I just can not stop thinking about this and I need some advice. I'll try to edit the ramblings and keep it short....
My bf and I have been together for 3 yrs total (1 yr on, 1.5 off, 2 on). I have known him very well for about 9.5 yrs. I've never had a jealousy issue. When we lived together, I never felt the need to check his msgs/email/wallet/etc. We have a very good relationship, and I have very few complaints about him.
Every Sunday, he goes to a local dive bar with his friends and does their little 'guys night' thing. A few guys bring their gf's once in a great while, but I've never wanted to intrude, so I've never gone.
A little over a week ago, we went to a bar with his cousin and cousin's wife, who were in from Iraq & Afganistan. Well, this chick walks past us to go to the washroom and she smiles at my bf and says hi, all sickeningly sweet. He says "hi (name)" and she walks into the washroom and he tells me that she is a bartender at the dive they go to on Sundays. I didn't care at that point, but then she comes out of the washroom and literally makes a big deal about wiping her hands on his (very muscular) upper arms. He didn't have any clear reaction to it, as it happened quickly and then she walked away, but then she turned and gave me this bitchy-ass devil-smile.
I didn't want to make a scene at the bar, but I was fuming!!! Afterwards, I did tell him that it bothered me b/c obviously she feels very comfortable with him to do that while he's sitting next to his gf! And it makes me think ... what does she do and how does she act when I'm not there.....every single week!??!! He says I am getting annoyed over nothing and that she's never done anything like that and he doesn't know why she did it. (Also FYI, he used to bounce there for a few months about 2.5 yrs ago and she worked there back then too).
Anyhow, I can't stop thinking about it and it is REALLY bothering me! I don't know why, b/c I have never cared about stuff like that. B/c really it was nothing, but WHO does that in front of some guy's girlfriend?! I am so insanely jealous of this and I don't know why or what I should do about it. Part of me feels like inviting myself every Sunday now, just popping up randomly, but that's not me at all.
What's a girl to do? i feel so irrational and crazy, but it keeps popping in my head out of nowhere and won't go away.![]()



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