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    so, ive noticed, the times i have been to a strip club, i have never been asked if i wanted a lapdance ( i am a 23 year old reasonable cute girl) i have gone with guy friends and then i have gone with just my boyfriend, and tongiht i am going with a girlfriend and another guy. always the guys get asked, when i went with my bf he got asked only when i was in the washroom or getting a drink. when it was just us sitting, neither one of us were asked. but i have never been asked, well actually no girls even tlak to me when i go, even though i look at them and smile at them.i am the one that has to go up to them, which i dont mind...but i think this is kinda weird considering ( at least in my area) there is a larger population of female customers in the club. i was also wondering if anyone ever gives couples lapdances?

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    just 4 the record, lipsticktraces....I'm a female custie and it was when I started going to the clubs alone that I had no trouble getting dancer attention. In fact, I got more than I could handle. But I also go to the clubs with one intention: to get lapdances. I'm not there to hang out with a bf or large group of friends.
    So my option probably won't work for you.....but it works for me. Good luck out there.

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    I don't care if you have a weenie, or a who-who. I'll ask Of course, with women, I'm more prone if she's hot. Many times, I get asked by the guy for the girl, sorta like a novelty thing. But as long as she doesn't mind, who cares. I buy lapdances too. Even if I don't really think the girl is "my type" (pretty face/busty), I understand/respect the job, so I usually buy at least a couple, or pay the dance fee, to let the gal have a break
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    I don't ask the female customers if they want dances, but they often will ask me. Same for guys there with their girlfriends- if they ask, I'll do it, but I don't ask them, especially if the girl looks like she doesn't want to be there, or gives me a dirty look.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JustJayda
    I don't care if you have a weenie, or a who-who. I'll ask Of course, with women, I'm more prone if she's hot. Many times, I get asked by the guy for the girl, sorta like a novelty thing. But as long as she doesn't mind, who cares. I buy lapdances too. Even if I don't really think the girl is "my type" (pretty face/busty), I understand/respect the job, so I usually buy at least a couple, or pay the dance fee, to let the gal have a break

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    At my club we get a lot of neighborhood women in who largely ignore the dancers, and I won't try to hustle them, but if a woman comes up to my tip rail and shows interest, I'll ask when an opportunity comes up. I will almost always ask couples who are even just looking in my direction -- I've never had a couple get offended, probably because they have each other for moral support and are less embarrassed to turn me down, thus more inclined to keep on tipping me if they don't want a dance.

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    well thats cool, i understand that if anyone isnt showing interest not to ask, but i try to show interest and make it obvious, and i do ask for lapdances, i mean my bf does not like strip clubs and thinks they are a waste of money, but i think they can be a lot of fun, tongiht actually was interesting, i went with my female friend and her male friend and we were in the smoking room and some other guy customer bought a dance for me just to see the dancer he liked give a woman a dance, i was a very happyu and willing participant. for the first time i got a lot more attention from dancers tongiht being with another female friend, that happened to be drunk and all over me. tongiht seemed to have had a more female crowd. i also went to a club that was located more in the city and it wasnt very busy. its very good to see that there are dancers that do pay attention to their female clientel.

    does anyone prefer giving women lapdances more than men? ( i know paige does thats cool)

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    i can understand. i've not once been asked i go up to the tip rail, and show interest etc.., but no one ever comes over...humph





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    Quote Originally Posted by sassysummer
    i can understand. i've not once been asked i go up to the tip rail, and show interest etc.., but no one ever comes over...humph
    In Oregon female customers are very common, but in most cases they also are not there for dances. I do ask women if they would like dances, but I would say 1 in 40 will actually say yes. Statisicly, I'm better off asking the guys first, and if I have not had any luck, then I ask the women. Usually the gals in Oregon are great stage tippers, and are a lot of fun to party with, but they rarely buy dances.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    In Oregon female customers are very common, but in most cases they also are not there for dances. I do ask women if they would like dances, but I would say 1 in 40 will actually say yes. Statisicly, I'm better off asking the guys first, and if I have not had any luck, then I ask the women. Usually the gals in Oregon are great stage tippers, and are a lot of fun to party with, but they rarely buy dances.

    well damnit! i guess i have to get over my shyness and ask myself..

    i wonder why that is here? well, i could kinda see with the air dances, since that's definatly more "visual" and we are not as "visual" as men, but i would love a couch dance since it's more about the "touch" than the "see", kwim?





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    I make an effort to ask the women. I hadn't always done in the past, but now I do and I will almost always get dances from at least one or two of them if they come in and some of them have been more generous with money than I would initially have imagined. A lot of the others avoid them so it's the best way for me to leave a good impression as I'm the one to come across as sociable, fun and the like.

