip, so that I can start auditioning at some of those Atlantic City clubs very soon. Maybe those clubs will make me more money, esp if I'm a fresh face? I don't know but I hope so. Because I don't know how I will be able to last through an entire dead summer at my Philly club, nor do I know how I'll make any kinda "real" money. On the other hand, my recent motivation to get work experience in my field, has made me kinda resent having to dance so much. Last summer, I worked at cold empty dungeon-of-a-club Wizzards, didn't make shit money-wise, wasted away my whole summer at work, and had no fun because I was constantly at work and couldn't afford anything otherwise...I better not have another rotten summer this year!

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    Oh and one last complaint...lol to top it all off, I was at least looking forward to smoking a good bowl after work to celebrate 420 and calm down from my workplace angst. But no one that had weed was around! I tried calling my ex's brother, but they never answered their phone later on. So now, here I am, annoyed and sober! God I hope the rest of 420 shapes up to be a better day than what I've seen of it...

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    i haven't made any $$$ lately either, i think its b/c tax season, hopefully this weekend will be better, I feel ya w/ the no social life, but i'm in school now anyway i think you should travel somewhere else for a change of scenery, you seem burnt out. I understand about being ok when you are making $$. go to AC and try the clubs there, the weather will get nice, and people will be down there, hope you feel better

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    I hope things go better for you...i know what you mean...things at my club sucks....it has been sold but has not switched yet...the manger and some of the staff is seeing how many girls they can fuck before the club closes....last night was a REAL dead night and this one poor girl...was in the restroom when 2 guys walked in and then she was called to stage and was not able to get to stage in a timly manner because so was changing her tampon well the manger went and got her and was bitching her out while she was trying to clean herself up...she kept apologizing but that was not good enough...her preceeded in yelling at her out on the floor in front of god and everyone...she finally packed her stuff and walked out. then this other girl was desperate and asked EVERYONE fto pay her for sex...she asked me and my friend that if we would pay her $150 each so she could suck our hubbys off..WTF!! any way hope things get better for you.
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    I heard that it's been bad everywhere

    Do what you need to do to hang in there

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982
    ...despite my smarts/qualifications I am really terrible at landing jobs.

    At one point, I literally told some fugly afro-bearded dude that I wanted to stick a 12" dildo up his ass.

    ...some drunk blithering idiot who...kept teasing me by waving a dollar bill in front of my face as if I was a dog playing "catch" and refused to give me the dollar...

    ...she had over $100 stolen from her. Meanwhile the DJ was ready to rip his hair out, because the girls were acting like prissy snobs and making all these demands. And the housemom was also a victim of theft...

    Thing is, I'm a VERY tolerant(and friendly, believe it or not!) person and no matter how much chaos there might be, I can deal with it as long as I'm making MONEY.

    I...wasted away my whole summer at work, and had no fun because I was constantly at work...I better not have another rotten summer this year!
    A fine rant...

    I especially liked the part where you told the guy he needed a dildo up his ass.

    This is good. It means you have spirit, and spirit will get you through this.

    There is much in this I can relate to, as well.

    I've never been that great at getting 'real world' jobs, though I've done alright, and I can sell the hell out of architectural drawings once I get in their office. I think it's because I know I should get the job, so fail to supplicate and fawn properly. Or I really don't want the job that badly, and can't do it then, either.

    The theft is so bad in my club, they actually steal used flip-flops, and consequently I have them all keeping their bags, purses, cellphones, shoes, and boots in my tiny little DJ Booth. Then they come up frantically right when I'm trying to talk on the mike and ask for any or all of them. I can't turn around sometimes without tripping over luggage.

    I don't tear my hair out, but sometimes when it gets really bad with some of the dancers I just stop responding to anyone at all except the manager, and only if he has some sort of problem. The demanding dancers I don't mind so much, so long as they do it with a smile, show respect, and throw down onstage.

    The prissy snobs I have no tolerance for whatsoever, though I never say anything about it--I just grant them the same respect I receive. The only entities on this Earth I stretch that rule for are especially beautiful kitties, and a select few old people (so long as they aren't jabbering at me). And I don't stretch too far with either.

    The dancers in my club have learned by now not to fuck with me when I get quiet.

    But believe it or not, I am actually very tolerant and friendly too, and only require a reasonable amount of Money to keep me happy. But I am suffering from Burnout right now.

    Don't feel too bad about the money, there is a very good friend of mine who is as fine a dancer as I have seen, and she makes 100$ on average. I keep telling her to go somewhere where she could make ten times that, but she won't do it.

    I didn't have all that much fun last summer, either--though getting all wrapped up in work did get me out of a nasty financial situation. This summer I am going to the beach and surfing in my kayak, or please shoot me...

    Last but not least, the Dollar Game.

    No matter how many thousand times I will see this, I cannot for the life of me comprehend it. It's like stamping "Loser", or "Can't Get Laid" on your forehead. Yet the ones who do it always either think it is hilariously funny, or a True Mark of Manhood.

