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    Last month I got in my first fight ever in the dressing room, and only my second fight in my whole life. Ive been dancing for 4 years now and always prided myself on not getting into any fights and always getting along with most of the girls. that all has changed now though.


    This girl and i shared a mutual custy, and for some reason she decided to tell me that there was a guy at the bar giving girls a lot fo money to sit with him, so i went and excused myself for a little while to go sit with him. i sat for a half hour and got 20 dollars so i was fairly pissed off. to make a long story short she had just told me that to get me away from the table to hog the custy for herself. i have no idea why hes one of those that always shares the wealth.

    anyway i confronted her in the dressing room about it right before we were all going to go on stage to sell our stupid shotglasses the stupid club made us sell. she got really snotty with me about it. i told her if she ever pulled shit like that on me again there would be trouble. she got in my face and started wagging her finger in my face and telling me fuck you and all that. i told her she needed to get out of my face and she still didnt move. hen thats when i felt the poke on my chest from her finger and i snapped.

    i ended up grabbing her by her hair and pulling her head down and beating her with the ass end of the shotglass about 6 times while kicking her. there ended up being blood on the floor and hair. i couldnt even believe what happened.

    i felt really bad for what happened but she did cross the line. she left and her boyfriend took her to the hospital. luckily the club talked her out fo pressing charges since it would involve the club and she was in the wrong to a point. and amazingly i wasnt fired.

    i did however lose the custy as she told him what happend with a twist on what really happened. all in all it was not worth it and i feel like a big dummy. at least it got me lots of street cred and no one else will fuck with me but i still feel like a big meanie.

    has anyone else gotten into dressing room fights? did you regret it?

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    You realize you are now the "psycho-bitch!" of the club? LOL!

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    haha yeah but a lot of girls agreed that she had it coming and that i did tell her to get out of my face.


    oh im a meanie.,...

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    Miss Lee,

    I'm sorry your regular reacted this way.

    Why didn't he appreciate you fightin' for your man?

    Seriously though, 'regular' type customers really don't like drama. Some of us are attracted to the club as the one place we can go to get aroused without any politics.

    Wait a couple of trips and reapproach him. Recommendation: Do NOT bring up the incident and do NOT talk about his other fav. and her behavior. The last thing in the world we want is to play judge over some club drama. If there is any uncomfortable feeling, mention that you are recovering from going through a tough time in your life, etc. Re-establish the 'intimate' relationship.

    And oh yea, remind me to be very nice to you if we ever do shots. You sound pretty tough.


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    I have never been in a physical fight in the dressing room but I have seen quite a few at my old club.

    Usually over a customer and at least one if not both girls were drunk.

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    there is this girl I work with that's always fucked up (on pills or alcohol, or both) that seems to try to pick fights with people. She jsut likes to act all tough and somehow I got on the receiving end of this.

    I don't really take it personally because she is such a basketcase. Last night she overheard me talking about her behavior to my friend and later told me to, "stop talking shit"

    I just said okay...and she kept going on because she didn't get a good reaction out of me.

    Some girls just like to antagonize and it's nothing personal.

    I am not getting in a fight over this girl, as much as she wants to (which pisses her off even more!)

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    i hate girls like that. ive been on the recieving end of that before and i agree not fighting with them will piss them off more.


    i want to reiterate that i am not a tough girl or a bully, but now i feel like i am percieved as such. bleh.

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    It's better to have everyone think you are a bad-ass rather than a push over.

    And you absolutely did the right thing. Anytime someone puts their hands on someone else they should expect an ass whoopin!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sexysweet
    It's better to have everyone think you are a bad-ass rather than a push over.

    And you absolutely did the right thing. Anytime someone puts their hands on someone else they should expect an ass whoopin!
    I don't care if they think I'm a pushover. It's not prison!

    But, OTOH, I do find solace in knowing someone out there will kick the asses of these bitches. I just don't want it to be me.

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    I've seen fights at my club, mostly spitting and bitching, etc. One time a girl took a cupful of toilet water and threw it at another. These are often the basketcases, and I just try to steer clear of girls who are off the rocker (some of them are totally fine when sober anyway, friendly even). One girl started on me one time when I supposedly stole her regular (he still spends on her, so she's stopped complaining), but I just excused myself and said "je ne peux pas parle francais" and then shake my head obliviously. I can get out of half of it by pretending I am 100% anglophone-moronic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    I don't care if they think I'm a pushover. It's not prison!

    But, OTOH, I do find solace in knowing someone out there will kick the asses of these bitches. I just don't want it to be me.
    I used to be like that until it happened to me. Some clubs are like prison because there isn't a strong housemom or NO BULLSHIT management. The inmates are running the asylum. I'm pretty happy-go-lucky and even I had to straighten a chick out when she and her friend tried to double team. I knocked the first on her ass and they both scurried. Of course they said I attacked them.

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    I'm sorry you got into a fight.

    It's sad that women have to be catty and fight...notice how when men fight they can shake hands after and be buddies again. Women hold grudges and usually do shit to each other because they are jealous.

    Miss K-L the best revenge would have been this..walk up to her and thank her for telling you about him. That you made $150 or $200 off him and that he told you not to say anything to anyone and then smile and walk away. She would have been kicking herself and would never bother you which petty bullshit like that again!