    It's good for me because we are situated near the gay/bi scene so a lot of women that come in are here to SEE the women, not here because a boyfriend asked them to. I guess it's different in other clubs where the majority of female custies have been dragged in and therefore sulk or bitch either to our faces or behind our back. This will be why dancers avoid them like the plague; noone likes to feel awkward in their place of work.
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    lipstick... sadly at my club we get so many female customers just there to party it up and it pisses a lot of our dancers off so they ignore the female customers now, which I think is stupid because the girls 'partying it up' are the ones wanting the dances, but alas our girls get cranky once the female customers start jumping up on stage with us(im sure you saw a lot of that). Its to bad I was in the VIP the entire time you were there cuz damnit I wanted to meet you Next time. So yea thats why the girls pretty much ignored you

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    Quote Originally Posted by sassysummer
    well damnit! i guess i have to get over my shyness and ask myself..
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    I tend not to approach tables with women unless they have shown me some interest on stage. That's a little odd of me, since I've been to clubs as a customer plenty of times, and always buy dances for myself, boyfriend, or friends, and since I also loooove dancing for women. There are generally more pitfalls when it comes to dancing for couples/women, though. F'rinstance:

    1. The woman doesn't want to be there. At all. If boyfriend buys dance for himself, she'll be pissed, possibly run to the bathroom crying. If boyfriend wants to buy dance for her, she'll refuse, or sit uncomfortably through ONE. Waste of time.

    2. Girl is there with something to prove...how hip she is or how she can get down with the boys or what have you. She will tip you on stage and make a big fuss, but has no idea that you sell lapdances for a living, and she has to BUY one to keep you at her table. Or, she gets super-excited and grabby, tries to french kiss you like you are going to make some special exception for her because she's female.

    3. Even when women are polite and enthusiastic, they rarely buy more than one or two dances for themselves, maybe one or two for boyfriend. This is fine if things are slow, but I'm always on the lookout for the crazy customer who's going to fall in love with me and take me back to VIP for the night, and the chances of this happening with a lady are low.

    Generally speaking, time is better spent somewhere else. If you are a lady who wants dances, tip the dancer on stage and ASK her to come sit with you. TELL her that you want to buy a dance -- no reason to be shy! We want you to ask! Once we get there, don't expect us to hang out for more than a song before you buy a dance. Since you're probably not buying a multi-dance Champagne Room session, it's not worth the investment of time to us to soften you up. If you do want to go to the CR, let us know quickly. Because that's unusual, we won't normally assume that you do, and our mind-reading skills are not always perfect.

    All of that said, bring it on! I love the ladies...they're soft!

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    Some of the worst dances I've had were with women. Men usually get that if I tell them they can't do something, they can't do it but I find more women will assume that the rules don't apply to them. I've never made more than $40 bucks on a female customer. Then again, some of the best dances I've ever had were with women that really enjoyed it and had a great time that put me in a good mood for the rest of the night.

    I will usually approach a woman by herself or two women together. I'll avoid obvious couples or mixed groups unless the woman makes and keeps eye contact while smiling or if she tips me or something. Otherwise, I find it's not worth it (some of the most hurtful things said to me were by female "customers"). That said, I'm bi so I do enjoy dancing for women but I know a fair number of straight women who refuse to dance for women because of homophobic issues. I also know some bi and lesbian dancers that won't dance for women because they prefer to be detached from dancing and don't want to include attraction in their work.

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    I offer dances to women all the time.

    I'm still paying per song tho.

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    Re-read xoxoGracexoxo's post She "hit the nail on the head" and I totally agree.

    Female patrons who want private/lap dances have to be more pro-active in their approach as generally speaking the money is to be made off the men more so than women in a strip club.

    Then again, I visit strip clubs to have a good time however I'm a stage-tipper only. No laps for me thank you (I do them for a living so I don't see the point in getting one as they aren't fun whereas stage tipping generally is... plus in alot of clubs it is the only arena where the dancer gets to keep 100% of the money).


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    Hi,

    I'm a dancer and I talk to women, but I'm always a bit weary if someone buys a dance from me for a woman (because I don't want to get slapped, cause a problem in a relationship, or become some kind of false threat). I always talk to the woman when there is a man and a woman at the club and give them all my attention for those reasons I've listed above.

    I, myself, have been a patron at a few clubs in town and it was hard for me to get a dance to be honest. My x boyfriend would have to ask for me. My recommendation: go to the same club and have the girls get to know you. That way they won't feel akward about if they are invading some personal space of yours and the perameters of your relationship.

    There's a woman that comes into my work all the time and since everyone knows her by now, that she spends money, is good people, we go over and say hello. Last thing any girl wants is to be laughed at by another girl. Even though we're dancers and we are a bit caloused at times under it all it sucks to have a woman say something bad about you when you've got your top off!!!

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    I decided to become a dancer because I have always had huge respect for the women that did it (I'm a girl's girl...not catty at all!). I love to go to Club's and get lapdances....it's not because I want to molest the dancer...but because I really appreciate it and it's so sensual!

