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    Default Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    This is a semi rant. Just to warn you. I realized last night (again) that I am not good at this job (hence my EXCESSIVE drinking on my way home). I forget that, sometimes, when I'm doing well that I'm actually not good at it. (I know that sounds weird, but y'all know what I mean). So, I apparently have to re-educate myself. I'm thinking that a) I can re-read pertinent hustle hut threads b) start easing myself back into the habit of actually talking more to the customers and c) I think I need to, when I've recovered from the end of year brokeness, just need to invest $100 or so in lapdances from other girls. Just to see what they are doing and then... I dunno. Copy them or something. (Oooh - can I put an ad of Craigslist for that too? W seeking M: redhead stripper seeks someone to buy me lapdances from other hot women?). So I'm complaining, but I have a plan. I like plans. I can DO something about this.
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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    You and I are having a brainwave. I left last night wondering what the hell my problem must be. I introduce myself, smile, converse. I'm not ugly, get compliments on my fit appearance, have a decent stage show. What the hell?

    So, yeah. I'm re-reading posts. Observing other girls. Trying to figure it out. Maybe the lapdance thing is a good idea. I'd give you one, but you don't want my suckitude to rub off!

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    Yeah, I can kind of hear it a little - like the past couple days I've been working longer hours, so I'm not doing my Hi, how are you, wanna dance; hi, how are you, funny fact about penguins, wanna dance, and I can kind of hear my conversation and pitch is a little discordant. It could be that it is not as busy, so I'm getting fewer of the weird customers that like me (cause I'm kind of quirky, weird woman); but I can't MAKE it be busier, so I have to try to make it work with the customers I have.
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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    I happen to think I give terrible lapdances. I don't do anything special, and after three songs, they've seen everything I will/can do. After that, I start repeating myself, sometimes in the same pattern. But they still buy...Lots of crap like eye contact, shy little giggling, that's what works for me? I just try to act like the customer is THE most interesting, attractive, worldly man I've ever met (unless I just despise them, which I do for more guys than I should...I'm snobby that way, and if that's the case I make it clear I don't care if they buy another dance). All of that is probably obvious advice, but I'm serious when I say I lay it on thick. I think back to theatre at school- sell it! Commit to character! Gag when and roll eyes when he's paid you and left! And oh how they believe it, even the ugly, obnoxious ones are so quick to believe in their own perfection and worthiness. Ego-stroking is what I sell. It unfortunately leads to many 'meet me at my hotel?"s, but that's easy to decline when I already have their money.

    I know Ottawa sounds stupid right now with cop raids, but the money is still pretty good around here if you ever want to try it for a weekend.

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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    Everybody has got their good nights and off nights. Even the $1000 a night girls. When I have my off nights, I don't take it personal. I just use it as motivation to work harder on my hustle for the next night. All it takes is one guy to save the night.

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    Stay away from Craigslist Jenny. Trust me.

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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    I have these days also.. I buy new outfits, change my look, change my favorite drink before work or during, change my make-up.
    I change something that I have always done to bring back some of the newness. Wow, I have way too many outfits.. heh heh
    Please don't lick me, it tickles..



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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    Ladies,

    Think about how much of the real you is leaking through into your hustle.

    Us custy's come to SC's chasing an illusion that you like us/like dancing for us, etc. The reality is of course different, hence your need to learn the tricks of hustling us.

    I sometimes think girls don't earn when they get weary/jaded with the effort of playing the "sexy stripper" and can't sustain the illusion.

    Phil.

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    Sorry to hear it Jenny,

    But from reading your posts, I'm certain you'll rebound. Quirky girls are the best


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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    I'm on stripper hiatus right now. So I can understand where you're coming from. I've been here before, and taking another job for 6 weeks or so helps me put stripping back into perspective.

    I'll still take the occasional bachelor party, but that isn't the same as club dancing- the customers don't have a choice, it's me or they can sit around looking at each other.

    The emotional toll of being in the public view and opening up yourself to rejection and scrutiny can be very draining. I really got sick and tired of all the "helpful advice" the customers would offer. Usually the advice was something along the lines of "if you did extras you would make so much more money."

