Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 25 of 32

Thread: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

  1. #1
    Newbie
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Daly City
    Posts
    13
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Hi all! (Warning, long post, but I'd really appreciate any and all input).
    I have worked at an outcall agency doing bachelor parties and privates for the last 4 years in a small town in central CA. I was a manager/dancer there. A recent move to San Francisco meant I no longer felt safe going to strange houses/hotels with just one or two drivers to protect me. I've always been very straight about my boundaries, and am very concerned about my safety. I'd always heard club girls were catty, but assumed it was just some people over reacting. I expected some rivalry, but my first night makes me really wonder if I'm doing something wrong....
    Last Sunday, I went to a club's amateur night- their 'hiring' night. After doing a three song set, the manager took me aside and said that although it was very unusual, he was going to hire me on the spot, since it was clear that I knew what I was doing. I was stoked! I was so nervous going to the audition- and to have gotten hired at my first one, at a club I'd heard really good things safety wise about made me totally stoked! I later found out from a bouncer that the last 2 weeks, 9 girls had auditioned, and none had been hired.
    There were 2 girls in back when I got there. I had introduced myself and said it was nice to meet them- the usual 'cordial' greeting thing- when I was getting ready to go onstage. When I came back, I didn't brag, I just said, "Hey- looks like we'll be working together. I'm stoked to be here. If you guys don't mind, if you can think of any advice or let me know if I'm breaking any rules, please let me know, because the manager wasn't really clear with me."
    I asked the girls how long they'd been working there. One said a few months and one (who I could tell was a very experienced dancer) said, 'Not long.' (Later in the evening I found out she'd been working there for 3 years).
    Throughout the night, I was friendly, but not overly so. I made a few comments about universal dancer things (the grabby guys who expect alot for nothing, the whole 'I don't understand English' thing when we hear them speaking clearly in the other room, etc.'), but otherwise, kept to myself besides the occasional compliment if I really thought a girl was a good dancer, and an occasional question about pole work. (I have no clue what to do with a pole, and I know it!)
    By the end of the night, out of about 15 girls, there were about 3 who were friendly with me. There were about 7 who pretty much ignored or put up with me, and there were 4 who were very specifically catty. There were a bunch of little things all evening, but some of the incidents that really stuck in my mind were:

    1.) The dressing room is really hot, and I have actually passed out from heat stroke in the past a few times. I asked one of the two girls in the locker room if there was a drinking fountain. One girl spoke and said there was no drinking fountain, and that I'd either have to buy my own bottled water from the store across the street, or drink from the tap. Later, I noticed some cups hidden behind the door, and learned that we're supposed to get drinks from the soda machine. I'm not picky about water, so I drank from the sink in between shifts when noone was in the room, but still, if I'd listened to her and been paranoid about the tap, I could have passed out.

    2.) I asked the dancers if I could use toys on stage, since there was a sign outside that said 'Babes in toyland' that had a pic of a girl using a dildo. The woman who'd said she'd been working at the place for 'a few months' said that a performer could do anything she wished. Two of her friends backed her up. At bachelor parties, I'm used to and comfortable with using dildos, candle wax, etc., as part of my shows. I double checked with the manager before I went onstage, and guess what- if I'd done that, I would have been fired!

    3.) At the end of the night, all the girls were gathered in the dressing room. The fan had been turned on, (it was off all night and it must have been 100 degrees in there- no exaggeration) and everyone was complaining about how it was on when it was cool, but off when it was hot. I said something along the lines of, "What if all of us got together and took the manager aside- can't we get control over the switch?" The girl who'd been leading the conversation turned and gave me the most scathing look I've ever gotten, then proceeded to ignore me as though I hadn't said anything. Noone else really made eye contact with me after that. I shrugged, and packed up my stuff- not making a big deal about it but feeling really shitty.

