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    So, today I had 2 guys offer to 'take care of me' outside of the club, as in, by me clothes, put me through school etc.

    They both spent quite a bit of money on me, and one is the bartender's cousin. He disappeared on me before giving me his numebr so I dont know what happened there.

    The other spent even more on me, paying for lapdances and not making me dance, just talking to me. He gave me lots of money every time I went on stage or came around the bar. He says he wants to take me shopping. He sells, so he's said he'll give me free weed, and has a bottle of percs he wants to give to me. He also left for a little while saying he'd 'be back', which I naturally assumed meant I wouldnt be seeing him again, at least not that day, but he did come back and continued to spend on me, as well as give me vicodin.

    Another girl (a bitch) tried to steal him away, but it was a no go for her since he seems to like me differently from the other girls.

    He's going in for surgery on his ankle, and he gave me his number. Now, I have no desire to actually see him outside of the club, but I'm thinking it may be a good idea to call him. Hey if he says he wants to spend money on me, I want to encourage that!

    Any tips on what to do next? Should I call him? How do I keep this going, and to a good place, such as my first 'regular'?

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    Be careful with situations like this... usually its just a way of saying they're looking for sex but wont come right out with it. Also I want to know how you smoking weed came up? Thats not something to tell any sort of customer.

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    ^^ exactly cally! this is a wierd situation i would be careful of/ for a guy to say he wants to take care of you the way you described, i would see big flashing red signs above his head saying "PIMP" "ABUSIVE MALE" and other terms i choose not to use. if he is interested in 'looking after' you, he will return to the club to spend his own money without prompting or any contact from you seeing that give you money IS looking after you.
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    Well I mean once you know the guy for awhile meeting him for dinner or something once n awhile isnt bad. I have ONE regular who I will see outside of work but i've known him almost a year and we bumped into eachother at the tanning salon. Hes a sweet guy but he still doesnt know where I live or have my phone number. There is the rare guy you can trust. But what these guys are saying I wouldnt trust at all. Sounds like pimp or someone looking for a little more then what you think... never mind the possibility of a cop.

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    your asking for trouble.. you need to make smart sound decisions regarding your safety and well being.... especially when drugs are involved.... just a little tip for you.

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    Sounds like potential pimps to me, but if you're looking to whore yourself out for drugs then go for it. Better to do it outside the club than in it.

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    Some men will say and do anything for sex, head, or the attention from a female. Losers...
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    Please be careful! A red flag went up with me when I read this thread. A guy offering to give you free drugs? Remember, there's no such thing as free ANYTHING!!!! There's always some sort of strings attached. He's either a pimp, drug dealer or cop. If he's a pimp then he's going to want you to be one of his girls and hook you and if you did that, he'd keep most of your money. If he's a drug dealer, he wants to get you addicted to the drugs so you keep coming back for more either so he can make money off you buying them, he know's that you'll have the money since you're a stripper or he wants to get you addicted so you'll have sex with him in exchange for the drugs. If he's a cop, well, I don't even need to go there. If he's a cop, you know what his intentions are, JAIL! Whenever a customer spends lots of money on you, always tell them what days you work and to come see you in the club. I think unless someone's been a regular of yours for a long time, and a long time meaning over a year, then maybe you could have an occasional dinner or coffee with them but don't ever give them your phone # or address, you never know what someone will do. WHenever customers ask me where I live or what apartment complex I live in, I always give them a fake one. I tell them I live in such in such city, or the name of a certain apartment complex. The city and apartment complex does exist, I just don't live there. You just don't ever know who to trust and who not to and that goes with everyone, any job, any aspect of life. With being a stripper, that makes us at such a higher risk of not being able to trust people, so please be careful!

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    If a guys giving you drugs for free...you're going to "owe him" later. Get the heck out of this situation.

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    Yekhefah-

    No, I'm not a whore. Thanks for the flattering implication though!

    Everyone else, thanks. The girls at the club were saying go for it (as in call him), but I thought this situation might be a little out of the ordinary. I'll be wary of this guy in the future, if he comes in again.

    As far as free drugs go, there are several girls who get weed (no more than) from 'regulars', without them the guys being cops or pimps, but they've known those guys for awhile.

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    hes gonna want more than just your company... he wants sex.. hes going to use you and manipulate you.... this site really isn't about discussing drugs either... you should probably keep that stuff private if you continue posting on here... i think a lot of dancers on here are clean in the industry and we really dont' like discussing situations like this...

