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    man i have honestly never pondered something more in my life. i guess its safe to say if i have so many reservations about stripping then i shouldnt do it,, but part of me really wants to try! did u guys go through this before you first started or you pretty much knew u would be comfortable? well as comf as u can be with this. i need to know if i can do this. what am i so scared of?! probably seeing someone i know and seeing that look of judgement on their face.. 'oh man.. cant believe shes a stripper...' and i know i can always leave if i dont like it. and ur up there.. exposed.. and vulnerable no? i have so many thoughts racing. my friend is friends with a manager at a club i want to work at and its pretty much guaranteed i just have to say when. so im 22.. its now or never.. ahhhhhh

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    When you're up there, the only way you'll feel vulnerable is if you let it become that. Think of it like this> When you're up there, you're the one in control, you have the power. The power over the men that's in there spending their hard earned cash on YOU!
    You'll never know unless you try, good luck!

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    The only way to know is to try it! Try to do an amateur night first, or if that's not possible, just dive in! Like you said, you can always quit if you don't like it! I bailed out on my first night and it took a couple of days for me to go back, but I did! But if you don't, that's okay too, this isn't for everyone.
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    I agree with what has been said, however your comment about someone you know coming in and seeing you and then them judging you. No matter what your going to be judged.

    People think strippers are whores, drug addicts, everything else under the sun. Demand respect from friends and family and someone doesn't give it, get rid of them.

    If you want to do it... just do it. You will regret never trying if you really want to try.

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    If you really wanna do it, then go for it. You could at least try it for one or two nights to see how you like it, and if you don't like it, then don't go back. You'll never know unless you try!

    I never feel vulnerable when I'm on stage, because I don't let myself get into a vulnerable position. I always know what's going on around me and I'm always totally in control of every situation. I don't give guys a chance to put me in a vulnerable position. Plus, there are bouncers there that keep their eyes out for trouble also, so it's not really a problem.
    Take the road less traveled- just make sure you have a map.

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    You're not vulnerable at all! I feel stronger whenever I put those shoes on! Maybe it's the added height, maybe it helps me become Bella... I wasn't nervous about getting naked... I was just nervous about how well I could dance and hustle. But, I always wanted to be a stripper hehe. If you decide it's not for you, then quit. As for someone you know coming in... While it's always a possiblity, I think it's rare for most people. I've never had it happen to me, but I've heard of it happening to other people. The further away it is from where you live, the less chance there is of that happening.
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    If you're worried about what friends and acquaintances think, this is not the business for you.

    On the other hand, if you want to dance, and want a chance of making more money than you make now, since you are already basically hired, go for it.

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    Oh sweetie, I've gone through those exact same feelings that you've been going through. I've wanted to strip since I was 24 and I'm now almost 30! After nearly 6 years of going back & forth with the idea of wanting to do it, I finaly just said to myself, just do it! Who cares what anyone else thinks! Seriously, are these people going to pay my bills, get me out of debt, is this their life or mine? The first time I tried stripping was a club about 2.5 hours away from home which was a topless bar. The management, DJ, the girls were all really great and I could tell was a great club to work in but it involved lapdances which I just couldn't do. I also just didn't feel like I "fit in" there, so I left my first night after being there for about 4 hours. I told myself that dancing just wasn't for me. But I still had the desire to do it. This girl I know that used to dance at the Cheetah took me there and told me that the Cheetah was the best place to dance so I went there a couple weeks after that to check it out. I met the managers, took a good look at the club, etc. I auditioned a week ago and started there this past Tuesday. Let me tell you, I had so much fun!!!! I didn't feel vulnerable, embarrassed that I was naked or anything! I guess because I was there to be naked, that all the other girls were naked, etc. it didn't feel weird at all taking my clothes off! It felt very liberating! It was amazing how you could tease a man so much and get money out of them just by showing your assets! I honestly am glad that I didn't do it until now because I don't think I would've been ready 6 yrs ago. I think you have to do what makes you feel most comfortable. I think it would be a good idea for you to go to some strip clubs as a customer, buy a few dances from some girls to see what they do, ask the girls some questions about dancing (make sure to compensate them for their time) and read a lot of things on Stripperweb. I did all these things which helped really to prepare me. You could always try it and if you don't like it you can always leave anytime you don't feel comfortable. And ask yourself this question, the people you are afraid of judging you for stripping, are those people really that important to you? If it's your family then maybe you shouldn't dance but if it's just acquaintances or friends then they're not worth your time! Good luck!

    Oh, one other thing that helped me was I read the book "Ivy League Stripper", which I highly recommend! It's about a young girl in college that chose to strip to put herself through school. Reading that book for some reason made it easier for me to go through with it. She had all the same fears and concerns that you and I and many many other strippers have faced. Definitely read that before you make your final decision!

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    "so im 22.. its now or never.. ahhhhhh"

    i started right after my 26th birthday, so that's not true at all. anyway, i contemplated it for years. i finally decided to do it around a year ago when i went back to school.

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    Default Re: torn between whether or not to start

    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny
    "so im 22.. its now or never.. ahhhhhh"

    i started right after my 26th birthday, so that's not true at all. anyway, i contemplated it for years. i finally decided to do it around a year ago when i went back to school.

    So true! As I said in my post, I'm about 2.5 months shy of 30 and just started this week and have thought about it since I was 24. There's a girl in my club that started at 42 and she looks great and is having a blast! It's never too late to start.

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    im not worried about what my friends and aquaintances will think of my stripping persay..i just dont need them to see me suggestively flirt with men when im naked hehe.. honestly talking to u guys u have changed the way i view stripping and how i view strippers really. you seem like a group of respectable and educated smart women from all walks of life (ie not cokewhores who were abused) (not that there arent any but ya) i mean sometimes ill be honest with u i was thinking that some of u were 'in denail' about ur job. like when i read some posts where women type that there is nothing at all degrading about it.. or that its only empowering and a fun way to make money.. i would think to myself 'well good that they hav a great attitude.. but lets get real here.. its getting naked for male pleasure and profiting) but the more i read and learned i am more hesitant to see it that way. i mean it is a mans world.. and we all try and do what we can.. and stripping is not just some easy way to get rich.. i do not know ANY GIRLS that could do what you guys do or what i am considering doing. not because they are classier then me but they have no guts! thats how i see it. i mean i always knew i was different then my buds..im all into the carmen electra uber sexuality lifestyle and do not judge sexual women the way 'other women' do.. im pretty shy most of the time but i really think i could bring out my charm this way and it would be a good experience. im not gonna lie obviously its the money that entices me.. but i really dont see a problem with taking money from men that want to see me naked. i live in the suburbs and my club is downtown but more east end so i doubt i'd see too many people if any i knew.. always a chance though. i really appreciate your honest responses and i hope no one found anything i said offensive. you guys inspire me honestly and i find u extremely strong. god bless

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