    I am a naturally very friendly and outgoing person. I'm not very competative. If someone wants a dancer who's a different body type/face type then me, then I'll introduce him to a coworker- just because it's the right thing to do. Yes, I really am that honest. I don't lie, don't believe in head games, and think that those who start them/engage in them are quite frankly, kind of pathetic. I didn't say anything like this when I was working. I was just friendly and tried not to step on any toes. Is this the 'dancer catiness' that I've heard about? Can I expect the other girls to treat me worse, or was this just a 'first night' thing? Is there anything I can do to stop any potential escalation?

    I noticed that alot of the girls were watching me dance when I was onstage. (Translation: all of them). I also noticed that the guys were tipping me more than most of the other girls. I assumed it's because I'm new and they've never seen me before. My ego is healthy (mabye a little too healthy sometimes....but I know it), and I'd put myself as being a 7 on the 1-10 scale in terms of looks, however, I do think I am one of the more attractive girls there if only due to my personality. I definitely DIDN'T make any comment about my opinion, though, because I know all of us have ego issues, and so I don't usually say anything about looks. (Wow, I feel really snobby for saying this, but I have to ask!) Is it possible that some of these girls are threatened by me? I have a different kind of look and show than most of them. I wear a nice black gown and do the whole 'sophisticated' gig, as opposed to a more blatantly raunchy theme for my shows. Most of them wear bikinis or lingerie. Am I in the wrong club? The manager said they were really glad to have me, and that the club is trying to put out the image I display.....they actually encouraged me to smoke outside to bring in customers...

    Am I being really naive here? I'm used to running an agency (I managed at the outcall service) in a small town- not working at a club in a big city. I understand the 'have a girl outside to show the customers = free advertising' as good business. Still, could this have pissed off the other girls? PLEASE-any advice is welcome. I just want to get along with my coworkers and make some money. I won't kiss people's proverbial asses or lie, but I also won't stoop to the catfight level. I think that sort of behavior is demeaning to all dancers. Seriously- we're all in the same boat, so why not just all be civil to each other? Please help!!! Thanks!!

  2. #2
    Senior Member FallenFairy69's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2005
    Location
    Tennessee
    Posts
    161
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    ok..this is going to sound harsh but it's just the way it is.You aren't at the club to make friends.You are there to make money.No matter how nice you are your still going to be the "new girl".You are competion to every dancer in the club and they are yours.I've been a dancer for almost 4 years now and have never been involved in any "cat fighting"but I've seen quite a bit of it.
    My advice is to stay out of it.Keep your head down,your mouth shut,and do your job.Let the friendly dancers come to you.Don't talk about other dancers on any level to another dancer.Even if your saying something nice it will turn into something bad.Keep your conversations to a friendly Hi,How are you?Have a nice night deal.You will eventualy find the ones that you can talk more in depth to.

  3. #3
    God/dess Paris's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2002
    Location
    Oregon
    Posts
    6,345
    Thanks
    168
    Thanked 801 Times in 419 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Wow, you actually had three dancers be friendly to you on your first night? That is awesome! I'm suprised that anyone actually even talked to you at all beyond "The bathroom is over there".

    Just imangine that you are the new kid in a high school and you are starting mid term.

    Just remember that every dancer is an independent business competeing for the same customer dollars. The other dancers are NOT your friends.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


  4. #4
    Senior Member Sassy~n~Sexy's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2006
    Location
    Califonia
    Posts
    122
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    It's sad but girls are bitches! And it's all based on being INSECURE! I'm not a bitch because I know that I have better things to do with my time and life then pick someone else apart or make them feel bad...it's petty!

    And the big clencher girls have no clue that guys find that to be the BIGGEST turn off...they see cattiness as being INSECURE!

    Hun go to work, do your best and don't even bother talking to anyone there...they are jealous...that's the only reason girls act the way they do....when they feel threatened. Why else would they bother being bitches?

    I will never get it...and I have it happen when I go anywhere...but I just smile at them. They look like dumbasses at the end of the day not me (or you).

    Like Paris said they aren't your friends...but if they think being your enemy is a better game...don't play in to it

    Also NEVER tell anything personal to any of the girls you dance with...they will find enjoyment in sharing your stories with others and also find ways to break you down if they know your weaknesses.

