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    Who Else Does This?

    I'm talking to a guy... asking him questions about himself... So, I put on my interested face and I just space out. I don't MEAN to, I really try to pay attention... But I keep forgetting to pay attnetion and space out eventually.

    Then when he's done talking or it comes down to responding to something he said, I just giggle and say something generic like, "OOooooh, really?" Like it's really interesting. Sometimes I think they know I'm not listening to them and I think it hurts my money. I don't have ADD... What's wrong with me? Am I alone?
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    Not really. Think about it...you take in a lot of information in one night about a lot of people. Just NAMES alone is enough to fry your brain...then having to pay attention enough to other details that have no real bearing on your job is tough. Your brain is also trying to remember his name, psychoanalyze him, figure out what you've made and how much to go, when you're on stage next, and keeping on track with normal dancer routine. It's very loaded already!

    Of course, men won't think about that, and if they did, *poof* goes their fantasy of the perfect, docile woman who loves nothing more than listening to men talk. lol
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    I do that all the time! What I do is look them in the eye, nod my head, smile, say "uh huh, oh really, wow that's very interesting, etc." And then after one song or so, I move onto the hustle in getting him to get a dance from me. Just act like you're interested/listening, you can be a million miles away but he/she doesn't need to know that!

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    I do it all the time too, and I have to try really really hard not to yawn......and sometimes i can't help it, so i have to try to figure out a way to hide my yawn. lol. I don't know how to not do it. Oh well!

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    I also do this. I just ask them if they're ready to go do a dance when they stop talking. I usually don't spend much time listening to their bs. I DON'T CARE! I don't give a shit about their job or dog etc. All I see is that big $ on their head.
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    I pride myself on having mastered the smile and nod routine. Unless the custsy spends a bunch of money on me I normally forget everything about them in about 30 seconds after were done. Hell I have an issue remembering names half the time.
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    i can have a 30 min conversation with a custy (guys here pay for time and usually just talk) ask questions and seem interested, as soon as the 'dance" is over, i couldnt even tell you what the subject was!!

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    when I space out like that it usually means I find him borring. sometimes they notice, most times they don't. I'm pretty good at hiding it now....lol.

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    One good trick is to have something that you can ALWAYS interject into the conversation that will take their attention off the fact that you weren't paying attention, while initially admitting and gently apologizing that you weren't paying attention...because if you think about it, everyone spaces out occasionally, they probably just get offended that you think they're stupid enough to fall for the giggle and "oh really." Though-- who knows, sometimes playing ditzy actually helps the money.

    Anyways, use something like this (though have like three or four so you're not using the same one on all customers):

    -giggle- "oh, I'm so sorry. For some reason I just remembered this really funny joke that I heard earlier. Want to hear it? (and choose your own joke, but here's one anyways) What did the Kamikaze instructor say to his students? ... Watch carefully because I'm only going to do this once. -laugh outrageously- I don't know why I think that's so funny. So, have you heard any good jokes lately?"

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    I may be in the minority here,,,but if the customer does not creep me out or appear disrespectful...i am pretty interested in learning about them (Aslong as it is not about his sex fantasies or something,,,then i go on PRETEND INTEREST mode) Anyway,,, it makes my job way more fun. If i am not getting paid...i can still stay interested but only for about 5-10 minutes...i never forget i have a job to do.

    I would say maybe try to pay attention to a line here or there and ask a simple question about it...if you really think it is killing your money.
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    I can empathise! It's the main reason why I didn't do well at a club I was dancing within recently due to the fact that I generally have a 'script' that I follow these days... and do not like to spend more than 2-3 songs with a single customer (or group) before closing the sale (even if I am rejected).

    I'm trying to stay away from slow "conversation" clubs these days (places where the patron wants you to spend more than 2-3 songs with him before he buys a dance... sometimes near on half an hour). I can't speak with upteen amounts of people before burning out for the night so I like to work in clubs where I know I can build a bank of customers (say 5-6) who will either buy a high priced dance from me once or buy multiple 'standard' priced dances in the one "sitting" or buy a couple of higher priced dances over the course of his visit/the night.

    (Forgot to say that I do pay attention when money is involved like most other girls... then if he wants me to do all the talking.. I can BS with the best of them! Otherwise play "good listener" as I've been paid)
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    Don't let the conversation get too far unless you are both in VIP....then you definitely want to pay attention. Otherwise keep the convo light and flirty and go in for the kill! If he seems verbose, mention that it is hard to hear him with so much noise and perhaps where you should go where it is quieter...VIP! Oh man, how much money did I lose being the "good listener" to men that weren't buying and then watching them go with the girl who had the better, faster approach to selling?...Dont become too real unless they give you reason to; guys would often tell me I was too nice to get dances from, etc when I gave them too much of my brain up front! hee hee...

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    I know, I do it too. It's hard to listen to each and every word everybody says especially once they get drunk and get diarrhea of the mouth. I will listen for about 5 minutes but then I start to think about asking for a dance unless he is paying me for my time in which I try listen as much as possible but I do still space out after a while especially if he isn't very interesting.

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    After a couple years of dancing the same things happens to me now. These chumps are just boring. I'm always asking customers to repeat themselves and reminding myself to focus.

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    ....you were saying?

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    haha, i feel funny cause i do this to people all the time at my bridal shop job. its true, i dont care. ill pretend like im listening and then just go in for the money
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    Ahhhh good - it's not just me being retarded...I really couldn't give a fuck about most of these dudes and their issues. I space out bad sometimes....but I try to at least keep it to a point where I can bring the conversation back around and try to make a sale.
    The 'smile and nod' routine is a staple in my hustle. LOL - And I try to not talk for more than one or two songs to EVERYONE in the club or I would get even more burnt out than I already am.
    Sometimes people just have really draining energy, ya know? They can be making sense to someone else but their mannerisms and speech patterns don't mesh well with mine for some reason. Sometimes people will just BABBLE ON AND ON forever if you let them. There comes a point where you have to cut them off or you get stuck in their weird energy and your time gets sucked down the drain with all the money you could be making if you had approached someone else!

    I have one regular who is really cool to talk to and dance for. I'm very thankful for him. It took me several visits for me to remember his name, even though he spends about $120 on me each time he comes in. If it weren't for the semi-interesting ones, I would turn into one of those 'annoying' hustlers I was complaining about in a previous thread where the only conversation I would make would be, "wanna dance?".

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