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    Default Husbands and Boyfriends DEAD SET Against Stripping?

    Then what? If you know you want to/ need to should you? how have other girls handeled this situation? I dont have a husband or a boyfriend but i do have an ex-husband who would have coranary heart failuar if he found this out.... we share custody of our childern. i dont like to lie..... but can this be pulled of any other way?
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    are you worried about losing custody of your children?

    Normally I'd say fuck him....but if you could lose your kids, it's another story.

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    Default Re: Husbands and Boyfriends dead set against Stripping?

    Good question Emily does Stripping jepordize custody rights, i.e. proov you to be unfit because you dance?

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    Default Re: Husbands and Boyfriends dead set against Stripping?

    i don't know....but didn't you see Striptease?

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    Humm, Might haVE to go rent that movie tonite. seen it long ago,and i forgot how it ended. But funny you mention that..... Demi's costume is my favorite to dance in.

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    Default Re: Husbands and Boyfriends dead set against Stripping?

    Well,I would be seriously looking into custody laws if I were you.

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    ^ Agreed. Unfortunately, they vary from state to state. If you live in a more conservative area, then it could jeopardize your custody arrangements. A more liberal state, it probably wouldn't. You may want to go speak with your attorney and see what he/she says about it.

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    here in fl. it does NOT in itself make you unfit. drugs, bad men , bad housekeeping that would make you unfit.

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    If it will not make a difference with custody of your kids, tell him to kiss your ass. You are not married anymore for a reason.

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    I don't know about custody issues, but on your origional question I am in the same boat. My Husband is dead set against me stripping and I am very upset by it. He has good reason tho- he had a ex-girlfriend who was dancing, swore it was "just a job" then he found out without a doubt she was an "extra" girl and now does porn (don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with porn, it was just the icing on the cake to her- I'm just a nice girl who happens to dance line) Anyone have any advise for how to approach him on this?
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    For Sasha333: I would tell him you understand his concerns and that you aren't her and won't be an extras girl. Tell him you understand his fear of getting hurt again but you would never do anything to jeapardize your marriage. Plus that was his ex-GIRFRIEND, not wife. I"m not saying people aren't committed when they're dating, but tell him that she was just a dumb ex-girlfriend who was never really committed to him but you're his wife and that makes it a different story. Tell him this is something you've always wanted to do and that you'd really like to try it and that you promise that if at any time you or he feel compromised that you'll quit.

    For Christian-stripper: I would call my attorney if I were you and find out exactly what can and can not jeapardize your custody w/ your children. If it doesn't then I'd tell my ex-husband to fuck himself and that he can boss around his new wife. I'd tell him that you are not doing anything to harm the children, that you keep your stripping life away from them and that you're doing it because you're a single mother now with children to take care of and you're saving up for their college or whatever. If he doesn't like, tough shit!!! You're not married to him anymore and he doesn't have a say in what you do anymore.

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    I cring to think I'd have to tell an attorney what I plan to do for a Living.. "sigh"

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    ^ Well, the only other option is to just go strip and deal with whatever comes your way without knowing what legal recourses you do or do not not have.

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    How In the world do girls keep this buisness privet, from boyfriends, husbands, ex husbands? I was dancing in a club 30 mins away.............. i decided to come clean with the ex... and when I did ,BOY OH BOY he did NOT take it well at all...... here are some of the things he said during the telephone conversation








    "There is noway im going to just sit here and let you shake your ass for money" "i'll give you all the money you need" "so i guess this means you dont need me or the kids anymore" "seems you will be living a brand new Life stlye that i can NOT campare ,comete with" then he called me back the following week end, asked what i was up to, i said oh nuttin just getting ready to go to work. he said ... "Please tell me you wont be going to the club..... i beg you please... i have a dozen co-workers heading out there tonite, and they'r going to see you.... i have to work with these guys everyday... please dont do this to me". I said.... are you ashamed of me? He said .... "Its not like that... you just dont understand.... all my co-workers will know what my ex wife looks like nekid......and thats wrong, just sooo wrong". he is thier boss btw.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cHRISTIAN~sTRIPPER
    I cring to think I'd have to tell an attorney what I plan to do for a Living.. "sigh"
    Why? Are you ashamed??