    Hang in there, things will get better--and a Road Trip is definitely in order...
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    Road trip to Orlando

    May 26th-29th

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    Quote Originally Posted by CorsicaFire
    Road trip to Orlando

    May 26th-29th
    Hmmm...

    Sounds good! I'm still trying to decide whether or not to make the Vegas SWFest. If not, maybe we can have an East Coast SWFest. Orlando is only 40 minutes away from here, and I might be moving there around then, anyway.
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    Djoser, I damn well better see your ass in Vegas!!

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    Yeah money has sucked here as well. =( Just out of curiousity do you have friends there at your club?? Like the dancers there, would you consider some of them good friends? It's time to start weighing the costs and benefits and your comparison of alternatives.. Good luck in whichever you choose, but remember money seems to be tight at most places.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser
    Hmmm...

    Sounds good! I'm still trying to decide whether or not to make the Vegas SWFest. If not, maybe we can have an East Coast SWFest. Orlando is only 40 minutes away from here, and I might be moving there around then, anyway.
    You need to go! My ass will be there

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    Wish I could join you guys!! The money has been a joke here as well, I didn't even clear 200 on Tuesday and then I work Ttongiht and tomorrow.
    PHILLYDANCER, can you afford to take some time off? My bf rocks my world and says that he will take care of everything while I take next week off. I would leave town, but I don't want to do that just yet.
    I'm going to spend a week cleaning and redecorating my aprtment and maybe putting up some dancer clothes on EBay.
    Take a week off, chickie, I know I need it. TV, house cleaning, tons of dog walks, my perfect vacation.
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    /doubletake

    I think I got a dance from you Monday night, Phillydancer .

    90% sure of it, actually.

    Anyways, you'll be fine, a lot of stuff seems to just be happening all at the same time. Like I said then, a lot of people find any job they can to get inside the banks and then work their way up.

    It's much easier to be promoted from within....

    As for the clubs..I dunno :/ It was dead on that Monday and a lot of the girls weren't circulating at all, which made a lot of the guys that were there go home.

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    Yes, DJOser, I agree with you about the "dollar game." It is a big insult to me. What's worse is, when a line of guys ALL don't tip you a dollar. This makes the next person less likely to tip you also...because he sees other guys not tipping, so it fucks with his perception of how attractive the dancer is. He sees the girl not getting tipped, and is prone to think, "There must be something *wrong* with her, for her not to get tipped", then starts to overfocus on her physical/personality flaws. This is known as the "bandwagon theory" and I see it happen all the time. That night that the Pretty Fly for a White Guy dude was waving around the dollar, this all occured RIGHT AFTER like 3 guys in a row didn't tip me because they "ran outta change"(suuuure). It's angering and that's why I hate when "cheap bastards" don't tip, because it's not just $1 I'm missing out on, but possibly many more.

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    That's when I send a dancer up with a dollar and make a big fuss over them, with the implication that this is the way it's supposed to work.

    It produces the desired effect about 80% of the time, or rather a little less in my present club, since we have a high proportion of uncivilized barbarian white trash in there.

    Or if I see a guy tip at last, I'll say "Now here's a gentleman that knows how to treat this sexy lady right!" Bad grammar, but so what, it works--again, about 80% of the time more guys will go up there and tip.

    But enough babbling about DJ bullshit, are you doing any better? I surely hope so...
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    I find the first 2 post of this thread super funny. I won't comment why because I am not a dancer.

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    If you aren't going to tell us what's so funny, and you're not a dancer or in the industry, why post at all?

    Perhaps I'm misunderstanding your sentiment. Are you laughing sympathetically? Then well maybe it's not so bad, and I'm not a moderator here in SG, so have no clout whatsoever.

    But if you aren't laughing sympathetically, you shouldn't be posting at all, period.
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    Last night sucked, too. Oooh but I'm moving up money-wise...this time I made a *whopping* $157!!! And on a busy Friday night, too! (sarcasm) I can't believe how many rude fuckin cheap bastards were there to see the porn star last night...all they did was literally clog up the aisles and take all the seats so that I had nowhere to sit. I'm beginning to have the same bad attitude towards customers, that my friend M**K has towards customers he serves at the deli at Acme Supermarket. His philosophy is, "I've never had a single customer worth a minute of my life." OK maybe I wouldn't go that far, because I've had regulars before and other really sweet customers at the club, but last night, yeah I'd go that far to say that about some of the many nontippers. At one point, there was literally nothing to do but go instigate trouble by making fun of some of the assholes. Hey, they're assholes, they deserve to be mocked/ridiculed.

