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    Is anyone else in a relationship right now who just can't stand their boyfriend's parents? I don't like my boyfriend's mother.. I mean she is just a real bitch. Not to long ago I made the mistake of drinking more than what I should have. I didn't think anything would happen because I had done this before and I was fine. I ended up getting alcohol poisoning and I had to go to the hospital and have my stomach pumped. Daniel was out of town and I was unable to get a hold of him at the time so I told his mother to let him know so he wouldn't be worried about me. She gives him the message and then says "These white girls.. Just make sure you be careful." Also, when I told her this over the phone she laughed. I didn't find anything funny about my life being on the line and how dare she tell him to be careful as if I'm a bad person?! He said to me "Well, she just said that because alot of girls have hurt me in the past." I still think that was uncalled for and unfair of her to say. Anyhow, she just called me on my cell phone and said "Hi Amy. I meant to call you last night but I fell asleep. I wanted to let you know that I'll be joining you and Daniel for dinner tonight." I don't want to see her there! It's to late to change anything because the plans have already been made. How would you guys deal with this situation? Am I just over-reacting? Well, I've decided to ride in my four runner tonight and I'll be sure to park right next to her.. hehe..

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    I agree - white girls are trouble.

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    I've actually broken up with a guy just because I couldn't stand the thought of his mom being my mother-in-law one day. Yeah, it was that bad. Then again, life balances out because I absolutely love my current boyfriend's mom...which is good because I'm going to marry this one.

    Don't forget though, it's not written anywhere that you have to associate with his mother while you're dating him. Just be polite but keep your distance. That's how I handled the mother from Hell.
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    Silly white girls...with ther liquer and their Volkswagon Beetles.
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    Yeah, I've been there, done that. Not fun. I broke up with the guy for the same reason Kitty260 did. But, how did she know you both were having dinner tonight (or whenever)? If you didn't invite her, then it's pretty presumptuous and rude for her to invite herself. I've never had a problem with standing my ground with mean/nosey mothers. I've never been rude, but I've never allowed them to walk all over me.

    Maybe you just need to say something to her. He sounds kinda like a momma's boy and she's doing what she does because she's afraid of losing him. Either way, if she's not invited somewhere, you could always call her and say, "There must have been some mistake because the dinner that was planned tonight was strictly a dinner for two. I'm sorry if that was miscommunicated. Have a great night!"

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    "There must have been some mistake because the dinner that was planned tonight was strictly a dinner for two. I'm sorry if that was miscommunicated. Have a great night!"[/QUOTE]

    hehe I really should say that.. but I'd be to afraid that he'd get real upset with me. I will definately keep my distance from her.

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    My mother-in-law is the Wicked Witch of Greenpoint. Total bitch, unkind, goes on drinking binges, enjoys misery, and is a complete pig. If you saw her apartment you would die, and she thinks I should come over and clean it for her! HA! Not in this lifetime or any other.

    Now's a good time to start your list of all the things that you're not going to do if/when you become someones mother-in-law. Mine is miles long.

    Good luck, stick up for yourself now. Let her know she can't push you around.

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    i JUST BROKE UP W/ THE PERFECT GUY because of his mom.

    She was the cause of different breakup's for him in the past. If the mom is crazy run FAR FAR AWAY!

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    Yes, I agree with tampafldancer!

    Of course, you could always try to be the bigger girl and have a sit down with his mom and just talk it out first. See why she's being that way and then judge whether you think it can get better. If not, you need to decide if he's worth the lifelong anguish she's going to cause you. For me, it wasn't. He wasn't worth the crap I'd have to put up with. My current bf is, but his mom is utterly fabulous and I love her like my own. We still have our disagreements but we get over it.

    So yeah, my advice is to talk it out first, then make your decision. Trust me, somewhere out there is the perfect mother-in-law for you.....or a guy that's well worth having a crappy one.
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    She is his mum. Nothing else need be said. If you really can't get along with her AT ALL, I'd find a new boyfriend. I mean, lots of guys will tough it out with their mother's for their SOs. However they also a) underestimate the stuff that they cannot or have limited control over and b) she will always be a part of his life. Even if he is mad at her and "chooses" you over her. It's his mother. She is always there.

    It doesn't sound horribly dire - she is going to dinner with you guys. And - let's be honest - none of us make a good impression with alcohol poisoning. Maybe if you give her an even chance to get to know you, she will actually like you.
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    I love my boyfriend's mom, but his sister and I don't get along, and he's really close to his sister, so things are tough at times, but I deal with it, if you really like the guy, don't let his mom bother you.

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    My husbands mother didn't like me and after 8 years together and her still hating my guts, he stopped talking to his mother for 3 years.
    I was like OMG you don't have to not talk to her just because of me.

    After 11 years his mother and I get along, she even said she was sorry about being such a bitch.
    This is the same woman who hated me when she was told about my dancing said if she had the body and was
    younger would be dancing right along side of me, mothers are weird about their son's. I just hope my son's
    wife to be and I get along.

    Sometimes I feel like the luckiest woman on the planet to have a guy so into me, other times it scares the hell out of me and makes me think he has some secret agenda.. then again if he did I would know it by now

    I wouldn't let a guys mom mess up a relationship it's easy enough for 2 people to do it on their own.
    just mho

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny
    She is his mum. Nothing else need be said. If you really can't get along with her AT ALL, I'd find a new boyfriend.
    Hahah, My relationship with my step-mother has never been good. But I know the hell she went through to be my step-mother, and I know she will never ever be able to look at me and not remember that. I give her a level of forgiveness for what she does because of that. She could have just left my father in the hardest time of his life. But she didn't, and she makes him happy so she's earned my loyalty....just not my time.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny
    It doesn't sound horribly dire - she is going to dinner with you guys. And - let's be honest - none of us make a good impression with alcohol poisoning. Maybe if you give her an even chance to get to know you, she will actually like you.
    No no no. Lets be honest... YOU don't make a good impression with alcohol poisoning. ME on the other hand, am the life of the party while getting my stomach pumped. Tres Secksi.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    No no no. Lets be honest... YOU don't make a good impression with alcohol poisoning. ME on the other hand, am the life of the party while getting my stomach pumped. Tres Secksi.
    Okay, look - there is just no need to be all THAT honest, mkay?
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