So I really hesistated telling many of my friends about the dancing at first. Eventually I told everyone that I am close to. None of them condemned me for it or acted anything other than curious and very, very surprised.
Then one friend took it up, and she brought our mutual friend into it too...It's a long story, but basically the first one kinda got way too drunk when she started, and I really didn't like her doing it. She kept quitting, then going back to it...for about three months now. She's still dancing sporadically, as is the other one (the first has a full time job- a good one she went to college for- and the other is a university student like me)...
And two more of my friends are seriously considering it for the short term (like they want to do it for two weeks only to make some fast money). I really don't feel comfortable with any of this. I feel guilty, like maybe I misrepresented the job somehow? All those bad things that you think of when 'stripper' comes up, I tell them that they still apply (you have to avoid the drugs, the crazies, and of course all the judgement and/or secrecy). The money isn't *always* amazing, and I'm just a lucky earner half the time.
Not to mention that when the first two do come into work, they're all in my locker, wearing my stuff...I told them, if they're going to do it, and keep doing it, they can get their own damn costumes. And now they just go into my locker and wear my stuff when I'm not even at work (and call me to tell me so two days later). They're sweet girls, and good friends, but a little childish sometimes. I was frankly relieved when I thought they'd quit, because no more babysitting...
Yeah, I just have this weird feeling. I don't regret dancing- it's a good thing for me. But it's not for everyone- it's no quick fix to debt, god knows. And I'd hate to be a destructive influence on anyone. Some of these girls have substance abuse problems- I mean, if they couldn't stay off the coke in their normal daily lives...
has anyone else had this happen?



Reply With Quote



Bookmarks