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    When you are approaching a male/female couple to sell a dance, do you usually ask the guy first or are you more successful asking the woman first?
    I get the feeling that some women are offended if you hustle their bf/husband instead of them initially, but this could be my imagination.
    I've had some success with paying a lot of attention to the woman as if I am attacted to her and then the guy will get turned on and buy a dance for her. Sometimes it's better if I ask him to buy a dance for his gf straight out.

    Who do you flirt with first? Who do you flirt with more? I would hate to have the woman get upset that I am paying more attention to her man, but sometimes SHE is the one that wants to buy HIM a dance!

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    Generally speaking, when a couple is in the club it is for him to watch her receive a lap dance and then for her to give him permission to have some too. That's the usual pattern that I've noticed more than any other. So understanding this, often times the woman is going to be a bit nervous and the guy is going to have a big grin on his face and be a bit anxious. While some couples frequent the clubs, often times it is as a result of the guy asking, "hey, honey, why don't I take you to a strip club tonight?" and she agrees.

    So, your best strategy is to first make her feel comfortable. When you ask to sit down with them, ask them as a couple and make sure they both agree, not just him. Remember, for the most part, it's about her, not just him. So when you sit down with them, make the early small-talk with her first, and then him, and them together. When it's time to close the sale, ask who would like to have the FIRST dance. This is a very key selling technique that not only asks the question of which of the two of them would like a dance first, but also that since you are asking "first" it implies there will be others to follow for the other person as well. It's a really powerful method of selling more than one dance.

    Since most likely it will be him rather than her buying the dances, you should play the odds and ask him that question rather than her. Most likely he'll have you dance for the wife/gf first and then him. The way you alleviate the issue you asked regarding not letting her feel left out is that when you ask, "So, who here would like to have the first dance?" you look at him but nod your head in the direction of her. This is a subtle way to signal him to buy for her first. It works like a charm!

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    Thanks!! I will certainly keep this advice in mind.

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    I avoid couple altogether and usually they just call me over if not I hustle my single guy or guy groups.I'm bi but I have had bad experiences with couples.
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    I usually chat up the lady first, partly because of manners and partly because I'm generally more interested in her anyway! I talk to both of them, with an emphasis on her, and when I'm ready, I ask him if I can dance for his girl. Once she's done, I'll say something like, "So now it's his turn!" She usually says yes.

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    Me first! Me first! In fact, I don't like him getting dances at all - they are all for me! Okay - if he REALLY wants one, but that's rare!

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    Default Re: couples - ask the woman first?

    Quote Originally Posted by SassyMom
    Me first! Me first!

    HAHAHA AGREED! lol





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    I always ask the guy, "So when are you buying your lovely lady a dance? I'll show her a good time and we'll show YOU a good time! *winkwink*" XD

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    yep I generally aim my game towards the girl first and then the guy....because as women we all know that other women can be extremely jealous and catty.....it's easier to chat it up with them for a few minutes and get to feel them out...then go in for the kill.
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    As above, always make the women feel comfortable. It seems that the majority of the time, the woman has the first and last word on who she wants a dance from. I almost always pitch the dance as a couple with a "let's all party!" attitude. That way you maximize your time and money (you won't have to get dressed, pitch another sale, and get undressed again.) I definitely pay more attention to the women in a couple's dance because he'll likely get more turned on by seeing his wife get turned on by another woman than anything I would do to him.
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    As a female I would want to be approached first or just both of us as a couple. If you were to approach the man first and exclude the female it would make her feel left out and uncomfortable. I have gone to a SC with a guy and had nobody approach us and we left with a wad of cash unspent.

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    I love dancing for females, especially female-female couples! You know they really want to be there :-)
    HOWEVER I wont go near a male-female couple, Ive had too many problems - either she is rude/jealous, TOO touchy, or extremely uncomfortable. I had one couple book me in VIP for 20 minutes (they pay double as there are two people there) and expect to F$%k while I watched.
    I told them that if I wanted to see them do that, Id invite them around to my place, and that they could receive a refund, but it wasnt happening under ANY circumstances!

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    Fool proof plan for couples, When you appoach the table complement the woman on her hair, earrings, hand bag, shoes or purfume, anything really. Ask her name walk around the room and come back. Call her by name and ask if you can sit down for a minute. Then ask the man how he lucked into finding this amazing woman. Tell him he will be the only man in the club who is going to go home and get some action, only if he plays his cards right. Then ask him if he is taking care of her. I fill them in on prices for dances and what they consist of. I tell them if they need anything to ask for Billy. It doesn't take long and they always do more than one dance. They also tip very well, you can get $100 out of a $45.00 dance.
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    Default Re: couples - ask the woman first?

    Definitely ask the woman first. If you focus too much on the guy, some women feel threatened and think that you're trying to hit on their man, even though we're just trying to make money. Find out if they're really a couple too-I can't tell you how many times I've visited a strip club with a platonic male friend and everyone just assumed that we were boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife. They could be friends or co-workers. I rarely approach couples because I've had too many bad experiences with them (i.e.: women being bitchy, couples trying to pick up a third person for a threesome, or the woman expects to get away with anything just because she's a woman.), but when I do approach couples, I usually ask them if they're married and then chat with them for a while. Even though I am leery about approaching couples, I am still happy to dance for women if they are polite and respectful.

    After you've been chatting with them for a while, say something like "I think this beautiful lady needs a dance." A lot of times after you dance for the woman, she will say something like "Honey, do you want a dance now?" to her hubby/boyfriend.

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    I've never made much money off of couples but I've had some relaxed experiences with them. Generally, I just go over and chat to both. I introduce myself to the woman, then the man and kneel on the floor in front of both and chat (have you been here before... etc.). After a minute or two, I usually get a good feel if she's just here for him or if she wants something herself. If I start off flirting with either, I sometimes lose the other. I find the friend first approach works best for me.

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