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    so theres a girl at my club, who ive heard loves drama and fighting and all that other stuff. so basically, in our dressing room, we dress and do our make up right next to eachother, and it is kinda crowded in there, but ive took that same spot since my first day at that club. so one day, she throws her big ass bag on top of my suitcase while i was in the middle of using it! and i was like "um, i need to get to my clothes..." (i said it very calmy), and so she like moves it half way and rolls her eyes. so, i picked the shit up myself and moved it! and shes all looking me up and down...but i didnt do anything wrong!

    then another incident- i always organize my money before time to go home, just to count it and organize my tip out. ive done it the same way since i started dancing. im not trieng to show off my money, but i always lay it out to help me organize myself better. so i had my money laying out in front of me and she comes up and goes "PUT your money up...not like im gonna take it but i dont like girls who lay their money out like that" wtf!!!! i wasnt bothering her

    then another time, i was getting dressed and had my heels on the counter. she comes in and picks my shoes up, puts them on the floor and says "keep your shoes off the table, its bad luck" so hell, i picked them right back up and put them where i had them!

    its like she reeaaaally wants to fight with me, and i dont see why! i know i know girls do get jealous and hateful and bitchy, but i am so quiet in the dressing room at work just so i wont have any drama. ive gotten in some trouble with girls at another club, so now im trieng to avoid it.

    what should i do? should i confront the girl? be a bitch back? ignore it? im not moving spaces in the dressing room because its where im comfortable and always have been, and i dont want this to intimidate me, i just dont want there to be any unnessecary problems.

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    Default Re: this girl is being a bitch to me...kinda long

    Make friends with her. Pretend you haven't heard the negative gossip about her. It will take the wind out of her sails.If that's not possible, then just steer clear of her and don't let her suck you into her drama/negativity vortex or get you into a fight. The negative energy will weigh you down.

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    Default Re: this girl is being a bitch to me...kinda long

    Quote Originally Posted by LuckiCharm
    so theres a girl at my club, who ive heard loves drama and fighting and all that other stuff. so basically, in our dressing room, we dress and do our make up right next to eachother, and it is kinda crowded in there, but ive took that same spot since my first day at that club. so one day, she throws her big ass bag on top of my suitcase while i was in the middle of using it! and i was like "um, i need to get to my clothes..." (i said it very calmy), and so she like moves it half way and rolls her eyes. so, i picked the shit up myself and moved it! and shes all looking me up and down...but i didnt do anything wrong!
    I didn't see anything wrong with you moving it..but you couldve at least waited or asked her to move her stuff down some more.

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    then another incident- i always organize my money before time to go home, just to count it and organize my tip out. ive done it the same way since i started dancing. im not trieng to show off my money, but i always lay it out to help me organize myself better. so i had my money laying out in front of me and she comes up and goes "PUT your money up...not like im gonna take it but i dont like girls who lay their money out like that" wtf!!!! i wasnt bothering her
    Girls at my club do this, and honestly I dont' like it either. It's almost as if you're saying, "hey look at how good I did" On your bad days I strongly doubt you have your mini stacks of money laid out. It's all about respect.
    Quote Originally Posted by luckicharm
    then another time, i was getting dressed and had my heels on the counter. she comes in and picks my shoes up, puts them on the floor and says "keep your shoes off the table, its bad luck" so hell, i picked them right back up and put them where i had them!
    It's superstition to put shoes on the table. You may not believe in them, but she did. I really don't think she meant anything by it.

    All in all, don't take this the wrong way but even being on SW you from time to time come across as a bitch. Hell, sometimes I dont' like your ass either I think you tend to let the small, minor things (that normal people let roll off their back) get to you, and affect you. Let it go. My suggestion, just avoid the girl, stop counting your money in front of others, and don't put your shoes on the counter







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    Default Re: this girl is being a bitch to me...kinda long

    lol sure thing pal

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    Obenta- good idea. thanx for the advice!

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    The bag thing I can kind of see how she was rude... she shouldnt have put her stuff on yours..

    As for counting your money that way... its rude to count out your cash in the changing room all out on the table... its like your bragging to on how much you made, and for the girls who dont make as much money its like your rubbing it in their faces. You may not be doing it on purpose but thats how it can come across.

    The shoes thing... its kinda nasty putting your shoes on the changing table... some people eat off that. Plus it is considered bad luck.

    Your best bet is to just ignore her and stay out of her way. You cant be friends with everyone ya know?

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    Default Re: this girl is being a bitch to me...kinda long

    I think you were right to move her shit off yours. I think you can do what you want with your money. I wouldn't count it on the counter because it brings the haters out of the woodwork. I walked into the room organizing my money and had a TWENTY in my hand...not a hundred. This young dancer says, 'Oh, I got money too!!' and shot me looks for weeks afterwards. As for moving or not, it depends on how volatile this chick is. If she's a drinker or has a crew of minions I'd avoid her.

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    yea i mean, i didnt have it all scattered out everywhere, i just had it kinda right in front of me, then i was kinda leaning over it so i WOULDNT seem rude. i dont know..it just gets me when people have a grudge against me who dont even know me! it took me by surprise so i didnt really know how to handle it. if i knew the cause of her having an issue, i would know how to handle it.
    optimist- now that you mention it, the tension really comes the worst at the end of our shifts. it may be that shes just an angry drunk!

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    Default Re: this girl is being a bitch to me...kinda long

    Well, she was kind of right about the stuff she did (well, except for the bag stunt). She doesn't sound like she has much class or couth, though. It's not WHAT she's saying, it's how she's saying it.

    Just let it go. Let her be the way she wants to be.

    And, just as an aside...just don't count your money laid out in piles. If you need to lay the money out, make sure you are in a corner where no one else is. Not only does it piss some other dancers off...but it protects your own investment.

    But, other than that...just let it go. There is nothing short of beating the crap out of the girl that will change anything, and even then you are likely to just get fired.

    Just let it go.

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    Default Re: this girl is being a bitch to me...kinda long

    Yeah, that's possible. Girls get testy when they've had a shit night and imagine you've done better. I think all the aggressive behavior I've seen from girls has been at the end of the night when that liquid courage kicks in.

    I came up in NY clubs where girls dumped their bag of ones (pre-lapdance) and counted them in the dressing room sometimes with their friends help. If you counted your ones early the manager would cash 'em and you didn't have to go to the bank the next morning. So, it wasn't seen as having a hidden meaning and I'd be too busy organizing mine to go into the machine to think about strangers. If a friend did badly I'd feel badly but she wouldn't get bent over it.

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