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    Okay, so you know how you have different personalities? I don't mean, like, the personna you have with your family vs the personna you have with your friends, vs the personna you have at the grocery store... I mean, the difference between yourself and yourself at work. For example, while Bella and I have things in common, she is definately more rambunctious (sp), fun, and outgoing than I am. Do you ever worry that that's weird? I mean, I know it would be worse if you tried to be yourself at work or vice versa... But isn't that how split personalities form? You take yourself away from who you are... Hm, it's just something I've always wondered about... I just want some other imput.
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    i think almost everyone does this. as dancers, we may just be more aware of it because it's part of getting ready for work, just like putting on makeup.

    but really, everyone's got their different "personalities." the one for the parents/family, for friends, for work, for the first date with the hot guy you can't believed actually called on the day he said he would...

    it's not so much that we have split personalities; we are who we are. but we can chose which aspects of our personality we want to display or hide. sometimes we can even exagerate...as long as you don't find "Bella" doing things that you know you shouldn't, i think you're ok.

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    i find that "Leigh" started out as an extension of myself but has separated further and further from the real me. My partner finds it's quite disturbing because he'll be waiting outside for me to finish my shift and all these guys will walk out saying between themselves how "hot" Leigh is and how wild and exciting she is and how they wish their girlfriends/wives were like that and how lucky her boyfriend must be....

    Then there's my poor darling fiance who, when i emerge, get's the girlfriend who has gone back to my quiet introverted, boring old me who's too tired to have sex or go for a few drinks, i would rather watch TV than go out.

    i really feel for him because, as he says, it's true that the customers get the best of me,
    I dont' feel the need to have to impress him the same way that i need to make money but it's really not fair on him, he does get the raw end of the deal

    It's very true. "Leigh" is an outspoken, blunt, outragous character who never stops moving coz "she'll get bored and likes to be entertained". She's super confident without a worry in th world.

    The real me on the other hand, has more insecurities than you can shake a stick at, doesn't like to voice her opinion, constantly complains about sore back/next/hips/feet and won't even order over the phone (ie:pizza/taxi) because she hates the sound of her voice.

    i believe we have "created" these persona's to help us cope with our insecurities. Leigh is everything i want to be but will never be becuase i'm too 'normal' to be her. She is every guy's fantasy, which would be way too much for me to cope with in real life.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aprilleigh

    i believe we have "created" these persona's to help us cope with our insecurities. Leigh is everything i want to be but will never be becuase i'm too 'normal' to be her. She is every guy's fantasy, which would be way too much for me to cope with in real life.
    I'm sure that this insecurity is just because you must be a very sensitive person in real life. You sound like you have a beautiful personality, and when you say "Leigh is everything I want to be but will never be..." ok- true, you have to have a different persona at work to protect yourself, but You are creating Leigh at work, so she must be in there at least a little bit. Just figure out how to take the good parts of her that you like and when you have the energy, share her with your man and the rest of your "real world". Shyness sucks, and I have been there, but when you surround yourself with wonderfull people who love you for you, you can blossom very quickly into who you want to be.
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    i was just talking about this over the weekend!!

    yes, the split personality thing is a bit weird and scary.
    i recently went to a new club to dance, and they already have a jessica. now what do i do?? i have to make a new name. im now caitlyn- but catilyn means nothing to me. shes not a character yet, i like jessica,she was pretty cool-she was everything I am not in real life. caitlyn is way too much liek me atm.

    lol my bf cought me acting jessica over the weekend, and started calling me jess. sometimes she comes out in my personality during real life, i like it. i only wish i could play her 24/7.