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    Quote Originally Posted by cHRISTIAN~sTRIPPER
    How In the world do girls keep this buisness privet, from boyfriends, husbands, ex husbands?
    I'd say about 98% of us DON'T keep our jobs private from our significant others. What's the point in that. Lies do not help, when you're trying to have a healthy relationship. I'm always honest when I start to get serious about someone. If they cant' accept me for me, then to hell with them. I live my life, on MY TERMS...not the other way around.

    I made the mistake of dating someone who was dead set against me wanting to dance. I kept my secret passion to myself until one day I woke up! This is my life! No one is paying my bills but me! Will "insert current gf/bf name in here" be in my life 5yrs from now? More than likely no. So I need to do what I have to do and handle my business.







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    Honey - first, how bad do you need to do this? A lot of women get into bad financial situations and handle it without stripping (although, to be perfectly honestly, at this point in my life, I have NO IDEA how; my perspective has narrowed considerably). If you cringe to think about telling a lawyer, maybe this is really not good for you.

    In terms of your children - there is no legal profession that, in and of itself, is sufficient to deny you custody. Is your husband looking for excuse to deny you joint custody or visitation? I mean I understand him being shocked, but I fail to see why he would want to deny you custody based on it - I mean he would understand that you don't have to TELL your kids what you do, right?

    Sascha - I would consider how much you love your husband versus how much you want to be a dancer. Not wanting your SO to simulate sexual intimacy with strangers for money is not the unreasonable position we sometimes act like it is (although it can, I suppose, be terribly inconvenient). If he is really uncomfortable with it, it is going to make him unhappy, and will effect your life together. I mean you can talk about it, try to convince him, promise him that you will quit if you can't hack it at the comfort level you set out (although that is a promise you almost certainly won't keep) and see if you can work out a compromise in which you are both happy. If that works out, great. But ultimately there will be a lot of guys who are just uncomfortable with the thought of other people touching their SO's.
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    Sascha, I'v found it hard to go through with this, with out a strong supporter. so I feel for you too girl.



    Cin---- Thank you...... Yes, I do feel Loads and loads better when I come clean and tell the truth, even if they scowl at me. I'v always been a bad lie-er.
    After all my nose does this funny twitching thing when i tell a lie.... such a dead give away.... I tried the whole " No Im not dancing im bartending" thing.... humm, didnt work when i can home with 200.-- one dollar bills. " we pay bills together still for the sake of of kids so he knows when i have money"




    Jenn, I dont really "NEED" to do this, i just wanted to do something to help pay off debt, and something that will boost my self esteme. i.e. "feel beautiful" Looking it and Feeling it are differnt.

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    Hmm. Well, I'm pleased that you do not feel financially trapped. I would, however, not recommend this job to boost your self-esteem. You need self-esteem like a mac truck to make it in this job. There is nothing like your money relying on men thinking that you are pretty and charming to make your bad nights feel like you are really, really not pretty and charming. Seriously. If you root around on this board for a while you will find a lot of... information about this. This job caters to your vanity - which is fine, it feels good, it's an indulgence; but it will freaking destroy your self-esteem.
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    wow. So I have seen quite few reads, that prove this.... I never knew a dancer worked so hard. I have had many jobs, and this job was by far the most, exiting,exilerating,draining,painful all at the same time.

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    Yeah, dancing is not the way to go for self-esteem boosts! People can be very rude and hurtful sometimes, and if you add alcohol on top of that, there are days I want to smack guys with some of the stuff I hear. For me, it is a great job though. I have tons of fun, and meet people I would not normally interact with. True, some of them are weird as hell, but there are some great people too.

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