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    So, I'm hoping I got a regular tonight... He bought a lot of dances... It was just SO hard to get him to talk! He seemed content to just have me pet his arm. During the dances, he had trouble making eye contact with me and kept looking away. He told me he'd come back to see me... any suggestions for how to pull him out of his shell? Do you think it'll just take time?
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    He'll come back. My guess, as a man, he's either very sexually inexperienced or a complete virgin. Ease him in real slow, he might be an Andy Stitzer.
    I first went to the strip club as a virgin myself, and I was pretty freaked out and excited all at the same time, couldn't make eye contact or look at the dancer for my first lappy.

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    This is an excellent topic. It's not just the virginally shy customers that are a problem, but also the colossolly boring ones. I can jabber on like monkey in a tree and easily establish rapport with a guy who is easy to talk to, but I freeze right up with those customers who don't seem to know how to have a conversation.

    How do you establish rapport with the Silent Type?

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    I had a really shy guy the other night. He was stuttering and saying "oh my gosh.....but....but....you're naked right in front of me.....oh my gosh....but.....but...I don't even know you....but....well...I'd like....to get to know you better....um...how about we meet after the club." I'm like, I don't think so! I don't know if that shyness thing was an act to get me to go out with him after the club or not. He did seem pretty shy though. I really think the shyness thing is because the guy is inexperienced or really not sure of himself or both. I just do my thing like I do with everyone else. I give a great dance, smile, talk to him and say" Are you shy, sweetie?" When they say "yes" Then I say"Oh, there's no need to be shy with me, baby, I don't bite, well, most of the time I don't" Then I put on a big smile and wink at them. That seems to loosen them up a little bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel
    This is an excellent topic. It's not just the virginally shy customers that are a problem, but also the colossolly boring ones. I can jabber on like monkey in a tree and easily establish rapport with a guy who is easy to talk to, but I freeze right up with those customers who don't seem to know how to have a conversation.

    How do you establish rapport with the Silent Type?
    I'll be more than happy to chat you up until you start to dance. Once you start dancing, please be quiet and show that you're so turned on you're speechless (or better yet, just fake it and please be quiet).
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    I like the custys that don't talk. I don't have any regulars though, and don't care to have one b/c I would rather not talk to them!
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    Used to be, if a guy was quiet, I felt obligated to chatter and make conversation, but I've found that turns most quiet guys off. Best thing to do is mirror the way your customer talks. If he speaks slowly, you speak slowly. If he doesn't say much, you don't either. When I'm sitting with someone who wants me there but doesn't seem to want to talk, I won't say much, and will give them some minor physical contact instead, like stroking their arm/hand/leg/hair.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21
    So, I'm hoping I got a regular tonight... He bought a lot of dances... It was just SO hard to get him to talk! He seemed content to just have me pet his arm. During the dances, he had trouble making eye contact with me and kept looking away. He told me he'd come back to see me... any suggestions for how to pull him out of his shell? Do you think it'll just take time?
    He might have been a SC newbie. A lot of quiet guys barely get a gal of your level of attractiveness to talk to them in the real world, so having a gal dance for him might have been a bit more than he could handle. Then again, he bought a lot of dances so you were obviously doing something right. You also have to consider that he may have been raised in a manner where its considered wrong to be in a strip club, so perhaps he was having trouble reconciling between what his hormones want him to experience and how his conscience is telling him he should act.

    I've been socially apprehensive around new people my whole life, but particularly around women, and esspecially around attractive women. It merely takes some time for that apprehensiveness to wear off. To an extent, he wants you to take the initative and help break him out of his shell.

    Whatever you say, be sincere and subtle. If he acts respectful towards you, you can compliment him on his behavior. But don't get overly sexual or overly chatty. He's probably faced a lot of rejection in life and knows that a woman coming on to him that strongly all of a sudden isn't doing it because she really likes him.

    Just give it time and don't pressure him. Besides you'll sell more dances this way, and once he's broke in to you, it'll be easier for him to continue to deal with you than trying to repeat the break-in experience with a new gal.
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