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    Hi Ladies –

    I’ve been a lurker on this forum for a bit now, ever since I thought dancing might be for me. Well, it’s finally that time – I’m auditioning at noon tomorrow! I have the outfit, the shoes, and hopefully the right mindset.

    But when I was in the store today, the very knowledgeable saleswoman who helped me out said that I should NEVER make eye contact while dancing. I was surprised, since I figured that eye contact would be the best way to engage customers while I’m on stage. Also, my club is a no-touch club, so I figured eye contact would be the way to connect with the customers. She said to look above or slightly past the guys, giving an aloof air and making myself appear mysterious.

    I did a search and while I didn’t see a thread addressing this issue directly, I did see many girls saying that eye contact was a good thing. Did this lady not have a clue what she was talking about?

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    WTF would she say a dumb thing like that for? That lady was either an idiot or she was deliberately trying to mess you up. Eye contact is everything. The customers don't like it when the dancers are off in some other world; they're there so we will pay attention to THEM and make them feel special!

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    Erm, no i think shes got it completely wrong! I always make heavy eye contact with custys when im dancing, i think it gives the impression that there is something,"special" between you. I sorta act like although im making big eyes at him, i dont necessarrily do this with every custy, ( when of course i do,) I think this makes the guy feel more special and therefore more likely to keep spending.
    Apart from anything else, i think dancing for someone and refusing to make eye contact just seems kinda rude, its like not making eye contact during conversation. I think this woman is waaaaay off the mark.

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    What weird advice. Eye contact is great, from the stage and during private dances. The only reason I would limit eye contact is that I get the occasional vibe that it's making the customer uncomfortable -- happens with very shy guys sometimes. In that case, I would look demurely down. If making eye contact makes you feel shy, look at customers mouth instead; it's a very sexual signal.

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    I'm past my time (no longer dancing in strip joints) but I'm POSITIVE that eye contact is still more important than dance ability or breast size.
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    That lady is on crack! You should absolutely make eye contact. You can say a lot without saying a word. Guys love that " I want you " look. Maybe there's a reason that woman is selling you shoes............

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    ok...just cuz she sells stripper clothes dont mean shes ever danced before...so shes probably not the best person to give u advice on how to hustle in a club. dont take advice from people who havent been there. she did not know wtf she was talking about. GIVE EYE CONTACT. looking away from them makes THEM feel like u 1. dont like your job 2. ur not into dancing for them personally 3. your a snob. im not too fond of giving eye contact, but i do because the men are there to enjoy themselves, and its my job to make them feel wanted and welcome. please dont look away from the man when you are dancing for him, it wont make him feel too good (im speaking from my own experience!)

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    Like everyone has said eye contact is important. Its something that can make or break you working this job on sometimes.
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    I noticed a dancer giving the best eye contact when I was out last night checking out a new club. When she was on the floor near the rack, she'd smile and look at the custies sitting there. When she was standing up, she'd make a point to make eye contact with individuals throughout the room. (This could be difficult if you work in a really dark club). Anyway, the effect was this-paying customers felt special and those ogling from a distance seemed either compelled to come closer or guilty for looking and not tipping. It wasn't very busy, and she was doing quite well cash wise.

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    I don't understand why this woman would tell you to avoid eye contact ...unless she was confused and maybe meant to catch their eyes, hold them, and then lower your gaze.....but even then you're supposed to catch their eyes again...........I know I read that in a "rules of flirting" type of book.

    Anyways..........

    Just this last Saturday night I was watching the interactions between a customer and a breathtakingly gorgeous dancer... while her movements were agonizingly slow and perfect it was mainly her eyes that caught me...she was just LOCKED on this one customer...the way she was looking at him it was like he was the only guy in room...her eyes smiled and twinkled the whole time she was infront of him. Heck, if she'd looked at me the way she was looking at him I defintley would have blushed and given over all my cash!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SixInHeels
    Hi Ladies –

    I’ve been a lurker on this forum for a bit now, ever since I thought dancing might be for me. Well, it’s finally that time – I’m auditioning at noon tomorrow! I have the outfit, the shoes, and hopefully the right mindset.