    I plan to ask women if they want a lapdance. I'd like to think that's why they are there.

    I get really upset when I got to a club to see a group of girls who have their arms crossed and they look disgusted. They obviously didn't come because they wanted to...they went because of their guys.

    Back home in Canada I used to go to this club in Vancouver all the time called Brandy's...the girls are gorgeous and the customers are a pretty even split of guys and gals!

    I would never be hurt or offended by what a female says to me in a club (but I do understand where you are coming from NikkiWest). The way I look at it...most girls would NEVER admit that they wish they could dance...but I think everyone has a fantasy about it. So if a girl is mean to you...it's her being insecure.

    Any girl that has to put anyone else down is insecure....I look at women because I appreciate beauty...I NEVER look ay someone and think rude things or out them down! I am confident in who I am..and yes I have my own insecurities...but I work on them. People who have to put down others don't like themselves and that's how they gain confidence. It's sad!

    I have dealt with some pretty mean girls in my life...but I never come back at them with verbal assualts. I usually just walk away or smile and say "it's too bad you feel that way".

    I like to bring people up...NOT down!

    And if it wasn't for my great experiences as a customer in Clubs I would not be making this decision to dance!

    I admire all of you for doing this job! You guys should proud of yourselves!

    And if any of the ladies on the board ever want a lap dance...you hit me up! I would love to give you one

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    I prefer dancing for women but they don't spend as much as the men.I did have one female customer several years back who was pretty hot and would keep me dancing for an hour at time. So yay for me because it was superfun and I made bank!

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    Right on sassy! you have a great attitude! i guess it is a lot more rare for women to be big spenders in clubs... i cant imagine the kind of women who would go into a club and insult the dancers,, like what do you expect when you go into a club? if they arent comfortable being there then they should be going, guys or no guys. for me,, suprisingly i am the one in my relationship that is interested in going, not my boyfriend.

    cally i had a really fun time at your club, the dancers were very entertaining and there was a fun vibe. i was very suprised at the amount of female patrons there,, there were a lot! when i was about to leave more than half the front row was women,, and yes there were 3 or 4 girls on the stage at once i think when one of the features was on, and then one of the female customers took a swing around the pole... i rolled my eyes.

    i think that because there are a lot more "pole dancing" classes available for women, those groups go to the clubs too, when i was going to the washroom i was talking to a 40 something year old woman that was telling me she was in a pole dancing class and they were all there to watch the dancers moves... didnt look like they were too interested in lap dances...

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    I went to a club that I am interested in working at last night. I was hoping to buy a dance or two to see what private dances at this club are like. Not a single dancer even looked at me twice. I know it sounds silly, but I felt weird approaching a dancer because the dancers were going to ask the people they obviously wanted to give dancers to. Then this beautiful beautiful woman was on stage and the friend I was with asked the waitress her name. She asked us if we wanted to see her and she came over and gave us a dance. It was awesome and I learned a lot going "upstairs" and seeing what the private dances are like. I really wish the dancers would approach us ladies! The dancer who gave me a dance told me that a lot of girls give her attitude which is really lame.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    I went to a club that I am interested in working at last night. I was hoping to buy a dance or two to see what private dances at this club are like. Not a single dancer even looked at me twice. I know it sounds silly, but I felt weird approaching a dancer because the dancers were going to ask the people they obviously wanted to give dancers to. Then this beautiful beautiful woman was on stage and the friend I was with asked the waitress her name. She asked us if we wanted to see her and she came over and gave us a dance. It was awesome and I learned a lot going "upstairs" and seeing what the private dances are like. I really wish the dancers would approach us ladies! The dancer who gave me a dance told me that a lot of girls give her attitude which is really lame.
    this is an old thread, but youre wrong on that. i dont go to people i "want" to dance for. i "want" to dance for everyone in the room because i want their money. i go to people think i can get dances from first, and then i keep going to the people who i still need to try.

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    I had a customer pay me to give me a lap dance. So customers offer women dances lol, women that work there. His dance sucked btw. Leave it to the ladies.

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    Yeah, i don't approach the people i'd like to dance for first, i approach those whom i think might be easier to get a yes from first. And for me, attractive couples or women are not high on the easy list. i've also had male custoemrs buy a dance and then give me the dance. i couldn't stop laughing which is probably not the reaction he was going for.

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    My interest in exotic dancing began while visiting a SC with an ex-boyfriend. The dancers were focused on the single men most of the time off stage. I got a lot of attention while at the tip rail, but was really surprised that the dancers didn't approach me for dances. Finally my fave stage dancer was free was I grabbed her immediatley and asked for a string of dances. It has been like this every single time i've gone into a SC. It's a bit frustrating because i'm there to partake in the illusion too.

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