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    I don't know if guys get as hearbroken as girls after a break up. My ex is acting all cool about it. He text me once and said he missed me and he did not like seperating "our" stuff(we lived together). Yet he is not coming home until this weekend, which is when he is moving out. He is staying with his friend who he is moving in with. I am a wreck. Do guys get as heartbroken as girls after a breakup?

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    No, we don't waste our time on such nonsense. You know, plenty of fish in the sea, and all that.
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    My man said hes just playing it off like hes okay... he said it sounds like he is really rather upset about it. But you know how guys like to play like they are all cool n shit Trust me i've seen enough heart broken guys in the club to know they do. I had one guy who was super hot and no more then 25 break down in the middle of an LD and start crying because he said I reminded him so much of his ex who hes still in love with(she dumped him). Needless to say I was shocked.

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    Fuck yea!

    There is one gal - I would have liked for there to be something more - but not the right time in her life and probably not with me when it was. I sure made an ass out of myself on that one. But I still think of her these five years later nearly twice a week. (More now that I am single once again.)

    Another gal - I was flat out in love with her. Went through a lot of shit with her alcoholism. But I loved that girl in a powerful way. Finally, had to give up on her - she loved her bottle more than me. The sober she I think about a lot.

    Hopefully there will be someone out there for me to fall in love again. It feels good while it lasts!

    But hell yea, guys get heart broken. They just show it in different ways. We move on a lot faster I think, but there is always a little something rattling around in there till the day we die I think.

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    Sorry, but it sounds like he's just trying to avoid some drama. The fact that he doesn't want to separate your stuff is the big hint. When I went through my divorce, my ex wanted to discuss/fight/whatever about everything in the house. I took my clothes and old pics and left everything else to her. Wasn't worth the emotional baggage. What hurt most was leaving all the pets to her, but gawd would I want to schedule visitation rights for the next five years?

    Guys do go through difficult times, but I've found in this country, most are less dramatic about it than gals. Just a style difference between guys & gals in the U.S. hope you can get used to it.


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    Quote Originally Posted by sent_from_heaven11
    I don't know if guys get as hearbroken as girls after a break up. My ex is acting all cool about it. He text me once and said he missed me and he did not like seperating "our" stuff(we lived together). Yet he is not coming home until this weekend, which is when he is moving out. He is staying with his friend who he is moving in with. I am a wreck. Do guys get as heartbroken as girls after a breakup?
    It will be 5 years next month that my marriage ended, and the effects are readily apparent even today.

    Some of us may keep it calm and collected on the outside, but on the inside, the sight isnt pretty.

    So I echo Deagol. Fuck yea we do.

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    ...if there is some other girl in the picture already he might not be so heartbroken at the moment.
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    Yeah we hurt! Most of us play it off, some of us don't. I have seen women do the same thing. It's not just a guy thing.
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    My uncle and shrink told me that guys just keep quieter about it. Women tend to get it out through crying, Ben & Jerry's, bitching to friends, etc, which is more visible but they also get over it more quickly. Men, on the other hand, deal with it less visibly and take longer. That's jsut what I heard.

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    If my current marriage ended, no.

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    Nah, prob. not.


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    I used to think that men didn't feel heartbreak, but then I dated some guys who were the clingiest, whiniest, spinelessest, emotionally insecure babies ever.

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    O, then you've dated my ex.
    They have hearts? news to me


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    Well everyone and every situation is different...The short easy answer is yes we do. But sometimes when a relationship ends it's a breath of fresh air!

    Other times it's just like having your favorite pet die

    But if you've dealt with heartbreaks over and over, sometimes you just get bitter and angry and just don't care anymore. It still hurts but you just bounce back faster from experience and get a bit more negative, at least thats how it works for me.

    Quote Originally Posted by sent_from_heaven11
    I don't know if guys get as hearbroken as girls after a break up. My ex is acting all cool about it. He text me once and said he missed me and he did not like seperating "our" stuff(we lived together). Yet he is not coming home until this weekend, which is when he is moving out. He is staying with his friend who he is moving in with. I am a wreck. Do guys get as heartbroken as girls after a breakup?
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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz
    O, then you've dated my ex.
    They have hearts? news to me
    Im offended by that comment, woman.

    I have a heart. I keep it in a nice jar of formaldehyde on my shelf, next to the big jar of eyeballs and the small jar of ears.

    Proof posivite right there.

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    Heh... my ex whined and cried worse then a 2y/o... when I broke up with him he threatend suicide... I hate to say it but I think men cry and whine worse then woman... when a girl breaks up with them a majority have a hell of a harder time coping them woman do.

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    Sometimes, but not as much as girls do.

    And we don't let it linger as long either.

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    I think it depends on the relationship and stage of life.

    For the longest time I didn't give two shits when i broke up with a relationship. It was obvious that it wasnt going to work. Part as friends and moved on. No tears no emotions. And I am not a guy! lol

    Now that i am older and more settled in my ways, it is hell to break up. I put more into relationships now. I actually look for a man with the right character for me. I want to make it work because I want a long term relationship. I allow myself to fall in love now.

    Some men have hearts just like some women. Some men are selfish assholes just like some women are bitches from hell. It is all about who you choose to begin with.

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    Getting out of a relationship is GREAT!

    It's like you move on and have all the time in the world to rethink your position in this whole mess, what do you want, what you don't want. Usually break ups are all about illusions really, that's why they hurt. But it's true the more you "whine" the harder it is. I think the heartbreak is actually whining anyway.

    If it wasn't for break-ups I would've never become a kind of man I always dreamed of becoming. (And deep down inside I am thankful to those women that broke up with me, because I would have never had the guts to do it myself at the time)

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    The only answer to this question is on the individual basis. It is like asking if guys like eating apples.

    If your man does not feel heart broken after ending a long term relationship there can be many many reasons for this, too.

    But, yes, men feel heartbroken. Haven't you ever been in a sports bar when their favorite team lost the big game? You'd think someone died!


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    Hell yea they do! They just TRY to act "manly"... Which probably makes it worse for them.
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    It depends as much on the relationship itself as it does on the individuals involved. Some people are just very emotional and not very thoughtful. Others are the opposite.

    I had a tough time with my first 'breakup'. Looking back on it after 12 years or so, I have trouble rationalizing my response to it.

    The second one was less of a breakup and more of a civilized dissolution of the relationship part. We both arrived at the conclusion it was over at pretty much the same time. We also kept in touch for a while after it was officially 'done'.

    So yes, we do suffer heartbreaks, but only in some situations.

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    The only time I've had a relationship end where it was a heartbreaker was when the girl was murdered. Otherwise its all pretty much 'cool, I can watch more F1 races now'
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    Quote Originally Posted by Prester_John
    Im offended by that comment, woman.

    I have a heart. I keep it in a nice jar of formaldehyde on my shelf, next to the big jar of eyeballs and the small jar of ears.

    Proof posivite right there.

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