Hi, I'm not a dancer, but I'd like to be... The only thing is that I'm married... I'd like to hear some opinions from you guys!
Hi, I'm not a dancer, but I'd like to be... The only thing is that I'm married... I'd like to hear some opinions from you guys!
Last edited by carpediem; 05-08-2006 at 04:01 PM.
Does your husband know you are thinking of dancing? I think it is very important to be very honest with him about this. My husband was very supportive of my choice to dance and even looked at clubs with me, but he is a very non jelous guy. There are actually quite a few married dancers on this site , so hopefully they will put theirin.
I don't feel myself today
Just a figure in a big monopoly game
Struggle is the price you pay
You get just enough just to give it away
I'm sinking but I'm floating away
Throw me a line so I can anchor my pain
The fabric is about to fray
Well you might be surprised at how many dancers are married. But he has to be totally okay with it or there will be problems. Have you asked him what he would think if you started dancing? That would be the first step, followed by total honesty on both of your parts.
I've asked him, and we've talked a few times. He told me he'd support me if its something that I really want to do (he rathers me not to) , but he is not sure that we aren't going to have problems later. He's not a jelous guy, but his answer tells me that he could be eventually. Plus he's a little concern about friends and family... and also said that it 'd be different if I was a dancer before we've met, but now it'd be kind of awkward...![]()
Well, as for family and friends, who said they need to know anything about it. It's none of their business. If it's something you want to try, and he's already said he will be supportive of you, then give it a chance. No one said you'd do it forever, and if jealousy becomes an issue on his part down the line, then you have to go in to this knowing that if that happens you will respect that and end it then. But then you will have at least had the experience of doing it and it wont be one of those things you look back on saying I wish I had tried that just once. I was already dancing when I met my husband. I continued to dance for about a year after we met. Eventually the jealousy part of it got the best of him. I made the choice to quit, he didnt ask me too, but I knew it was killing him and out of respect to him I made that choice. Funny thing was, about a year and a half later, we kept talking about how my old home club was packed and how the girls were banking it. We were getting ready to move to a new state in two months. He looked at me one night when we had passed the club again and said you know, if you want to go back, just for the last two months we have here, I wouldnt have a problem with it. I was like really?? And you beat your sweet arse I did..lol. And I had a total blast and banked the whole time. But see, he was in another place then, and much more secure about our relationship. Relationships have to have a mutual respect. You husband is open minded enough to say he would support you even though he's not quite sure how he would really feel about it and he wont until your actually doing it. He's not stopping you from trying something that you want to do. So try it, that way you dont have the regret of having never done it. But you will have to really keep the communication between the two of you open, and if gets too much for him, step down. It's the least you can do in return for him being supportive of letting you live out your fantasy of being a dancer. You never know, the two of you could have total fun with this and it could become a mutual fantasy that you get to experience and share together.
After reading you all I feel, ok this is it! But there is still some doubts though... I need to find out what is making me feel like this. And for sure there has to be lots of communication with him, so we both feel confortable.
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