A friend of mine recently asked me if I would take her to in to the club where I work and see if she could get a job dancing. She was recently fired from another job and I know she could use the money. She's a wonderful friend whom I care about dearly and I would love to help her out, BUT...
Knowing her as well as I do, I don't think she's really cut out for the job. I can see her causing herself, and maybe me, a lot of headaches. Although she's never danced before, she has worked in a peepshow, so I know she's fine with the getting-naked part of the job. It's the human-interaction part that I think might be the problem. She is quite cute, and can be charming, funny, and pleasant when you're on her good side, which I always have been. On the other hand, she has a hair-trigger temper, is impatient with people, and takes everything much too personally -- I seriously doubt she can handle the ammount of bullshit we have to put up with from customers, managers, and other dancers night in and night out.
I don't feel like it's my job to talk anyone into or out of dancing. If they can't handle it, they'll figure it out soon enough without my help. But I kind of feel like taking her into work with me and helping her to get the job is like bringing in a ticking time bomb. I can easily see her having a total melt-down like the many she has had in the past. And, selfishly, I really don't want to be involved in any way. When I'm at work, I want to work. After nasty experiences with management at my old club, I've really tried to show management at this place that I'm hard-worker and non-trouble-maker, and so far, I'm on pretty great terms with everyone. If I bring my friend in and reccomend her for a job and she pulls a bunch of drama, I can see that reflecting poorly on me and maybe making my life harder. I also foresee getting dragged into dressing room drama, or being expected to sit around the dressing room nursing my friend's bruised ego and temper while I'd rather be out making money. Maybe I sound cold, but I've seen so many of this girl's friend stick their necks out for her and get burned -- getting her jobs from which she gets fired, finding her places to live with room-mates that she then alienates.
I don't have any intention of cutting her off. Like I've said, she's always been a great friend to me, and somehow I've magically stayed off her crazy side. She's a wonderful person to know in my personal life, just not someone I'd want to be involved with in any professional capacity. I'm sort of at a loss here. What would you do?



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