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    Miss. Kristina Lee
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    Default please help-im being harrassed...

    im in a very odd situation right now. let me start from the beginning...

    i was learning how to tattoo under a shady shop owner, so i left the shop. it took me a couple of weeks to get some of his equiptment back to him via a third party becuase i was afraid of him.

    now his girlfriend is harrassing me. i have never met her, or spoken to her directly. shes also canadian and im american. she comes out on the weekends to ohio to visit her boyfriend. she sends me harrassing text messeges and leaves me harrassing voicemails saying shes going to kick my ass and she knows where i live. she goes to the bars that i go to looking for me to beat me up, and threatens my friends. she also talks shit about me on myspace.

    i do not answer the phone when she calls, i do not reply to her text messeges and i avoid the bars she goes to when she is in town. this has been going on for 3 weeks now and im getting fed up.

    i called the police and they said that i would have to get a trace put on my phone line to determine if i would be allowed to file a harrassement report but i called my phone company (t mobile) and they say the have no ability to do such. i even asked them if they could block the numbers im being called from and they said no!

    this girl is not letting up, and i told her i would file charges if she touches me but she still is keeping it up. i dont know what to do i dont want to get beaten up. im not a fighter. i dont know what to do.

    any advice appreciated. im at my wits end.

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    Have you made it clear to this person in writing that you will have no further contact with her? Have you responded to any of her threats?

    The person you spoke to at T Mobile obviously did not know what he/she was talking about. Call them again and ask to be put through to a manager immediately. You need to have a record of her calls and text messages. Have you saved them on your phone?

    This is Ohio state law:



    So yes, what she's doing is illegal - "menacing by stalking".

    You need to file a both a civil and criminal protection order. This link explains the difference.



    Here are the forms and instructions:

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    Miss. Kristina Lee
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    yes i have i told her that i wouldnt respond to her anymore.

    someone suggested me finding out where she works since shes a child youth councellor and forward them everything so she gets fired, but i dont know her last name.

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    Miss. Kristina Lee
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    and yes i have her voicemails and her texts saved to my phone.

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    You are being stalked. The phone company CAN help you out with this. Try emailing them. Don't bother with the local store or what not - go straight to corporate.

    Keep your voice mails and text messages and such from this girl. The police will need em - especially if it is over a period of time to prove it is more than just one nights steam.

    Good advice in smartcookie's post.

    Buy mace.

    I would like - fed ex that stuff back. Shady guys tend to hook up with shady girls.

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    Nah, it's best to stick to the proper legal channels. I know how awful this can be from firsthand experience and I understand the desire to get back. But I think doing that would inflame the situation further.

    The only thing I'm not certain of is how restraining orders work when the harasser isn't a U.S. citizen and lives outside the U.S.
    Maybe your local public defender can tell you? Here's a list of Ohio public defenders:



    I'd call in the AM...the sooner you get the ball rolling, the less anxious you'll feel.

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    Miss. Kristina Lee
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    thank you very much.

    as for the stuff i needed to get back to the guy it was returned weeks ago.

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    Sometimes phone companies don't want to do the phone tap thing...but, if you go to the police and tell them that you need to make a complaint, etc...taking that complaint and giving it to the phone company will prompt them to put the necessary traces on your phone.

    And, I agree that you do not deal with the regular "customer service" reps. Ask to speak with a manager. They'll keep asking you if they can help you and you just need to say, "For my personal safety and well-being, I need to speak with a manager, NOW."

    Get names, dates, and times of every conversation you have with the phone company and the police.

    Get a lawyer...get all of the legal facts. And, if I am not mistaken, a non-citizen would be forbidden to enter the US again if they have a stalking/harassing charge against them...and they may be brought up on charges in their home country (something to do with international stalking stuff). I'm not too clear on the whole thing, but being that this is involving a Canadian national, you need a lawyer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss. Kristina Lee
    and yes i have her voicemails and her texts saved to my phone.
    yes keep saving everything for evidence..... she will most likely loose her job if this stuff is presented to authorities for investigation.... I tried to have verizon do it for me bc an ex was threatening me and my family and they wouldn't do it, so i had to go to the police.... why don't the police give you the damn restraining order already???? im confused on that part.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Miss. Kristina Lee
    now his girlfriend is harrassing me. i have never met her, or spoken to her directly. shes also canadian and im american. she comes out on the weekends to ohio to visit her boyfriend. she sends me harrassing text messeges and leaves me harrassing voicemails saying shes going to kick my ass and she knows where i live. she goes to the bars that i go to looking for me to beat me up, and threatens my friends. she also talks shit about me on myspace.
    F*** that! You want me to come up there and fight her for you?! You're only up the road and I have alot of shi to get off my chest!


    Quote Originally Posted by Deogol
    You are being stalked. The phone company CAN help you out with this. Try emailing them. Don't bother with the local store or what not - go straight to corporate.

    Keep your voice mails and text messages and such from this girl. The police will need em - especially if it is over a period of time to prove it is more than just one nights steam.
    In all seriousness though, I agree with the above response, and everyone elses thoughts on your situation as well.







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    [QUOTE=cinammonkisses]F*** that! You want me to come up there and fight her for you?! You're only up the road and I have alot of shi to get off my chest!


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    Wouldn't the simplest solution be to just disappear from her radar? Get a new number, delete your myspace account and re-open it under another name with a new, free email address. Get a P.O. box and apply for a change of address to make it look like you moved.

    I mean, how determined is she to mess with your life? Is she crazy enough to just show up at your front door and risk prison time? Is she willing to risk being banned from ever being allowed in the US again? If she has to actually come looking for you will she do it?

    My gut tells me no. It is too much risk and too much trouble for most folks just because someone pissed him/her off.

    But it is your situation, and you know the details. Maybe she is out and out looney tunes, and would risk everything to get her "revenge".


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    Have your biggest female friend kick her a*s. I'm serious.
    It sounds like she knows you're too scared to confront her, so she'll keep on doing it. It's shoots and giggles for people like her.
    I know this sounds heinous, but she has much more to lose if she gets into an altercation over you (deportation, being barred from visiting the US.) So let her do it to herself & then your problem is gone.
    (((Hugs))) One of my last room mates was an albino gimp/ aspiring tattooist, so I know dudes like that end up with the CrazyCrud of the female species.

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    i once filed harrassment charges based on two threatening voice mails. you can do it. just be persistant and have the police record the voicemails into their records. what ever they did, it worked. this girl threatened to kill me (and she was looney tunes) and after i filed the charges they contacted her and she stopped. now she has a smudged record, and i can sleep in peace. if these people really are refusing to help you, take the above advise and change your number and my space. if you become harder to find, she most likely will lose interest because it is too much work. unless she is determined to kill you (and if she is RUN!) this will get her off your case. stalkers are a pain in the ass, but there is always a remedy. good luck!

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