a guy asked me to go back to his hotel for 500 pounds so i went then got the money and ran I mean he didnt actually specify sex. lol. Has anyone else done it?

a guy asked me to go back to his hotel for 500 pounds so i went then got the money and ran I mean he didnt actually specify sex. lol. Has anyone else done it?
That's really, really dangerous, hon. He knows where you work, what you drive, etc. Not the brightest idea.

i know but i was only at the club for one night and made no money so i thoght what the hell
wow. not good business on the one hand, and very dangerous on the other. I really hope you don't even LIVE in that city because of what might happen if you accidentally bump into him.
I have heard of girls doing things like that but it's a BAD idea and I wouldn't do it again. You're lucky you're OK now......
If you did it in a city like London where there's no chance of you bumping into him, and you're NEVER going back to the club then fair play. He may have learnt a lesson not to be such a sleaze and if he wants sex to go to a brothel NOT a strip club.Originally Posted by sassygirl
But seriously it is soooo dangerous- I know two girls (not friends of mine) who used to offer threesomes after the club shut, go back to the guys place, take the money and then tell him that their boyfriends were outside. If the guy protested the boyfriends would come in and rough them up.
They did this for months eventually got fired from the club when one guy called the cops.
I would suggest not to do that again... but I know that when I first started dancing I was very vunerable and would just go and do a lot of things I shouldn't have but I'm sure that has happened to a lot of people. Maybe next time just say that you can't meet him because you don't know him very well. But if he knows your vehicle and where you work and lives there that will be awkward the next time he comes in to that club.




This is a well known and fairly common (or was at one time, at least) type of rip-off or con run by women posing as escorts. It is sometimes called "cash and dash". And, as everyone above mentions, it is potentially very very dangerous.
Moreover, imo it is extremely unethical behavior, not least because the danger is not solely yours. I have heard of guys being so furious about such a thing that they find some other girl and beat them up for revenge because "they are all the same anyway"... Obviously I think this is criminal behavior on the guy's part, but it happens. It is a rough world out there, but treating people the way you want them to treat you works better than any of the alternatives.
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So you didn't even stay and dance for the guy? I mean if you two had agreed to a show in a motel room, sex is not implicit in that agreement. He was merely paying you to dance and keep him company for a while. Not money for sex.
If you literally did just grab the cash and run out the door, then that is a BIG problem. Never, ever, ever do that again. The guys do participate in online discussions about ROB's and you will be blacklisted not only by the clubs, but by big spending customers.
Is 500 pounds worth not ever working again?
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!





Bad karma, all the way.
I had a roommate that pulled this kind of shit on a regular basis--though mostly just to get guys in VIP for a lot of money with a promise to fuck them there. Sometimes she gave them handjobs, sometimes she just danced for them.
One day I was trying to explain how this sort of thing would come back and get her someday, as karma always does. It was a 15 minute drive, and she had little choice but to listen as she was in my car.
Try as I did, she utterly failed to comprehend--unlike you, she had no conscience whatsoever.
Another 15 minutes later, she realized she had left her purse with over 600$ on the sidewalk at the hotel we were staying in. We drove back (the last time I gave her a ride anywhere, BTW), and of course the purse was gone.
As upset as she was, I felt no sympathy whatsoever for her.
You, at least, know there was something wrong with what you did--and everyone makes mistakes. But be smart, and don't do it again.
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I agree with Djoser. You have some bad karma headed your way.
If I were you I would go donate ALL of that money to a charity like a battered women shelter or Aids medication for the poor. Maybe that way you can avoid being on the sore end of the Karma stick.
Oh and don't do that again. < Vaughn takes off her Mommy hat now>
bad karma... hmmm if there is such a thing... then it's not good... but really guys are assholes and some people think they can buy anything, I think what you did was not morally wrong. It was only wrong in the meaning that it could get you in trouble. There is no "conscience" regarding an idiot who can't tell the differerence between an escort and a stripper. It's not like you offered to have sex with him and then took his money, right? He's the one who was doing something that is probably even illegal, depending on where you live. He's the criminal not you but take care. Love, J





