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    Are you sitting all alone? How are you dressed? I never see things like this happen in my club to women--sometimes I go in to hang out when I'm off and never had any problems, although I am always with my bf or a group of friends. Try not to be by yourself, and stick up for yourself--be rude to the guys that are bothering you, walk away and tell the bouncer right away when this stuff happens.

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    hmmm... yeah. it sucks and it shouldn't happen. I guess I would just tip the bouncer/dj/manager to get the guys to shut the hell up or to leave. If you go there often, I'm sure it would work, because honestly, if these guys are trouble for you, they're going to be trouble for the dancers. Plus, a club shouldn't make it hard for women patrons to come in.
    So, I'd be up front with the bouncers and managers and even introduce yourself or tell them when you're there, tip them a five and say, "hey, I've had some problems, so I just wanted to introduce myself and let you know that while I'm not rolling in money, I will continue to tip you if you get the jackasses who normally bother me, to either stop bothering me or to leave."

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    I stopped this type of thing from happening by always having a dancer or two sitting with me at all times (or most of the time).
    I leave it to the professionals sitting with me to deal with the losers.

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    You know, I go to strip clubs and enjoy the show for just what it is: a show and a fantasy. It is not meant to be anything more. Most guys that visit SC's are decent people.
    But the very nature of strip clubs brings in many losers and predators as well. In my opinion, touching a woman in any way that she does not want constitutes an assault. Pestering a woman who has asked you to leave them alone constitutes harrassment. Following her to another table after she has asked you to leave her alone constitutes stalking. Now, a court of law might not uphold it because all it would take would be a few puritan jurors to decide that the sexually charged atmosphere interferes with normal reasoning. But it's bullcrap. I get just as excited as any guy in a club and I have never, never groped or harassed or stalked a dancer or any woman for that matter. It's all about self-control. And any man who can't take "No" for an answer obviously has self-control issues. Get away from him, notify the bouncers, and be careful. You just might save yourself or one of the dancers from a sexual assault or even something worse. I hope you have better experiences in the future. Be careful out there!

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    Try moving seats and if he fallows you then go to the bouncer.If there are no more seats then go to the bouncer.
    You say psycho like it's a bad thing

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    I'm such a butt head that I might have some fun with the guys. It would be totally priceless if you came in with a cucumber in your pants, and point out your "bulge" to the annoying customer.

    But realisticly, you should treat the customers like children. Don't be polite, don't try to "save" his feelings. Be very blunt, and say something like; "I'm only going to ask you once to leave me alone. Then I'm getting a bouncer."

    And say it just like you would to a child who is misbehaving. You will probably get a responce of "Why do have to be like that?" or similar answer. Just like with a child, as soon as he protests, signal the bouncer, or get up to get the bouncer. He'll leave you alone after that, and probably talk about what cold bitch you are to the dancers.

    Drunk people don't understand subtle hints. Sometimes not even blatent rejection.


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    Do you get lapdances? You should get these guys to buy them for you. This is my favorite game to play when I'm a customer and some jerk won't leave me alone. If you're there a lot and know a bunch of the dancers, they'll help you out with this.
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    In answer to your question, yes I'd be annoyed. There is a reason that strip clubs hire security, and I am not hired to do security, and although I'm sure you're delightful, it is not my job to run interference for you. If the guy follows you when you move, ask the waitress or bartender to hail the bouncer, or get the bouncer yourself. They are delighted to look after these problems and it is their job. If, for some reason, the bouncer doesn't want to help you, your options are to talk to the manager or find another club. If you are dressed provocatively enough that guys think you are a dancer, you might consider a pair of jeans. (I don't mean that it is all your fault because of the way you are dressed, but rather the confused people may not be confused if there is a marked difference between you and the dancers. We get women customers all the time, and nobody gets confused.) For the rest of them a simple "Look, I don't work here. Please leave me alone" will do it. I did once have a guy try to fight with me over it "you can't be nice to people unless they are paying you?" and I turned my back and asked the bartender to take care of it. The bartender asked him to move down the bar, and when the guy refused, said he would have to get the bouncer. The guy then moved. These people deal with obnoxous customers all the time, and anyone who works in a bar gets used to dealing with confused drunks. They know how to do it, and generally with less fuss than if you try it yourself.
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    I agree, I'd tip the bouncers to keep the creeps away.

    This sort of happened to me and I'm a guy! I was in a club and had about 6 or 7 cuties sitting with me and I was buying rounds and tipping them not to dance and we were all having a really funny night. This guy at the next table tries to become my new best friend and won't leave me alone. This went on for 30 minutes or so and the manager comes up and whispers in my ear "is this guy a problem?". I just nodded once and whoosh this creep was gone. Two bouncers escorted the guy from the building.

    The manager later told me that they had problems with this guy in the past. Turns out he goes to clubs looking for rich guys to ply his scams on. What a life huh?

    Because I've always made a habit of tipping bouncers and management my problem was instantly solved and I could get back to the work at hand.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Irelynx
    I don't prefer to ask the bouncer because it seems like a petty incident so I feel like I would be bothering him for something I should be able to handle myself. I guess I'm just going to have to start speaking up for myself and being more assertive.
    Agreed. The quicker you learn to react to harassment like it is NOT a petty incident, the better off you'll be. This is the bouncer's job to do so call upon him. F**k what these belligerant customers think of you. Use a firm voice and make it clear. Then take immediate action when they don't shape up.

    "I do not work here, I'm a customer. I want to be left alone so I can enjoy the show. If you do not leave me alone, my next step is to call the bouncer over here to remove you. If you don't want the bouncer over here, then leave me alone."

    Good luck with it.

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    And...this place is fun for you? Maybe I don't quite follow, but if I were to go to a club for fun and had some stupid custy harassing me, I'd either be ballsy enough to say "F off I don't work here!" or I'd simply find a more comfortable bar to hang out in.

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