    But when I was in the store today, the very knowledgeable saleswoman who helped me out said that I should NEVER make eye contact while dancing. I was surprised, since I figured that eye contact would be the best way to engage customers while I’m on stage. Also, my club is a no-touch club, so I figured eye contact would be the way to connect with the customers. She said to look above or slightly past the guys, giving an aloof air and making myself appear mysterious.

    I did a search and while I didn’t see a thread addressing this issue directly, I did see many girls saying that eye contact was a good thing. Did this lady not have a clue what she was talking about?
    I'm a custy, and I definitely enjoy the eye-***king. I do a lot of it back myself.

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    ^^^
    thats exactly right. i also manage to extend all my dances by paying them extra special attention at the end, look into their eyes, smile and tell them you don't want to stop just yet...they melt coz they think i'm really into them. i make most of my money from eye contact
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    Eye contact is key in dancing, it gives the guy a feeling of being intimate. Though I do know some girls who flat out refuse eye contact.

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    Thank you ladies! That is EXACTLY what I thought. I was all pumped up at the idea of making eye contact with each of the customers at the tip rail, and this woman acted like that was the number one sin of dancing. Like Twister said, maybe there's a reason she's selling shoes...

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    Quote Originally Posted by SixInHeels

    But when I was in the store today, the very knowledgeable saleswoman who helped me out said that I should NEVER make eye contact while dancing. I was surprised, since I figured that eye contact would be the best way to engage customers while I’m on stage. Also, my club is a no-touch club, so I figured eye contact would be the way to connect with the customers. She said to look above or slightly past the guys, giving an aloof air and making myself appear mysterious.
    I thought as much that she was thinking along the lines of the "aloof" attitude. This is probably a more common misconception than you think, because believe me, I know girls who think this is the key to being a great stripper. It may work for some who are rocking certain looks (e.g. goth, dom), but it's NOT the best way to go as a general consensus.

    Eye contact will work for you better in the long run and you're better practising at it by starting NOW. Don't fall for that aloof crap. It'll only grab you a very small niche of customers at best if at all.
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    I don't know what she was talking about. That's one thing my customers have always complimented me on was my eye contact. Eye contact shows 1. you are interested in the customer and they think you're totally into him/her, 2. Shows a lot of confidence, 3. Shows you're having fun and you know what you're doing. The only thing I can come up with in her saying to not make direct eye contact is if that makes you feel uncomfortable, my house mom said if you look right in between their eyes, it'll look like you're giving eye contact without actually doing it. I personally enjoy giving eye contact, so it's never been an issue with me but if you find that you don't like it, if it makes you feel uncomfortable then you can give the illusion that you are by looking at the spot on their head right above the nose and they'll think you're looking into their eyes. One thing I do too is when I'm looking into someone's eyes, especially someone who I really don't like, is I put my mind somewhere else. I look into their eyes but pretend I'm dancing for someone really sexy or someone I really like. That helps too! Good luck with your audition today, you'll rock!!!

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    I've only danced one night and even I know already how important eye contact is!

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    Eye contact is important. On and off stage. Most guys like it, and it portrays confidence and honesty. If a person never looked you in the face, you wouldn't trust that person very much would you?? Don't take advice from women that are not strippers! It is much easier to say no to a girl when she is looking past you!
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    Extended eye contact is a flirtartion sgnal. Make and hold eye contact for over 6 - 8 seconds and you'll give a guy the impression you are attracted to him.

    Conversely, we withhold eye contact from those we dislike. If you don't make eye contact with a guy....

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    hell no was she wrong.. i find that if i make eye contact the genrally dont look at the rest of me just glance where ever my eyes glance too .. plus makes custies feell that they are special and makes ya more money!

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