    I'm dancing at my first club here in LA...I'm there to work not make buddies. It's better to keep it that way
    "Just hold me close boy 'cause I'm your tiny dancer"

  5. #5
    Featured Member red red red's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2005
    Location
    Philadelphia
    Posts
    923
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    You'll go through a phase of being "new girl." The best way to deal with it is to just keep quiet and stay away from the other girls, unless someone wants a two-girl dance. Try to be as self-reliant as possible so you're not dependent on them for your information or anything else.

    It'll all smooth out eventually... it sounds like you're doing great at the new club, and that it's somewhere you'll want to stick around for awhile, so just keep a low profile for awhile.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

  6. #6
    Featured Member Windy's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2006
    Location
    Erotic City
    Posts
    882
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 13 Times in 8 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Aww. i sympathize. haha i actualy read yer whole post. and while i dont have any experience as a dancer, i think maybe they might feel threated by you, as you are the new girl. its like, at school, when yer new, the new prety girl comes in, all the guys suddenly start to like HER and all the other girls who were there first get ignored.

    well, maybe u shud just do yer own thang, and dont worry bout em. maybe just ignore the catty ones, and only talk to the ones that give u good vibes. maybe after a while, the catty ones will loosen up. maybe when theres ANOTHER new girl, theyll stop being rude to u and pick on the new one! haha.

    well i dont know if im right or not, just using my common sense. goodluck tho.
    i wud be worried 2 if i got hired at a club and the girls were being rude to me. i mean ive gotten it before like at work at stuff. maybe because u are different than them, have a diff look like u said. i mean the girls at my old job were kind of snotty to me..i felt realyl different than them somehow. but just cuz yer diff, doesnt mean yer worst!
    [True Passion Demands Respect]
    [Question All Answers]



    Money Makes Me Horny

  7. #7
    God/dess blondhottie's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2003
    Location
    St. Louis
    Posts
    4,575
    Thanks
    4,072
    Thanked 1,171 Times in 436 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    It depends on the club. At some clubs, the dancers are really mean to new girls and at some places, they're really nice. At one club I worked at, all the girls would sit up at the stage for the new girl and tip her and they'd get custies to do the same in order to make them feel welcome. That doesn't happen at many places. At most places I've worked at, the dancers are usually civil to the new girl, but they don't talk to her much until they've worked with her for a while and get to know her. Whenever I work with a new girl, I introduce myself to her and shake her hand, but I don't talk to her much until I've worked with her for a while and gotten a feel for her personality.
    Last edited by blondhottie; 06-01-2006 at 01:18 PM. Reason: spelling-I'm anal about spelling!

  8. #8
    Newbie
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Daly City
    Posts
    13
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    "My advice is to stay out of it.Keep your head down,your mouth shut,and do your job.Let the friendly dancers come to you.Don't talk about other dancers on any level to another dancer.Even if your saying something nice it will turn into something bad.Keep your conversations to a friendly Hi,How are you?Have a nice night deal.You will eventualy find the ones that you can talk more in depth to."

    Your advice doesn't sound harsh...it's sounds realistic. I have decided I'm going to look at any social interaction from a sociological viewpoint- watching what's going on, but trying not to become a part of it. I will try to keep my mough shut so as not to give anyone any social ammunition, and just work as hard as I can. It's not going to be easy, but if I want the money, I guess that's what I'll have to do. Thank you for your advice.

  9. #9
    Newbie
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Daly City
    Posts
    13
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    Wow, you actually had three dancers be friendly to you on your first night? That is awesome! I'm suprised that anyone actually even talked to you at all beyond "The bathroom is over there".

    Just imangine that you are the new kid in a high school and you are starting mid term.

    Just remember that every dancer is an independent business competeing for the same customer dollars. The other dancers are NOT your friends.
    LOL I suppose I was lucky to have that many girls be nice to me. High school seems like a very apt comparison. Too bad I hated high school! It just seems a pity to me that all dancers can't find their common ground and at least be cordial....:::shrugs:: Then, it's not a perfect world, I think dealing with this will help me in general, and not just in the club.

