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    Default so the first night, sorry really long post

    hi guys,

    did my first night ever last night.

    lots of good stuff, some bad and some really funny!

    there was a group of asian men (im half asian) and i started with one who said it was his first time. i didnt realise just how short the song would be and didnt manage to get naked, which i think annoyed him cos he bolted out of the room after.

    one guy was really hard work and said that i wasnt that hot and i couldnt do anything special but i hustled hard and got two dances, after which he again said that i wasnt brilliant.

    i sat down with one of the bouncers to chat bout stuff and he said i should tell them it was my first night cos i'd get the sympathy dances. i went back to the guy who said i wasnt any good and told him, but he wouldnt believe me!

    ended up giving four of the asian guys dances. one of them had two and was saying the usual (ur so sexy blah blah). i think he was satisfied but after he had dances from other girls, he said i was very different cos 'all the english girls' were getting naked and grinding hard on him (against the rules, officially all dancers can do is touch them on the shoulder if your about to fall) but he still got another dance off me later!

    i was taking a baby doll off over my head and it got caught in my earring! i tried to keep moving my hips and get it out subtely but after a minute i looked like an idiot with one hand stuck over my hear so i just said keep watching my hips and id take care of it! i ended out taking my earring out, which was really hard behind my head in the dark while trying to keep dancing. forgot my earring and left it on the table after my dance as well!

    one of the girls was really nice to me and gave me a dance to show me what to do. she took me and another newbie under her wing. me and the other new girl were really nervous so we teamed up on 3 guys (who hadn't bought a dance all night) and she sat down and got us all a dance straight away. went to the dancing room and she asked if she wanted us to switch around or if they were happy with what they were getting. two of the guys just stood there and dithered but one guy took my hand and said 'this one's chosen', which was a massive boost for my self esteem cos i had been floundering from the comments before. he was so drunk tho (it was his birthday) he told me i could sit down and he would dance for me and pay me. i didnt really know what to do but i knew it was against the rules so i sort of just pushed him into the couch and started.

    i turned round at the bar and the gril who had been extra nice to me was talking to her friend and giving me the filthiest look and didnt even bother to pretend to hide it when she saw i had noticed. after reading a lot on this website, i knew i wasnt going to make friends but hey if she gets me work il return the favour, but im constantly watching what i say to the other girls

    in the dark i couldnt figure out if my see through dress was the right way out, so i ended up waking onto the floor a few times, noticing it was inside out and having to run to the toilet to switch it which looked really funny!

    the house mom warned me about getting drunk but i said drinking makes me sick so i wouldnt be drinking all night. i couldve sat upstairs for the last ten minutes but i figured i was there so should try and make money. i went downstairs and saw a guy with a bottle of champagne and sat down. i didnt really want a dirnk but thought i should if i sat down. the dj annouced it was the last song so i downed the glass and got him in for a dance. because it was halfway through the last song when i got him in there i just stripped quickly but still ended up only dancing for about 60 seconds. he was the only guy i didnt get the money off upfront cos i wanted to start the dance asap but he paid. it was a good thing it was the last dance cos i was tipsy by the time my friend picked me up (i really cant handle my alcohol)

    gave 8 dances in 3 hours, which i know isnt a lot but for my first time i was pleased. the house mom gave impression of being impressed as well, saying ' ooh our jade has had a good night'. this was the slowest night of the week and looking at the score sheet i got more dances than the other girls.

    ok a few q's now

    dont know how to keep custs interested when i make it clear im not going to give out a phone number or dry hump them during the dance and they know other girls will in the club. il end up saying oh il make it special blah blah but they always seem annoyed at the end of the dance (cos im really not that good).

    also since i dont drink i dont want to annoy the bar staff by not giving them money but with the high house fee and commission, i walked away with 40 quid. they generally are happy just with dancers buying drinks from them but dont know if they expect something if you dont.

    it seemed like i could get one or two dances straight off but after the dance i coudlnt keep them in there. what phrases can i use other than 'would you like me to keep going'

    a guy said that i was just frustrating him and asked if if he came back next week if i would sleep with him. i got asked by every single customer(!) to sleep with him but kept it a firm no. after making it clear i wouldnt sleep with this one, i asked if he would be coming back. he said probably not and i didnt know what to say after that. how are you still polite to guys who could come back but who start pushing ur buttons

    all in all i like it, made more money than i would in that time in a retail job so im happy
    thanks everyone who has been repling to my posts and pms. u all gave me the confidence to do this thanks so much

    tikita xxx

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    Default Re: so the first night, sorry really long post

    Congratulations on your first night! Always an adventure, right? I know there was some difficulty here and there, but focus on the positive - and it sounds like there was a lot of positive too!
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    Default Re: so the first night, sorry really long post

    I was kind of amazed too, at how many guys will ask you to come to their hotel or meet them outside the club. I have found that the best idea is to look really offended, tell them you're not that kind of girl at all, act a little embarassed, and if they don't apologize then walk off. If they apologize, say they can make it up to you by having a dance.

    A girl I used to work with told me that she would tell guys that they could get arrested for that and that she wasn't afraid to call the cops. They would usually get scared and get dances.

    If the other girls in the club are grinding when it's against the rules, then maybe they are going home with guys, which would explain why they all asked you too.

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    Default Re: so the first night, sorry really long post

    Quote Originally Posted by tikita_lew
    hi guys,


    ok a few q's now

    dont know how to keep custs interested when i make it clear im not going to give out a phone number or dry hump them during the dance and they know other girls will in the club. il end up saying oh il make it special blah blah but they always seem annoyed at the end of the dance (cos im really not that good).

    Well done, it sounded like you had a good first night! Dont worry about guys asking for your number or back to theyre hotel, its always going to happen. Usually ill give them a big smile and reply with, "Id love to but i dont think my boyfriend would like it." This always gives me a wee laugh because of the momentary look of shock on theyre face, ill then go on with, "What, dont you think a girl like me got a boyfriend?" and give them a cheeky wink or a smile. I think they always expet you to be embarrassed or shocked or to start negotiating terms, this reply seems to put them off gaurd. Tbh if a guys asking for your number before youve even danced for him, the chances are that you wont make much money out of him, hes obviously not in there just for dances.

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    Default Re: so the first night, sorry really long post

    I notice you said you dont grind. I'm new too, and just started giving lapdances. The girl who taught me definitely had me grinding, and I hated it. I hated feeling their erection! Ugh!

    Maybe this is just a newbie thing, but is there any way to get around this? Do you manage to avoid this by not griniding? What do you do instead?

    Thanks, and good luck to you! You did better than I did my first night.

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    Default Re: so the first night, sorry really long post

    If you work in a club where grinding is the norm, then it will be difficult for you to get multiple dances from a customer. With all that has been said, it sounded like you made your money and was able to handle the multiple uncomfortable situations. You'll get used to it. We all deal with this sort of thing on a regular basis. If you are happy with your money and overall happy with your expeirence, I wouldn't think about it too much. Just come in the next day with a big smile on your face and watch/listen to the other girls for some hints that work in that perticular club.

    Good luck

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