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    the last 3 years of my life have been spent in two less than great relationships. the first ended with the oh so frusterating disappearing act after about a year and the second ended because i wasn't ready to get married. did i mention i moved across the country for guy #2? heh. apparently that wasn't enough. and, yes, i know it was my fault for moving in the first place.

    in any case, it's been 4 months since i ended it with guy #2 and since then i have had no action what so ever. i mean None. this is partly because i know almost no one out here and don't go out much, but i have had a few desirable opportunities to alleviate the dry spell and for some reason i've freaked out and avoided it every time.

    i can understand why i would be relationship shy at this point. i'm definitely not looking for a boyfriend, but i've never had a problem having purely physical relationships in the past. is it normal to have a hard time getting back in the game after a long relationship? it's not that i don't want it...i just can't seem to get myself to follow through.

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    well I can only assume it's hard when your wants are unclear or your conviction is challenged. I do not know much about your less than great relationships but normally that means they left a pretty lasting negative impression on which I do not doubt.

    Don't be so upset that you havn't gotten any, it's no big deal because if you really wanted some, your fears wouldn't be paramount.

    Take it day by day. Don't worry so much about why you didn't follow through with this situation and just accept that you didn't and that that is ok, and progress until you meet someone who you end up "following through" with.



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    Default Re: afraid to get back in the game

    Look for a lover not a boyfriend. That's what The Fireman and me have at this point ...and it suits us both. Whilst I would love for a relationship, I really don't want one at this point in my life as I do too much travel... and it would get neglected... so having just a lover (someone for some sex) suits me to a tea right now.


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    You know what, I agree, at the end there is nothing but sex in any relationship and no sex means no relationship. Great sex, great relationship, poor/no sex = poor/no relationship, that's all there is to it. As for bad experiences, they won't repeat themselves even if you try because you are different now, you won't do the same things even if you wanted to, and if they do they won't be as devastating. In my opinion. I'm too afraid to swim in that water, but then again, I'll try.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl
    Look for a lover not a boyfriend. That's what The Fireman and me have at this point ...and it suits us both. Whilst I would love for a relationship, I really don't want one at this point in my life as I do too much travel... and it would get neglected... so having just a lover (someone for some sex) suits me to a tea right now.
    but that is the problem. i am definitely Only looking for a "lover" but, when it comes down to it, i back out.

    for example, if they go in for a kiss, i suddenly decide to turn my head. i can't even control it. it just happens. i tell myself not to do it, but it happens anyway.

    it's like i've developed this weird, undefinable fear of physical contact or something.

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    i feel the wrong people are going in for a kiss then
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    i don't think that's it...i'm attracted to them, definitely. and i've never had this problem before (i was often refered to as the makeout bandit back in la...heh)

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    Then I'd say your body and brain are telling you you aren't quite ready yet--relax. You'll have plenty of fun when you are...

    I too made the disastrous decision to move to be with a woman I was in love with, and it ended very badly, to say the least. But I do have the memories of the first year, which was great, to say the least.

    Life is strange, and sometimes it seems like it's not much fun. But trust me, it's better than being dead, and I mean that literally, having looked in the rear view mirror and wondered if the guy following me was going to pull up and start shooting like they did when they killed my friend a few weeks before.

    Kind of gives you a different perspective on things--it gave me something I've never had before, patience. That's all you need.

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