  10. #10
    Newbie dragonpearl's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    7
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    I'm just about to dance for my first time and my plan is to be tough and deal with whatever comes and not expect or depend on other dancers being nice to me, although it would be nice.

  11. #11
    Newbie
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Daly City
    Posts
    13
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sassy~n~Sexy
    It's sad but girls are bitches! And it's all based on being INSECURE! I'm not a bitch because I know that I have better things to do with my time and life then pick someone else apart or make them feel bad...it's petty!

    And the big clencher girls have no clue that guys find that to be the BIGGEST turn off...they see cattiness as being INSECURE!

    Hun go to work, do your best and don't even bother talking to anyone there...they are jealous...that's the only reason girls act the way they do....when they feel threatened. Why else would they bother being bitches?

    I will never get it...and I have it happen when I go anywhere...but I just smile at them. They look like dumbasses at the end of the day not me (or you).

    Like Paris said they aren't your friends...but if they think being your enemy is a better game...don't play in to it

    Also NEVER tell anything personal to any of the girls you dance with...they will find enjoyment in sharing your stories with others and also find ways to break you down if they know your weaknesses.

    I'm dancing at my first club here in LA...I'm there to work not make buddies. It's better to keep it that way
    Thanks, Sassy. =) It's nice to know that there are other dancers out there who feel similarly to the way I do about how sad it is that women feel the need to be catty with one another. I've always 'killed em with kindness' in the past. I think I'll continue this philosophy- I just won't be overly friendly.
    Did you work as an independant dancer before, or is this your first dancing experience? Are you enjoying yourself? I keep thinking whether or not the social stress is worth the monetary gain. Then I think, 'I don't want to let those bitches chase me off. Screw them! I'm better than that.'
    Why do you think everyone cares so much about my previous dance experience? That seems to be the only question everyone asked of me, "Have you danced before? Where and for how long?" Maybe it's their way of figuring the best way to 'deal' with me? Hmm- I guess I'll never know. Thanks again!

  12. #12
    Newbie
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Daly City
    Posts
    13
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by red red red
    Try to be as self-reliant as possible so you're not dependent on them for your information or anything else.

    It'll all smooth out eventually... it sounds like you're doing great at the new club, and that it's somewhere you'll want to stick around for awhile, so just keep a low profile for awhile.
    Thanks for the wise words. Im just going to work my ass off and focus on the $$$!

  13. #13
    Newbie
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Daly City
    Posts
    13
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by Windy
    Aww. i sympathize. haha i actualy read yer whole post. and while i dont have any experience as a dancer, i think maybe they might feel threated by you, as you are the new girl. its like, at school, when yer new, the new prety girl comes in, all the guys suddenly start to like HER and all the other girls who were there first get ignored.
    goodluck tho.
    i wud be worried 2 if i got hired at a club and the girls were being rude to me. i mean ive gotten it before like at work at stuff. maybe because u are different than them, have a diff look like u said. i mean the girls at my old job were kind of snotty to me..i felt realyl different than them somehow. but just cuz yer diff, doesnt mean yer worst!
    Amen, girl. I suppose women are catty to each other everywhere- it's just more blatant at a strip joint. =) Maybe I should count that as a blessing. And thanks for making it through my whole post!

  14. #14
    Newbie
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    Daly City
    Posts
    13
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by blondhottie
    It depends on the club. At some clubs, the dancers are really mean to new girls and at some places, they're really nice. At one club I worked at, all the girls would sit up at the stage for the new girl and tip her and they'd get custies to do the same in order to make them feel welcome. That doesn't happen at many places. At most places I've worked at, the dancers are usually civil to the new girl, but they don't talk to her much until they've worked with her for a while and get to know her. Whenever I work with a new girl, I introduce myself to her and shake her hand, but I don't talk to her much until I've worked with her for a while and gotten a feel for her personality.
    That sounds like a club I'd want to work at. I'd do the same for a new girl. Hell, I have hustled for other girls before- when they were just starting out *and* after we'd been working together for a while. I suppose I was just hoping that since this club got good reviews by other dancers that the girls might be nice to each other.
    I won't expect the girls to be friendly to me anymore, I suppose- I'll just suck it up and work so I don't have to think about the social crap. =)