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    Many dancers meet customers OTC, but only after the customer seems to have lost interest ITC. As long as he is generous ITC, then just enjoy the attention and money as long as it lasts. As soon as his attention and money is dropping off, then agree to shopping trips and OTC meetings. You can double the shelf life of a regular this way.

    Don't meet OTC until you absolutely have to, though. String him along ITC as long as possible. If he gives you his number, don't use it for a while, or only send text messages while it is slow at work. As soon as his interest seems to be waning, then call him live. After he gets tired of the run around, then meet him OTC. Some guys are happy with this situation for quite sometime, but others will want sex and/or commitment right away. That is the time to cut the ties and move on to others.

    Oh, and if you are getting involved with a drug dealer, just keep in mind the phrase "guilt by association".
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    This may be a little off topic, but in the past, I was able to get clothes from customers without having to meet them OTC. I would go to the store, pick out my clothes, put them on hold, and then have him go pay for them. Later, I would go pick them up, or have him bring them in.

    Just a thought, but probably not where the aforementioned customer was headed with you.

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    just read what leogirl said. she's got it. all these girls got it covered. Be careful!!!

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    Thanks again everyone,

    Just to clarify- I'm not really into drugs. Just smoking and the occasional script. Not worth association with a drug dealer. I just didnt know how often this sort of thing happened and what was 'protocol', seeing as how it seemed as though I could get a lot ($$) from this guy, who was paying me for dances he didnt even have me give.

    Paris, thank you especially for your advice. That was the sort of thing I was expecting to be advised about, but judging from other replies, I'll know to be especially on my toes. I'll hang on to the number, maybe call from a private line in the future, with no intention of meeting OTC ANYtime soon, if at all.

    btw- Avacheetahs, that's a great idea! I'll mention it.

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    You should never accept drugs from anyone you don't know especially a custy. I never have and most likely never will meet a custy OTC. I don't have any regulars though, but I did have 1 for over a year and never met him OTC. This guy is just trying desperately to get into your pants and anything you do OTC will further the fantasy that one day he really will have you. I don't recommend outside involvement, but a lot of other girls I know do it.
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    Ouch >_<

    The other girl (bitchy girl, but definitely not a whore or anything like it) ended up calling him and meeting him outside of the club. Turns out he was as cool as he seemed. Now they hang out now and again, he comes to see her and spends all kinds of money, but since they came in together before, I've kind of lost my window of opportunity.

    You snooze you lose. =/ I dont think I ever would have met up with this guy OTC, but I should have called him. Just goes to show you, every so often you just have to trust your own instincts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by harlequinn
    Ouch >_<

    The other girl (bitchy girl, but definitely not a whore or anything like it) ended up calling him and meeting him outside of the club. Turns out he was as cool as he seemed. Now they hang out now and again, he comes to see her and spends all kinds of money, but since they came in together before, I've kind of lost my window of opportunity.

    You snooze you lose. =/ I dont think I ever would have met up with this guy OTC, but I should have called him. Just goes to show you, every so often you just have to trust your own instincts.
    He may have been the real deal (if she is telling the truth), but you're definitely better off in terms of your own safety not to meet customers OTC that you just met. Most girls who do it only do it with customers they've seen many times and have gotten to know very well over a long period of time.

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    It's only been a month, still plenty of time for that shit to turn sour. Seriously, better safe than sorry.
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    I don't know why anyone with a brain with post this common sense sound very fishy and dangrous and you shoukld not do it.

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    In every club there is a guy (or several) and they play the same game with every new girl, they assume cos ur new to the club or even to the job that u are more gullible or vulnerable. If there is another dancer at the club who u do like/trust ak her if she knows him, he might have a reputation. In the meanwhile take him for everything he s got( and careful with the drugs!) xx

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    I don't know why anyone with a brain with post this common sense sound very fishy and dangrous and you shoukld not do it.
    It sounded fishy and dangerous, but the reality of the situation was you just had to be there and interact with the guy/experience the situation to know that there was no immediate danger in it. The guy was not a threat. I could see that, but was unsure whether or not to trust my judgment because I was new. Now that I've seen (with my own eyes) one of the veteran dancers interacting with him (as friends) OTC, I wish I had trusted my own instincts in the beginning.

    That's not to say that everyone's advice wasnt sound, but I did learn that sometimes your own judgment is better to be relied upon than the shared opinion of many wise, yet unfamiliar with the person/situation, others.

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