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    I don't find it that weird. If I didn't put on the stipper "mask" I'd be crazy. I need that persona. I'm not me once I walk through those doors. And, I like it like that.
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    Mermaid... Yes, I'm having the same problem! I'm "bella" but I have another club where I have to be "rain". So, bella and rain are very similar... but I think Bella's more like me than Rain is... I was talking to this guy online when I made this thread... I was telling him how shy I really am. He was asking me why I wasn't shy at work then. I started to explain how it's just a performance at work and that Bella is a completely different person... Then I started to feel like a crazy person.
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    Don't feel crazy at all. Most good salesmen have the same 'split personality' going for them.
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    hey interesting subject! well sometimes i take on 'different personas' depending on my mood. like you know, an alter-ego. i have this sexy, confident, devil-may-care sultry sexpot queen alter-ego that comes out and i use sometimes, but i dont know what to name her

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    Most people have this to one extent or another, as an above poster said. My partner sometimes gets really awkward when she gets home from work, until she changes into home clothes, then she's OK -- because her work persona just doesn't like to relax, or be cuddly, or get cat hair on her clothing, etc. And she works in an accounting office!

    So, if dancing does this to you . . . so does math. Feel better much?

    I wouldn't say my work persona is the best of me. She's definitely more outgoing and better at garnering positive social attention. She's also somewhat bitchy, drag-queen style.

    At home I socialize very differently. I have a distinctly male style of communication, which translates to "tomboy" at work (I have earned more since I stopped being fakey-fakey female and started being female the way I knew how, which is to be a tomboy.) and is much more quiet-butch at home.

    I've had people tell me "You look like that other girl who comes in here a lot" (meaning me) when I'm on my way home from work, and be surprised to find out.

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    All you ladies that have a separate character for work are so lucky, I'll bet the bullshit from the customers gets to you a lot less that way. I've been dancing for about a year and a half and I never figured out how to make a different character, at work I'm the same just slightly more tactful (like if I have nothing nice to say I just keep my mouth shut at work). The plus side is that I don't get all my stories confused, the really big downside is that I tend to take attacks on my "character" which is really me more personal, because since I'm being myself they really are attacking the "real" me. This hurts my money a bit sometimes, but girls with a character seem to be good hustlers. So do any of you ladies have any advice on how a dancer who is not a newbie can pull this off? I'm scared that since I've already gotten used to being myself in that environment it will be very hard to change.

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    I think the industry requires an exaggerated persona, a boiled down hyped up version of your sexuality. For most of us, that becomes a role/script/schema that's seperate from the rest of our world, and I don't think that's a bad thing. If it becomes extreme dissociation or dis-integration, it can be bad.

    I think integrity (integration, honesty with yourself) is really important.

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    just call yourself an actress..that's essentially what actresses do. they play a part..they may bring some of themselves into it, but I wouldn't call it a split personality. You're just an oscar winning actress!





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    Quote Originally Posted by pinkkitten
    All you ladies that have a separate character for work are so lucky, I'll bet the bullshit from the customers gets to you a lot less that way. I've been dancing for about a year and a half and I never figured out how to make a different character, at work I'm the same just slightly more tactful (like if I have nothing nice to say I just keep my mouth shut at work). The plus side is that I don't get all my stories confused, the really big downside is that I tend to take attacks on my "character" which is really me more personal, because since I'm being myself they really are attacking the "real" me. This hurts my money a bit sometimes, but girls with a character seem to be good hustlers. So do any of you ladies have any advice on how a dancer who is not a newbie can pull this off? I'm scared that since I've already gotten used to being myself in that environment it will be very hard to change.
    What do you mean? The only attacks I take personally are stuff like... This one dude told me last week that i could make a ton of money in Vegas if I lost five or ten pounds!!!! I was like... Fuck YOU dude! Look who's TALKING! Ugh! Don't take attacks on your character personally... They have a million ulterior motives to make you feel insecure.
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    So Anastacia, does this customer like, totally own you now?
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    I think as long as you are able to separate the two personas it is fine. But some girls start being their work persona outside of the club and that is when I see trouble begin for alot of them. At least that is what I have noticed over the years.

    We all need down time no matter what the job title. However I think some jobs require it more than some. Other than stripping jobs like acting and psychology therapists and such need it more than the grocery clerk.

    The trick is stay who you really are off the clock and not become what you do.

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