  15. #15
    Featured Member amylynnej's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2005
    Location
    Dallas
    Posts
    797
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    it is like this almost everywhere, if you come in when its slow and youre making money and theyre not youll get treated like crap, its nothing personal, just money.
    AmyLynne

  16. #16
    God/dess cinammonkisses's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2002
    Location
    Some Fat guys Lap!
    Posts
    9,647
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 90 Times in 67 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by FallenFairy69
    ok..this is going to sound harsh but it's just the way it is.You aren't at the club to make friends.You are there to make money.
    AGREED!!! That was exactly the point I reminded myself of when I first started dancing (I learned that on SW). When I started, I didn't even make an attempt to speak, be cool, etc with the girls...there was no point because I was still the "new girl" in their eyes. It took roughly 2 1/2 - 3months before girls started talking to me. 1 girl was cordial my first day, and the next 2 more...THAT'S IT! The last 2 who originally started being cool with, I get along with great. We help recommend eachother to customers to get dances/VIP's. I'm cordial to all..but again, I'm not there to make friends!







    Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"


  17. #17
    God/dess holiday's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2005
    Posts
    2,691
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 61 Times in 23 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    I know it's crazy but the little you talked to the other girls, which didn't seem like much was actually too much in stripper world. I wouldn't be intimidated though, it sounds like you are doing great and making money. So I'd suggest just keeping totally to yourself. Still be polite and everything but do as Cinnammonkisses did. And you won't be a new girl for long - there is always a new one after you. And the other girls will warm up a bit. Good Luck.

  18. #18
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Dec 2005
    Location
    VIP Room
    Posts
    1,403
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 77 Times in 43 Posts
    My Mood
    Happy

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Everyone at my club has been nice to me, this is my first club, first time dancing. I make small talk in the dressing room but stay out of any drama or personal stuff. I smile, and may compliment a dancer on an outfit I like. THat's about as far as it goes, and I think that would be best for you too. And remember what everyone else said, you're there to make money and the other dancers are too. It's too bad it's like this but it is a competition to get to the customer first and their money. Just worry about what you have to do, if you have questions, try to ask the managers, waitresses, etc. because they'll be more truthful and helpful because they're not your competition. You'll be fine, in a couple weeks, the new girl thing will wear off,it's already wearing off for me. Girls there are already starting to recognize me and say hi to me, talking to me, etc. Just give it time, and don't get into anyone's business.

  19. #19
    Senior Member Sassy~n~Sexy's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2006
    Location
    Califonia
    Posts
    122
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by EndlessSky
    Thanks, Sassy. =) It's nice to know that there are other dancers out there who feel similarly to the way I do about how sad it is that women feel the need to be catty with one another. I've always 'killed em with kindness' in the past. I think I'll continue this philosophy- I just won't be overly friendly.
    Did you work as an independant dancer before, or is this your first dancing experience? Are you enjoying yourself? I keep thinking whether or not the social stress is worth the monetary gain. Then I think, 'I don't want to let those bitches chase me off. Screw them! I'm better than that.'
    Why do you think everyone cares so much about my previous dance experience? That seems to be the only question everyone asked of me, "Have you danced before? Where and for how long?" Maybe it's their way of figuring the best way to 'deal' with me? Hmm- I guess I'll never know. Thanks again!
    This is my first time dancing...and I had my best friend who has danced for 10 years coach me! I got the run down on the cattiness before I had to encounter it.

    Best thing to do is avoid situations where you have to sit around and chat...keep busy! HUSSLE HUSSLE HUSSLE!

    Your there to make money...and you need to stay focused on that!

    As for them asking you about your dance experience...don't worry about it. Keep it short and sweet and get out there and dance

    And don't worry about what they say behind your back etc...just ignore any games they may throw at you...or any drama they create. Give them NOTHING...that way you won't run into shitty situations.

    It sucks that women (and I even hate saying they are women...more like highschool girls) act this way towards one another...but I go to bed every night knowing I did say anything to hurt anyone...and I didn't take part in the 'gossip'.