Well, maybe not, lol--she did have enough of a conscience to post here asking if what she did was wrong, which means she knows it was. Everyone makes mistakes, and I don't feel like karma will come hounding you mercilessly if you do something wrong and thereby learn never to do it again.Originally Posted by Vaughn
And as far as the guy being an asshole who had it coming? Well, maybe, maybe not.
We don't know that, even if we have all seen the jerks who assume any dancer is automatically a prostitute, and won't stop trying to negotiate sex for money outside the club no matter how politely they are told "No!".
She said he didn't mention sex, and we don't know how polite or how pushy he was about the entire arrangement.
Last edited by Djoser; 06-03-2006 at 08:43 PM.
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I hope you don't do that again.
1. It's dangerous for YOU.
2. It's bad for business.
3. This is the kind of shit that makes guys think strippers are a bunch of lying, thieving, money-grubbing bitches, and frankly you will deserve it when some guy gets you to dance all night for him and then doesn't pay![]()
Unless her baby was at home incredibly sick and the medicine cost 500 pounds (unlikely in the UK's socialized medicine system) or she was recovering from a broken arm and hadn't been able to dance for the last two months, why did she do it?
Everyone above is right. It's bad, on so many levels. Were you expecting people here to cheer you on for it?
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Even if you were to banish all moral obligation entirely, think on this:
If you danced at a club, EVEN FOR ONE NIGHT, then they have record of your real name. (If they aren't a complete sleazeball club, at least. Since you say he didn't come right out and talk about sex, I'm betting it was at least decent.) Say he walks in and is pissed off enough to throw ridiculous amounts of money at a bartender or bouncer or dj for that info. Everyone has a price, and for a girl that was there only one night, you're just another face in a sea of come and go dancers. They don't care yet.
Moral of the story? Hope the guy doesn't go back pissed and with a handful of cash. If he has your real name (or even better, real name and SSN) and he wants to fuck up your life or hurt you, he can. It's a sucky deal all around.
Don't you feel bad? I would. I know too many girls who do this and I consider them thieves. I agree with everyone else. This industry is dangerous enough, why take a risk like that. Not to mention, the outcome had it been an undercover cop. I would advise not to do that again.
Next time why don't you save yourself the club fee and just roll the drunks in the parking lot?
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Wow. That was just completely asinine. That's the kind of shit that gets girls killed. Care more about yourself than that.

No i wasnt expecting anyone to cheer me on and the way I see it the guy asked me to go back to his hotel and he woul;d give me and another girl 500 each he never said for sex. If he did I wouldnt have gone. So we went stayed for an hour drank champagne and then left when they started asking us for sex. The way I see it is it will teach him a lesson to be such a sleeze. I did exactly what he asked and see nothing wrong with it as he had our company for an hour.

this was 4 years ago when i was 17. I def wouldnt do it again
There's a girl at my club who proudly announced that she had just told some guy, "Sure, I'll fuck you in VIP." (Our VIP is a minimum of $150 for 15 minutes; most of us charge a bit more. She charged the minimum.) They went in and she said, "So, you got a condom?" He did not. She claims that she 'knew' he wouldn't have one, and therefore considered this a really sly hustle.
My first unasked question was "Well, that if he HAD had a condom? What would you have done then???" And the second question was "Hmm, so what did you do to appease him, then?" I''d venture a guess that a hand job was the compromise. At the very least.
Anyway, I am constantly remided that we are sometimes playing a very dangerous game, toying with men's lust the way we do. And to me there's a difference between being a hustler - in the salesperson sense - and being a thief.
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that took a lot of balls on your part to do that... suprised you didn't get attacked or raped.
I've thought about employing a similar strategy... "Yeah, I'll fuck you in VIP!" Get him back to VIP, take his money, then sit and chat. When he gets mad, smile and tell him he just got fucked.Originally Posted by RoseWhite
But I would be too afraid of consequences from the club, or him attacking me, or of other unpleasantness. And besides, my conscience wouldn't allow me to do it. So no go.
Originally Posted by Yekhefah
Funny, a girl did a similar thing at a club I work at. The guy bugged all the dancers to fuck him, and when they said no, he asked a custy (a dancer's friend) if she would fuck him. He said he'd pay her 500 dollars. She said "you give me 200 bucks, and I'll fuck you". He gave her the money, and she said, "thanks, you just got fucked"
Not something I'd suggest, but was funny at the time!![]()
I believe you Dottie and you have my support
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