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    I start stripping for the first time EVER on Monday of next week and I'm gettng a little bit nervous just because I've never done it before. Also, if a customer asks if I have a boyfriend, what should I say? No I'm single? Yes I'm taken (I am) I mean... if I lie and say I'm single will they feel more likely to have a chance with me or something? Sorry if this has been posted before just curious though! Thanks!!!

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    I've found that it doesn't matter if I say I'm single or have a boyfriend (which I do). Either way, if they want to spend money on me, they will. I always say that I have a bf, and I still make great money. I used to say that I didn't have a bf, and I don't notice any difference in my income at all now that I always say I have a bf.
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    cool cool... thanks!

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    I don't offer out the information that I'm taken (my Df is the strip club DJ), but if they ask, I tell them the truth. A couple have steered clear for the rest of the night & the others don't seem to mind & continue to tip or whatnot as they did before.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lizzybethers
    I start stripping for the first time EVER on Monday of next week and I'm gettng a little bit nervous just because I've never done it before. Also, if a customer asks if I have a boyfriend, what should I say? No I'm single? Yes I'm taken (I am) I mean... if I lie and say I'm single will they feel more likely to have a chance with me or something? Sorry if this has been posted before just curious though! Thanks!!!
    Speaking as a guy, never underestimate the power of "date the dancer" syndrome. A significant percentage of us guys will go into a strip venue thinking they can chat up a dancer and meet them OTC. (OK - unrealistic, but then we don't know that).

    It's one of the motivations for buying private dances, etc., because it gives us more chance to chat to you. If we know you have a bf, then one of the motivations for buying PD's has gone - we know our chances of chatting you up have diminished.

    You have to remember that dancers are fantasy figures to many customers, and that they'll tend to behave as that fantasy dictates. In that fantasy, they've got a chance of dating you - and telling a custy that you have got a bf introduces a large dose of reality into the fantasy.

    There are no hard and fast rules for the best way of behaving, but I think you'll find many dancers find being "single" is good for business. If the custy proves to be too persistant for your taste, you can always remember your bf after all - and get shot of him.

    Godd luck on your debut.

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    Phil-W:

    LOL - you're right.

    Just last night, a gal dancing for me tells me about her young kids then starts ranting about how much of a jerk her bf is. This is great SS to use on any guy you consider to be a "white knight" type.

    "My boyfriend is just a jerk" - it's meant to mean "I'm looking for a good guy" - what it really means is - "buy 10 or so more dances from me so I can go buy him something"

    Another fav of mine is constantly telling me how sad it is that none of the dancers have a boyfriend.

    Personally, I suggest not offering the info out. I doubt if most true regulars care to ask. So if someone does ask, make up whatever story you think he wants to hear.


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    Quote Originally Posted by azcustomer
    So if someone does ask, make up whatever story you think he wants to hear.
    Thats what I do. If they are being super persistent or are clearly only looking for a date instead of dances (clue = thats the first question they ask you even before your name). I am single but saying you have a boyfriend/ I've found. makes you less accessible which often increases the challenge factor. Sometimes I'll say "What do you think?" At the same time too, I tend to avoid high maintenance customers, so saying you have a boyfriend gets them off your back.

    Also never volunteer your relationship status. If they don't ask, they probably don't want to know.

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    I'm married and if anyone asks I tell them that I am happily married. I always wear my wedding ring. They always ask, "So your husband doesn't mind you dancing?" I tell them "Nope, he actually loves the idea!" I never had a problem making money because of this... I think sometimes it helps because a lot of customers are married too and they feel that they have something in common with you. Also if they get pushy about wanting to see if I cheat on my husband I tell them "I will not lead you on.... but I will turn you on." I always feel comfortable when I let them know that we can have a fun time but it won't go further than that.... and the customer usually seems receptive to me.

    And responding to the "date the dancer" syndrome. That's fine if you're comfortable with it, but for me, I don't want any guy to think he can get me. First, because I don't like talking to another man about what we could do together outside of the club (it just flat out makes me feel bad knowing my husband is waiting at home for me). Second, I think it contributes to the 'chase' that many guys want.
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    Don't ask, don't tell. If they're stupid enough to ask, then I'll tell them flat out I'm married. If it ruins his fantasy, the way I see it he ruined it himself by asking.

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    Also, be a little careful about lying to a customer. There are many girls that are just waiting to tell a customer the 'truth' about you. Let's say you told Customer A that you were seperated from your husband and you had two children. Customer A then mentions something to another dancer... "Oh, I feel so bad for her.... she has two little kids and her husband has left her." The other dancer then goes ahead and tells Customer A the 'real truth'. This can make him quite mad at you and good luck getting any dances or tips from him. Just speaking from experience!
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    if a guy is clueless enough to think he can date you, you having a boyfriend won't change anything.

    They don't believe you when you say you're sngle anyway.

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    I always teel the truth (I have a man). After all, that is the only thing keeping me from meeting all my sexy customers OTC. Gee if only I were single.. Then I use my "well I guess for now we can date in here, who knows what the future holds". LOL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    if a guy is clueless enough to think he can date you, you having a boyfriend won't change anything.

    They don't believe you when you say you're sngle anyway.
    That's true. When I used to say I was single, the guys never believed me and they would say things like, "You have to have a boyfriend. How can someone like you not have a boyfriend. You're lying." Why would they ask if they're just going to not believe me anyway? So now I just always tell the truth, because it doesn't matter either way in terms of income for me.
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    It really depends on the rapport I build with the customer. Usually it's the older men that don't care whether I am single or not, the younger guys are the ones that hound me on my relationship status (and the bearers of "I don't want a dance, but I'd love to take you out"...ugh!)

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    They ask me and I tell them I am getting married in a month. If they ask me why would I want to get married I say "Well its not for his money since I make more, so it has to be because he has a big penis!" Then I walk away but as soon as they see me again........they really want my attention! Once I tell them I am getting married, I guess they realize thier chances with me are at a zero but then they want to talk about how my other half feels about me dancing and how long I've been doing it. Believe it or not its a great conversation starter and I end up getting a few dances. I cant lie and tell them I am single. Why would I want to lie about a big part of my life. Some of them after the dance tip me well and say its for the honeymoon.


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    i have a boyfriend (3 years now) and i don't bring him up unelss they ask. if they ask i tell them the truth. however, if they say something like "so married? kids?" i'll say something vauge like "no i have a little dog instead of having kids right now". which takes the question away from the "boyfriend" aspect. be prepared though, that if you want to go the honest route and tell them you have a boyfriend some of them will hound you with questions like "so are you happy", "how long have you been dating", "how much does he make", "what does he think about you dancing", "what does he do", "how come you have to dance if you have a boyfriend"
    etc, etc, etc, etc.
    because a lot of the guys are looking for any weakness they can focus on. i've gotten really good at getting the convo tactfully back AWAY from my boyfriend.

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    I used to tell customers I had a boyfriend, however we have a lot of "white knights" that come in so I started telling new custys I was single. My money went up dramatically.
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    lol I always told customers that I was married....I just can't lie...I'm an honest person.
    But I always mentioned that my husband allows me to sleep with other guys, which he does. We have an open relationship so it sorta made up for the being married thing.
    Most guys don't care if you're married, involved, or single...they just care about if you'll give 'em what they want. You have to know how to work your game and after a few nights you'll fall into it and find what works for you! Good luck!
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    Im married but none of my customers know that. Its like that line in coyote ugly movie. be available without being available.
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