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    Ok, so I've been dancing on and off for about 7 months. My problem is that I get discouraged so easily. I don't really know why, because I'll have several great days in a row, and then several really really bad days. It's the reason I've taken so many 'leave of absences'. I took 4 months off at the beginning of this year, and now I'm off again. I know I'm pretty, but when i see other girls, and how they dance or look, I'm either thinking they dance better or just like me, so what makes me special, or they are so hot, and I'm fat. Then I'll sit with a customer and feel dumb. I need to update my outfits and shoes, and I need to find a good club where I can make money. But there are no good clubs here. They're 'titty bars'. I've been traveling a little. I too have a hard time breaking the ice, and while I can pretend to be confident, deep down, I'm not. I'm broke as can be right now, and I don't know what to do. I wanna go back and dance, but I hate wasting time and leaving with nothing (yes, I have left with nothing) Some of you are shaking your heads thinking I wouldnt leave with nothing, but sometimes, theres nothing you can do. My hustle needs work, and so do I. Any advice??

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    Sorry I was rambling

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    this is a hard job if you arent fully confident and dont have good self esteem this is not the job for you. if you dont look confident and friendly no matter how hot you are you wont make money its all about personality.

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    It sounds as if you are having self of steam issues. Taken that battle first, then put your focus back on dancing. You have to take care of you first...







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    No offense but let me me blunt.

    Why should a guy want a dance with you if you don't want a dance from yourself?

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    huney you need to feel better about your self & watch how it reflects on your dancing & in the $$$ you make. STAY BEAUTIFULL.GODBLESS YOU

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    Girl, search this site a bit and you will see that MANY of us have left with nothing! Lately it's been rough where I live and I know that lots of girls have ended up OWING the club money after housefee and tip-outs many nights in the past couple of weeks. So, seriously, don't let that part get you down. It goes with the territory. Happens to the best.

    CK was on it when she said you've got self-esteem issues. We ALL have our good nights and our bad nights. You just can't take it personally. And those other girls? Those other girls are doing their thing and you're doing yours. Don't get stuck feeling they've got something you don't. It simply isn't true. Every one of us dancers is a unique creature with a market out there.

    I'm wishing you the best Good luck.

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    Before we even get to the point where we work on your hustle, we need to work on your self confidence. That one element is killing your sales and until you work to boost that, nothing is going to change. You need to start realizing that you WANT to work in the club, not have to. The more desperately you need the money, the harder it is to make. If you go into the club with the expectation of just having fun, you'll make money. If you go in worrying about your outfit being out of date and how much money you need that night, you won't make a dime. Remember, these two attitudes reflect in a huge way how you talk to and sell to your customers. After all, why would a guy want to buy a dance from someone who walks up with a depressed look on her face when he can have the "fun chick" right next to her? Remember, it's not about how "hot" you are, it's not about how you look in that outfit, it's how you sell. Period.

    This being said, change your attitude a little and you'll get better results. Every night you walk into the club, you should say, "Tonight, I'm going to have fun!" Say it out loud even! Embed that mindset into your brain. Next, you should do an exercise that I call "Act As If." What you should do is periodically through your shift ask yourself the question, "If I were a dancer making $1000 a night, what would I be doing differently RIGHT NOW." You should say this to yourself at least ten times a night. It's a great way to regain focus and re-energize for the next sale. This portion of StripperWeb is great for learning new techniques on making money. I will guarantee you though that not one of them will work for you until you change your mindset first.

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    If you're not confident in the product you are selling (you are NOT the product, you are just part of it remember that so when someone rejects what you are selling they are not rejecting you they are rejecting the product) ..... then why the hell would anyone else be convinced enough that the product is worth purchasing? Seriously. That's basic sales there in any business.

    You may want to do some other form of work until you've gained more confidence in yourself.


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