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    Default What do you do when a manager hates you?

    I recently decided to try a new club in my area called Tootsies to add some variety to my work schedule. My home club, Hotties, recently took me on as a bartender (I also strip there) so I thought it would be cool to bartend/strip at one club and strip only at another (just so I don't get bored).
    Anyways I really like the new club Tootsies. The money is good, the club looks great, staff is cool, customers are decent, etc. However here's the problem:

    My 3rd night working I wound up getting really drunk, which is rare for me, and when the main manager, "A", told me I couldn't drive myself home, I yelled at him in front of the owner (I didn't mean to do this).

    The next time I worked, I apologized to the assistant manager who hired me,"D", and he said that it wasn't a big deal. The the time after that, when I worked I apologized to the main manager and explained it wouldn't happen again. He went on and on so I apologized again - he basicly walked away.

    Now ever since then, no matter what I do when I work his shift, it's wrong and I'm tired of it. Yes, I fucked up that one day but other than that I'm a good and responsible dancer. Further more I remade my schedule with the assistant manager last sunday for last work week and I worke the new schedule BUT yesterday the manager, "A" fined me and said I didn't show up. I explained that I remade my schedule but he didn't listen.

    I feel as though this Manager,"A", has a serious problem with me and is trying to intimidate me to not work there. What's even worse is that he loves to proclaim himself as being "oh so cool", but I think he doesn't like me also because he knew from day one that I thought he was a dork.

    Oh, and to top it off, he seems to have a certain clique of girls who if you cross, will run right over to him and tell on you. This hasn't happened to me yet, but I've been told this and have seen it when it comes to other dancers.

    What should I do? I love this club and the other manager is great, but this guy "A" is weird.

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    Try and arrange your schedule so that you don't work the same shifts he does.

    Personally, I'd probably be shitty with you too if you were trying to drive home drunk. I have zero patience for drunk drivers. I understand if it was just the one time you fucked up (and hopefully you didn't drive yourself home), but it would take awhile for me to respect you again.

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    if you make more money there then stay, if your making enough money the manager will eventually leave you alone.

    if the moneys average (compaered to the other club) id just leave. its not worth the stress.

    or you could chat to the manager and explain everything..?

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    stick it out and be super sweet to everyone, including the guy who hates you. Evenyually (hopefully) he will realize that he's an idiot, and that you're harmless. just don't get plowed and shout at him again.

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    He's probably still pissed off because that happened on your 3rd night working at the club- not a good way to make a first impression at a new club. He probably thinks that since this happened on one of your first nights at the club that it will happen again and he doesn't trust you. He also probably is pissed because you were a new dancer at the club and youdisrespected him like that - not cool. I know that if a new girl came in and disrespected me, I wouldn't be very forgiving for a long time, and I'm just a dancer - you have to respect the people who've been working there longer than you (especially management), at least while you're still new there. You can try to apologize again, otherwise just don't work when that manager is working.
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    just keep smiling when he comes around, and sometimes showing you think he's a cool guy and that you share some interests (like football or a band) every now and then say something he might find useful "i hear ___ is playing in town, rock on!" and respect, lots and lots of respect. be early/ontime, tip well, avoid fights if any should happen, and again RESPECT! let him know "he's the man" but don't take it too far..little things show that. call him "sir" when he addresses you. just stroke his eego a little and stay positive. it took me three months to get on my club's good side even though i never caused trouble or acted irresponsibly. some people just are that way. he'll come to his senses. if not, do as suggested above, schedule around him but don't ever bad mouth him to anyone...that will come back to haunt you.

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    Have you tried sucking up a bit more? Sometimes when you go off on people like that, they hold a grudge. Although most strip club staff are (sadly) used to it, you still have to kind of accept that you might have it coming. Not judging - me, I've had to do some pretty serious sucking up and some pretty serious tipping because of the shit that bouncers, managers and bouncers have had to take off me when I've been drunk. Most of them accept the sincere apology and the inflated tip as penance and compensation, but sometimes they get a little sick of being the whipping boys is all.
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    If you think he's a dork, and can't hide it well, you're fucked...

    Every manager that has hated me has been ultimately the reason I quit or got fired.

    But I'm lousy at pretending to respect people, because I just don't try to, lol...

    OTOH, yelling at a manager in front of everyone is a very bad thing to do, especially if you are new. The only time I have deliberately yelled at a manager is if they yelled at me first. I wound up yelling at my manager about three weeks ago, since he was being a dick and yelling at me for a stupid fucking reason--but it cost me to do so.

    Things are now possibly getting better--whether I told him I was ready to quit may have helped, I don't know.

    I do have a very loud voice, though, so I have probably also come across as yelling even if that wasn't my intention.

    I'd say try to work other nights than him, at all costs hide the fact you think he's a dork--even if he really is--and if you can, try to butter him up a bit to compensate for yelling. Managers like to feel powerful, especially some of the extremely weak-ego types in the biz who cover for the weakness by being 'tough' or displaying their power at every opportunity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MadisonM
    He's probably still pissed off because that happened on your 3rd night working at the club- not a good way to make a first impression at a new club. He probably thinks that since this happened on one of your first nights at the club that it will happen again and he doesn't trust you. He also probably is pissed because you were a new dancer at the club and youdisrespected him like that - not cool. I know that if a new girl came in and disrespected me, I wouldn't be very forgiving for a long time, and I'm just a dancer - you have to respect the people who've been working there longer than you (especially management), at least while you're still new there. You can try to apologize again, otherwise just don't work when that manager is working.
    That's kinda how I"m reading into the situation. First impressions truely are LASTING IMPRESSIONS.







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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser
    If you think he's a dork, and can't hide it well, you're fucked...

    Every manager that has hated me has been ultimately the reason I quit or got fired.

    But I'm lousy at pretending to respect people, because I just don't try to, lol...
    ^^^Me, too. I suck at brown-nosing, which is a big disadvantage in this business. Of course, I also rarely drink at work and never cause any trouble, but in the end it's dancers who make managers feel like big, strong men who end up with all the perks. (Whoa... bitter today, I guess. See my post about getting fired.)

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