OK I wrote in earlier posts about how I wanted to go to the Jersey shore to look at clubs for the summer. A friend/co-worker of mine, "Lucinda," wanted to come along, esp since she'd had recent problems with a co-worker at our club and didn't feel comfortable going back to work there. We agreed that I would be the one driving. This is because:
a) She doesn't have a car, nor even a driver's license.
b) Because she hadn't been working at our club in over a week, she didn't have any money for bus/train fare to the shore.
So anyways, we're all set to go look at clubs in AC, when she says "My boyfriend 'Mason' is coming along too." She has this serious boyfriend/recent fiancee, and he follows her EVERYWHERE! The only place he doesn't go with her to is work, but he has her call him at 2am to tell him that she's leaving the club and will be home soon. If it is say, 2:07am and I haven't been around for her to borrow my cell phone because I'm wrapping it up in the couch room, she'll get all panicked, like a teenage child who worries about making it home by curfew. Point is, he's a very dominant partner in the relationship and also kinda assumes role as baby-sitter of her; me being a very aggressive, independent woman, I do not like some of the ways he runs things, but hey it's Lucinda's relationship not mine. (There's an incident or two that have made me a little suspicious of Mason lately, but I won't elaborate for now.)
A few hours before we were set to leave, Lucinda called me to confirm our plans, and after seeking advice from a few close friends of mine, I told her that I didn't feel comfortable with Mason coming along. I told her that it wouldn't look the most professional to bring Mason along for auditions, and especially given the vampant prostitution in Atlantic City, the club managers might be prone to wrongly perceive Mason as our "pimp," esp since he has a broad-shouldered, very masculine build and he'd be there with 2 girls. I tried to tell her it was nothing personal, just professional, and if she wanted to go with him then I'd go alone but he happy to meet up with them later for lunch or something. Well of course he heard this, and started arguing, as he often does with her when she's on the phone. (He overhears all her convos) She got mad, hung up, then left a message later saying that I created a fight b/t them. But what was I supposed to do? I wouldn't feel comfortable having him come along...not only would it be unprofessional, but it'd paint a picture of me as being this submissive girly girl who can't do things on my own...exactly not how I am! So I just went to AC alone and everything went smoothly.
I asked a few friends at work last night about this, and 100% of the people agreed with me that bringing along boyfriends would be unprofessional. What do you guys think? And should I try to amend things with her, or should I wait for her to try and amend things with me?


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