    I thought I might feel left out...but actually it works out to be the best plan.

    Your there for the dollar not the drama

    You'll do great! Just keep smiling and enjoy dancing...and remember who you are and where you want to go!

    Good Luck!
    "Just hold me close boy 'cause I'm your tiny dancer"

  20. #20
    Featured Member Windy's Avatar
    Joined
    May 2006
    Location
    Erotic City
    Posts
    882
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 13 Times in 8 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Quote Originally Posted by EndlessSky
    Amen, girl. I suppose women are catty to each other everywhere- it's just more blatant at a strip joint. =) Maybe I should count that as a blessing. And thanks for making it through my whole post!
    hehe yeah. well i guess in a strip joint, there is way more money 2 be made, then say where i used 2 work(deli haha). so, of course money=problems. it ruins friendships. some people just get greedy, i suppose.
    [True Passion Demands Respect]
    [Question All Answers]



    Money Makes Me Horny

  21. #21
    Veteran Member carmen124's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2006
    Location
    arizona
    Posts
    379
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 11 Times in 3 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    now this may make me sound like a heartless bitch but its the truth!
    honestly, i don't even bother talking to new girls until i see them a few times.. not because i'm a bitch but because girls come and go almost every night! why would i waste time which equals $$ to chat it up w/ someone i will most likely never see again. of course i do not go out the way to be mean but don't go up and say hello and chit chat..etc.
    maybe i'm a bitch? but time is money and work is work!! bottom line: its not personal..keep you work life seperate.

  22. #22
    Veteran Member
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    575
    Thanks
    20
    Thanked 176 Times in 70 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    I would support the advice of not wasting a lot of your time talking to other dancers, but in my case, it pretty much saved my a** that I was friends with a lot of girls at my last club. A shady situation came up, and if I hadn't been so comfortable talking to a lot of the girls that worked there, we would have all been worse off.

    On a day to day basis and from a moneymaking point of view, it's not worth it to befriend your co-dancers. In the larger scheme of life, it's good to have a few allies.

  23. #23
    Member
    Joined
    Jan 2006
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    30
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    I wouldn't even introduce myself, they will think that you are trying to suck up. I know it's so stupid. Just keep to yourself, be decent to others, don't get involved and work will be more simple.

  24. #24
    Featured Member Starfire's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2004
    Posts
    825
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 25 Times in 11 Posts

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Maybe this sounds bitchy, but I"m going to second the girl who said what little talking you did was too much. I have one or two friends I work with, and I"m pretty much not interested in new girls til they've been there for awhile and I can tell if they're cool or not. I used to be much nicer, but i"ve gotten burned a few times, so no more. A lot of dancers find new girls annoying who try to talk to them right away asking questions like, oh how long have you worked here, blah blah blah... Just keep to yourself and eventually you may make a few friends, but you'll probably make more money the less time you spend talking to/worrying about the other girls.

  25. #25
    Veteran Member SexeJaz's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2004
    Location
    South
    Posts
    344
    Thanks
    23
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts
    My Mood
    Relaxed

    Default Re: Is everyone always mean to the 'new girl'? What do I do?

    Yeah you guys are right....IF you have questions about the club or anything else, you are better off asking the manager what the rules are in your area then one of the girls cause they will/could tell you other that is not true what so ever. Besides the rules, Make that money and worry about hustling your clients.....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Need Advice: Getting a Private Show (girl-girl) for my wife
    By Lurking in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 02-04-2010, 08:07 PM
  2. first time private party, and also first girl on girl show
    By traceyb in forum Private Party Dancing
    Replies: 27
    Last Post: 01-31-2010, 02:32 AM
  3. Replies: 25
    Last Post: 03-03-2008, 09:56 PM
  4. want cust opinion girl with cash or girl with out...
    By JettaNyx in forum Customer Conversation
    Replies: 46
    Last Post: 04-02-2007, 09:22 AM
  5. Girl on Girl on Girl Burlesque--Austin, July 17th
    By Susan Wayward in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 2
    Last Post: 07-16-2004, 11:54 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •