this was in part inspired by DC thread (among others) about inconsistent strippers.
scenario: a PL walks into a sc. let's say, he's a guy looking for a stripper who can fool him better than most with her SS. perhaps, he has an ATF or he maybe buys dances from a couple of strippers. let's say, when they first met. she performed the whole 'GFE', ego stoke/conversation thing without fail, before asking if he wants her to rub his dick. however, lately she's been rushing him straight to the dances. which is further disappointing to him because he sees her chatting up other customers. yet, he still buys the dances hoping things will change. now, perhaps it will change or perhaps not. so, what's a PL to do besides quitting his day job, collecting unemployment and learning to play the guitar?
1)It's not personal. It's business.
in most instances, the level of the relationship between customer/stripper is more or less on the same level as the relationship as a waitress/customer. now, before anyone chimes in about it's not exactly the same as sex work...fine. how about...the level of the relationship between customer/stripper is more or less on the same level as the relationship as a crack or meth whore/customer or how about crack whore/dealer. obviously, the money is the drug and the money is whatever the customer is looking for (ie: goo-goo eyes, convo, etc).
anyway, my point is that, if a PL buys dancer from a stripper or is dropping money in the club on a regular or semi-regular basis. it's best to keep it on a "professional" level. however, no matter how "professional" you keep the relationship. there is an additional danger. specifically, it's not unusual for strippers to begin to view a regular customer as the 9th batter in the line-up: an automatic out or easy money or some meth flakes/crack rocks that she just found in the cushion of her couch.
yes, she will get lazy on you. if you let her get away with being lazy. yes, she will still want to get paid for a half-assed job. however, realize that it just comes with the territory of sc and strippers. so, don't take it as a personal affont. however, you do have options of your own.
2) free your mind and the ass will follow.
if you don't have the right mindset. everything i mentioned in 1# will be useless to you. sc are all about instant gratification or more aptly, "what have you done for me lately?". both customers and strippers want what they want. however, while a stripper will develop that mindset simply due to the nature of the biz. many customers don't have it within them, fail to develop it or are hesitant to put that knowledge in action for various reasons.
for instance, there might be an occasion when it's necessary to give a stripper a reality check. if a customer gets all sentimental over what's she done for him in the past. he might be hesitant to do anything about it. as a result, the problem grows and fester like a boil. so, it's a good idea not let sentimentality get in the way of your instant gratification. well, unless you're one of those altruistic or charitable types in the adopt-a-stripper program.
3) Nip it in the butt..er..bud.
which brings me to my final point. in a way, strippers can be like overindulged children. i mean, you not have PLs constantly building pedestals and temples in their honor. the customer also indulges her by giving her money regular or semi-regular basis. now, as long as she does her job properly. this isn't a problem. OTOH, if she's dogging it or you see a lack of focus (as stripper are wont to do) on her part. yet, she still wants your money.
what do you do? well, if you plan on giving any stripper money on a regular basis and she sets a certain standard of behavior that you like. from the very beginning, you have to let them know anything less is unacceptable. if it's necessary, you have to be willing to remind them that they must earn your money. it doesn't come free and there are strings attached. IOW, it's time for a reality check to correct the problem.
if think it involves a lot of drama and headache. frankly, nothing could be further from the truth. like i said, they do want the money. i've haven't met a stripper yet, who has turned down the bills i'm peeling from my tiproll.



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) you can NEVER let this get away from you. The results of losing track of this can potentially be far far worse than simply being taken for granted by a dancer. Buy and enjoy the fantasy but keep at least a thin line tied tightly to reality at all times.

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