    So I'll rest a bit, and then sometime in July I'll jump back in and have a great time of it again.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    Well I gave it some (sober) thought and decided that it is likely related to fewer guys in the club. I mean, I appeal (like enough to spend money) to about 10% of customers. When that 10% was 20 guys, I was doing okay. If 10% of customers shrinks to like 4 guys, I'm in trouble. So I think I might actually have to try to make myself more (shudder) generically appealing. I don't know HOW I'm going to do that, exactly - I mean, if generic appeal was incredibly easy for me, I'd probably be doing it already. Maybe I can learn how to apply eyeliner or something.
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    I know what you're talking about. In real life I am also the type to appeal to a, ahem, discerning minority -- i.e., I'm strange and have a sharp tongue on me. When I first started dancing, I used to hide everything and act like a total bimbo. That was kind of exhausting. I've gradually found a happy medium. My stripper self is to my real self as a big budget Hollywood movie is to the novel it's based on: less weighty dialogue, fewer subplots, more sex, and perfect hair.

    The big thing was learning to keep my smart-ass humor to myself and smile mysteriously instead of blurting out. It's the same skill-set that keeps you popular with Great Aunt Ethel at your sister's wedding.

    If I were being myself, about one guy in ten would actually like me -- maybe less. I'm an acquired taste. Good thing is, most customers could care less about getting to know the real you. (Even the ones who say they want to get to know the real you -- they think the real you is a crazy nympho just dumb enough to fall in love with them or they wouldn't ask.) I've learned to appeal to more and more guys by keeping myself sort of vague initially and adjusting my approach to them. The easiest thing to do is to get them to talk about themselves. Ask questions and listen to the replies. You're not listening just for content of what they say, but also how they say it, what mood they seem to be in, why they're in the club, and what they want from you. If a guy comes in because he wants to wind down after work, you're soothing and sell dances based on how relaxing they are. If someone wants to celebrate a promotion, you're upbeat and admiring and sell dances based on how much fun they are and how much he deserves to have a good time after all his hard work. And so on. The game is figuring out what they want and how to convince them that you have it.

    Don't get bent out of shape. Business fluctuates, and we all seem to have our own personal cycles of being good and bad at this job. Things will pick up soon.

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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    I don't know if you've tried it but DW's course is good a laying out the basics and giving you strategies for connecting with a larger group of customers. In real life I'm an artistic gypsy chick but at work I'm everyhottie. I use different accents and expressions, different makeup styles and costume styles, and I display different parts of my personality for different guys. It's time you expanded your demographic chickie!

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    I'm one of the quirky ones too. I'm heavily tattooed, so that automatically limits my appeal. I'm also not a 'party girl' which is what most of the younger guys come to the club for. For example, more than once a youngster refused to dance with me unless I took a shot with him. Which I won't do. I've found that middle-aged to older gentlemen can often get over the ink, chalking it up to a young person's thing, and then get interested in conversing (and dancing) with me. So sometimes I'll switch times of day to find a different customer base and that will be all I need to start making money again.

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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    I feel for you! Its been really quiet here, last shift I had 8 guys walk in the door in 4 hours.

    Pity (not!) I dont do extras, cos 3 of them wanted THOSE sorts of services. I think they sense when its quiet and prey at those times.

    So I leave with $60.

    I just feel that there are so few guys coming in. its hard to make the dosh!

    Maybe a holiday is in order, then go back refreshed

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris

    The emotional toll of being in the public view and opening up yourself to rejection and scrutiny can be very draining. I really got sick and tired of all the "helpful advice" the customers would offer. Usually the advice was something along the lines of "if you did extras you would make so much more money."

    So I'll rest a bit, and then sometime in July I'll jump back in and have a great time of it again.
    I feel the same way about stripping. I know that a job isn't for me when I come home and try not to cry. But now that I'm on a hiatus, I miss the living crap out of dancing. I know this isn't the end for me, but it's good to take breaks so you can be assured stripping isn't your only option!

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo
    My stripper self is to my real self as a big budget Hollywood movie is to the novel it's based on: less weighty dialogue, fewer subplots, more sex, and perfect hair.
    Grace, print this on a t-shirt and sell it to dancers the world over. Well said!

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    Default Re: Wow. I got me no hustle left.

    I'm gonna go with the girls who suggested some vacay. I really start to feel the way you're feeling when I've been working too much (6 days in a row or fewer days but longlong shifts).

    And I know not everyone can pull this off, but I've invested in a couple really nice wigs that I've found totally help my hustle. They make me look drastically different, so I can prance around the club and act like I'm the "new girl." If I have long black hair, I'll act dark and mysterious... If I'm super blonde, I adopt a Jessica Simpson hustle. The more I focus on my job as an ACTRESS, not just a girl who needs to sell herself, the easier my hustle becomes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    Stay away from Craigslist Jenny. Trust me.
    And take a break from SCJ too. They'll put crazy ideas in your head and waste time you could be using to do something healthier for your brain, body or laundry.

    -Ev

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    ^^^
    That is actually really good advice. My next step in dealing with my addiction to conflict - revisiting the first step.
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