    Don't feed the lions...seriously! Catty girls to me are girls that are unhappy with themselves...she proved it to you ina really shitty way...but hun your beautiful and you don't need to play into her bullshit. Deal with girls like that with a calm voice and kindness because it will make them look like idiots when they are trying to fight someone who is obviously not interested in the drama

    Avoid her now...and if things get bad don't fight her again...try to calm the situation and make peace even if it's not really how you feel. It's better to look like the better person then to be known as the girl who fights

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sassy~n~Sexy
    Miss K-L the best revenge would have been this..walk up to her and thank her for telling you about him. That you made $150 or $200 off him and that he told you not to say anything to anyone and then smile and walk away. She would have been kicking herself and would never bother you which petty bullshit like that again!
    Awesome!

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    Originally posted by emily:
    I don't care if they think I'm a pushover. It's not prison!
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    I am one of the nicest, sweetest girls you could ever meet. I am always nice, respectful, and courtious of everyone, regardless of whether they are new to the club or old friends/customers.
    However there is always some wench who wants to try you. Sometimes they have been there for years, sometimes they are new. Either way if you do not develope a thick skin and quick come back these particular girls will run all over you.

    So, no it's not prison but the concept is the same, step up or be ran over!

    Point being you don't have to be a psycho, but you do have to have the ability to stand up for yourself.

    And I stand by, if a bi$%* puts her hands on me, she is asking for an ass whoopin!

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    YUP! We even had two sisters and a cousin at our club and they rolled like mini GANG! You get all kinds.

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    "I used to be like that until it happened to me. Some clubs are like prison because there isn't a strong housemom or NO BULLSHIT management. The inmates are running the asylum"

    this reminds me of the club I work at now that i had an incident at last week and havnt been back since not because im a "pussy" but because i have children and these people or the money i will make are not worth my freedom or energy
    would be nice if managment would do somthing about girls like this but THEY DONT the actually seem to encorage the shit for their entertainment. sickens me and hurts my bank account im just sitting back right now waiting for some one else to kick these girls asses and come back when I hear they are gone or learn their lesson some how damn shame some people cant treat dancing like other jobs
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    This is why I hide by my locker. I don't go anywhere near the dressing room. I come in with my hair and makeup done. I keep to myself and make my money. I do conversate with some girls on the floor (a little bit). It never hurts to be on peoples good-side, but I steer clear of mostly everything else.

    I did pipe up one time. I was sitting on the floor in the locker room and I heard these two girls talk about going on a trip to San Francisco (I was working in Vegas). One girl told the other girl she didn't want to go because everybody was gay there. Since I live in San Francisco, I spoke up and mentioned that I was from San Francisco, I wasn't gay and neither is a majority of the population there. Then I asked what was wrong with being gay anyway? She shut up instantly. Sometimes, you just have to say something.
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    I just started at a new club (much smaller than my old club) and the girls here seem to be just this type-they run the show. I have been friendly to all the girls here, and they have been friendly to me, but just the other day this girl started getting all pissy because I "bum-rushed" some customer who had just come in. We were slow, and I clearly have every right to approach a customer whenever I want as long as he isn't with another girl.

    Apparently this guy had come in "specifically to see her" but then agreed to get a dance with me, and left immediately afterwards. He spent ten dollars on me, it's not like that should have taken much away from anything he wanted to spend on her. I don't start drama, and this guy in no way resisted getting a dance from me, he even told the other girl that she was "on deck". I wanted to tell her to shut up and stop crying over ten dollars, but I'm new, and I don't want her to beat my a**.

    I think I need to stop caring if the other girls like me or not. I have a short temper, so I hope I can avoid a fight!

    Just count your blessings that you weren't fired! It's so hard to avoid the drama, whoever said to avoid the dressing room is totally right, find anything to do other than sit in the dressing room.

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    And to think some of those guys were saying women can't fight in that thread about self-defense, lol.

    A shot glass, eh? That's one thing I've never seen used as a weapon, though I have seen shoes, stools, and various appliances used quite handily.

    And it's true management often does jackshit to stop this stuff--or worse...

    One club I worked in for a while had a manager that would shut the door to the dressing room and watch dancers kick the shit out of each other, and yell at anyone trying to come in and stop it--including me once. Dancers had more than once told me he had told them to go ahead and beat the shit out of another dancer.

    The worst fight I ever saw, other than the hair dryer/hair straightener duel, was between two sisters and four other dancers. The two sisters didn't look to be all that tough, but even though two of their opponents had a scary reputation for violence, they gave every bit as good as they got.

    This was the fight I got yelled at for trying to stop, which I wanted to do since I was friends with both sisters and 3 of the 4 others. I actually saw very little of it, but the booth is right next to the dressing room, and boy did I hear it! It sounded like they were killing each other in there, and breaking down all the walls and lockers in the process. When it was finally over, they all came limping and hobbling out, holding onto their heads and asking for ice and towels.

    Fortunately no one was permanently injured, which was a miracle...

    One good thing that will come out of this fight is that you won't be messed with anymore, Kristina.

    I believe you that you aren't a meanie, but it won't hurt you if they think you are back there.
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