    When going around the inside of the bar for tips, many people ignored me or acted distracted. So I yelled "aren't ya gonna look at me, do you treat all officers like that?"(I was wearing a black pleather cop costume) Then I announced that being a cop pretty much gave me the "right to be a prick"(it was a parody of prickhead cops haha). Then another time, I went up to 2 young homies, one who didn't tip, and muttered "lose some weight" then when he said "what?!" I said louder in a fakely-covering-up voice, "I said, uh, YOU LOOK GREAT!" I actually stole this line from the thread titled "worst insult said by a customer", because some asshole said this to a dancer. But when I said this, I made sure I was saying it to a guy who was ideally thin and had no fat to lose...I woulda never said it to someone who was the least bit chubby...my point was just to have him get the idea that I was trying to be unfriendly/insulting, but not to actually insult him. No, I'm not *that* cruel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982
    Last night sucked, too. Oooh but I'm moving up money-wise...this time I made a *whopping* $157!!! And on a busy Friday night, too! (sarcasm) I can't believe how many rude fuckin cheap bastards were there to see the porn star last night...
    Yeah, that's why I didn't bother to try going there on the nights Janine was supposed to be there. She's actually somewhat mainstream for a porn star, so I knew it'd be packed to the gills :/

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    Janine Lindemueller? The spelling might be wrong, but she is pretty well-known, and has been around forever...

    Still looks pretty good, but is starting to show her age a bit--but she looks 500 times better than Jenna Jameson, if the pictures are any way to judge.

    I haven't seen her in person, so I wouldn't know. She has to be pushing 40, though.

    She caused a bit of a furor in the porn world whaen she publicly dissed Rocco ('The Italian Stallion') Sifredi for telling her he'd use a condom, but then cutting off the top of it, or maybe taking it off--I forget which--basically he lied to her and didn't use one, and she was pissed!

    He has his fans, but personally I cannot abide watching him spitting all over the women, choking them, etc.

    Whatever...

    So what did she look like? What was your impression? Was she a bitch, stuck on herself, or cool?

    Sorry to hear you are still having trouble--try to think positive, OK? It isn't easy to do in this business, trust me, I know! I had a lot of trouble with it about a month ago...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser
    If you aren't going to tell us what's so funny, and you're not a dancer or in the industry, why post at all?

    Perhaps I'm misunderstanding your sentiment. Are you laughing sympathetically? Then well maybe it's not so bad, and I'm not a moderator here in SG, so have no clout whatsoever.

    But if you aren't laughing sympathetically, you shouldn't be posting at all, period.

    Ok thats fair enough. I find it funny because she states in the first post how she is having trouble figuring out why she can't land a job in her field of study. Then in the second post she admits being a drug user. Maybe thats the problem.

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    Ok thats fair enough. I find it funny because she states in the first post how she is having trouble figuring out why she can't land a job in her field of study. Then in the second post she admits being a drug user. Maybe thats the problem.
    OK pot is not a drug like coke or pills. And if you really knew me personally, you'd know that I'm generally very straight-edge and do not experiment with drugs. I even went so far as to give up alcohol for LENT, after already being "dry" for a month or so prior to that. I only smoke pot on rare NONWORKDAY occasions, such as 420, and when I'm stressed to the point that I'm ready to have a nervous breakdown!! If it weren't for jobsearching stress and all the cheap bastards ruining my workweek, I wouldn't even had a need for pot to calm me down. So maybe you have the wrong idea about me, but that's how it is. Ask anyone at Club Oasis if you don't believe me.

    Oh yeah and the *real* reason I can't find a job in my field, is because I don't have experience. I wasn't fortunate enough to land an internship, partly because I was "poor" and was pressured by parents to spend so many hours a week at random bullshit retail/fastfood jobs to help pay for college. Simply because these jobs were the easiest to land and my parents didn't want me waiting around for the better jobs to think about hiring me when I had bills to pay. Yes, working bullshit jobs was a penny-wise-dollar-stupid approach I know, but my parents guilted me into all this, and because since they never went to college, they were unfamiliar with the whole college experience and postcollege jobsearch so they didn't exactly give the best advice even though they meant well.

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    Smoking a bowl after a rough night at work will in no way inhibit your ability to land another job, from my experience--I just did it.

    Hell, I even smoke a bit of weed when doing detail work on architectural drawings and conceptual site plans--though the conceptual thinking is far better done with a totally clear head.

    Since I have successfully designed shopping centers which have been built all over the United States, odds are good that you have been in one. The guy I have done most of these conceptual drawings for is the most hard-line, conservative, demanding businessman I have ever met.

    He also knows I smoke the occasional bit of weed--and still prefers to use me--which is probably exceptional, but whatever.

    If he found the slightest thing wrong with my performance, he would never call me back--instead, he has not only used me--when i am available--for over 15 years, but also referred me to several other people in the commercial real estate field--not one known for it's employment of drug-addled, incompetent fuck-ups.

    Walt Disney was a cokehead, by the way...
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    Yeah!! And from what I've noticed, all the kids in my college that landed plush internships or job offers tended to party a lot and get drunk. M**t M****** was a drunk, N**** H****** went to more parties than I did too, yet they somehow got their foot in the door and meanwhile I was stuck slaving behind the deli counter at SuperFresh after that semester. The two biggest "losers," job-landing-wise from my college, are my male friend M**K and I, and we tend to be more conservative and straight-laced than most kids our age.

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    All I was sayign is I don't know if any decent job that you can land these days without taking a drug test first.

    I was not trying to be mean thats why I was not going to post it at first. I just found found it funny the way you posted.

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