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    Default I like you too much to get a dance, ARGHH!!!!

    I don't know about all of you but I am so sick of hearing stupid guys calling you over to their table/area, taking up/wasting your time talking to you , etc. and then when you ask them for a dance or want to take them back to the VIP room they say"I like you too much to get a dance from you or I respect you too much to get a dance from you". Arghhh!!!!! I'm so fucking sick of that BS!!! I'm sure all of you are too! What do you all say to that? Next time I hear that I'm going to say to them, you know what? I'm so glad you said that because I really don't respect you enough to dance for you and I only dance for guys I respect.

    But then what pisses me off the most is they then ask you to go out with them! This creep said this to me on Wed night and then had the balls to touch my butt and tell me I have a great ass and then asked me if I was working on Fri night. I said yes and he said, why don't you call in sick and meet me for my birthday party at such in such restaurant. Ughh! Pathetic loser/ahole! I wonder if all these guys get together and come up with the same BS sayings!

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    Quote Originally Posted by leogirl876
    I don't know about all of you but I am so sick of hearing stupid guys... say[ing] "I like you too much to get a dance from you or I respect you too much to get a dance from you"...But then what pisses me off the most is they then ask you to go out with them!
    Welcome to standard customer fantasy No. 47: "I can date a dancer".

    They've worked out that staring at the finer points of your anatomy isn't going to aid their cause, so they feel they've got to show they value you as a person not a dancer. They've also worked out that Leogirl at work is probably a different person to Leogirl in real life, so they're trying to connect to the "real" you.

    They feel that telling you they respect you too much to watch you dance will show they're a caring person and thus different from the other 50 guy's who'll ask you for a date that week.

    Never underestimate the power of male BS when they're talking to impress each other either. All these guy will have heard of the "friend of a friend" who used just this technique to get a dancer's phone number.

    Annoying for you cos you want to earn; but every guy who gets "date the dancer" syndrome is convince that if he gets his technique right, he'll eventually get a date. If he doesn't, it's not that you have zero intention of seeing him OTC, it's that he wasn't sensitive enough to connect with the "real" you.

    Only thing you can do is to suggest that you might eventually date guys, but only after a couple of months. In the meantime the best way to get to know you is to buy some dances, cos then you can chat to him, rather than walking round the club trying to find another customer who will buy dances - if you know his motive, use it against him.

    [Just remember Einstein's relativity equation as it applies to strip clubs: 2 months inside the venue = 2 years outside: that's time dilation for you].

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W
    Only thing you can do is to suggest that you might eventually date guys, but only after a couple of months.
    This is hardly the only thing you can do. I wouldn't reccommend doing it at all, in fact, although suggesting that to a customer that "he get to know you" by buying dances is a reasonable approach.

    Bottom line is, if the guy is using the "want to get to know you" schtick to avoid buying dances, he's probably a cheap bastard and nothing much is going to change that. Move on and don't waste your time.

    But if this happens to you a lot, you might consider if you're hustle is off. When I first started dancing, I was shy about asking for dances and used to spend a lot more time talking with customers before I popped the question. I got this response a lot more then, maybe because customers genuinely thought they were getting to know me. Possibly, they also thought I was more interested in talking to them than dancing, since I didn't ask, and figured maybe it was worth trying to get me to go out with them. I now ask for dances much sooner and don't really talk about myself at all, so customers have no reason to say that they feel like they know me.

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    Default Re: I like you too much to get a dance, ARGHH!!!!

    i tell them 'that's fine, you can always tip me instead'. either i get a tip or they get dances or they back off the entire 'i respect you too much to give you money' thing.

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    Default Re: I like you too much to get a dance, ARGHH!!!!

    He: I like you too much to get a dance from you.
    Me: Why? I don't like you too much to dance for you...
    OR Why would you want someone you don't like rubbing their unlikeableness all over you??? Sounds like a personal problem to me

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    i usually grab them by the ears and scream as loud as i can in their face...i wish. that happened to me last night after i sat there for 30 minutes and i was standing 10 feet away from their table glaring and watched him take another girl who had sat there for no joke 3 minutes upstairs for a dance.
    later he came to my stage and told me i was the best dancer there yadayada to which i coyly replied 'then why did you waste your money on a dance if it wasn't with the best?' before walking to the next customer. oh zing. i was mad.

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    ^^Pop the question sooner. Many guys get turned off when you wait too long. It only takes a couple/few minutes to get a guy worked up enough to buy, if he's going to buy at all. Limit yourself to 2 songs before asking, and if he turns you down, 1) you haven't wasted much time and can quickly move on to the next and 2) you won't be so pissed off when he takes another girl up on her more immediate offer (which really only hurts your own hustle).

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    I really didn't spend much time with him, maybe 5 minutes at most. I think he was one of those guys who likes to be a total ass and loves to waste a dancers time. I was actually on my way to approach another guy when he grabbed my arm and pulled me towards him and started talking to me. I thought,well, maybe I should stay with this guy instead of approaching the other guy since this guy's going to be a done deal. THe reason I was so mad is because I possibly lost $ because I didn't go up to the other guy because of this guy. So, we only talked about 5 minutes it so because I refuse to waste my time with cheap bastards! I've only been dancing for about a month but I'm quickly figuring out who will spend and who won't. Just by the way they talk, the way they're dressed and just that"feeling" you get, know what I mean?

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    Default Re: I like you too much to get a dance, ARGHH!!!!

    Sounds like those guys have been checking out the mysterymethod LOL..but yeah, it's quite annoying.

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    Default Re: I like you too much to get a dance, ARGHH!!!!

    That line is code for him being a cheap bastard. Guys who actually have respect for women and especially strippers never say that line. They tip, buy dances or both.

    Next time a guy uses that line I suggest cutting your losses and not wasting even a minute more of your time on him.

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    Default Re: I like you too much to get a dance, ARGHH!!!!

    Leogirl, yeah, I know what you mean My second post in this thread was in reaction to this statement from tori1982:
    Quote Originally Posted by tori1982
    that happened to me last night after i sat there for 30 minutes

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    He: I like you too much to get a dance from you.
    Me: Why? I don't like you too much to dance for you...
    OR Why would you want someone you don't like rubbing their unlikeableness all over you??? Sounds like a personal problem to me
    Um, HEE.

    The logic of a customer saying something like "I like you too much to get a dance from you" baffles me...as if customers should only get dances from someone they don't like. Or if they're going to drop the "respect" line...well then WTF are they doing in the club in the first place? See, when guys say stuff like this, it pisses the dancers off so that when they get around customers who actually have a clue we catch them on their bad side instead of their good one.
    "Women, not girls, rule my world" - Prince

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    Preachin to the choir over here man. Tell it to your brothas in blue

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    You are so right! Uh, it pisses us off to no end! I think it's the most ignorant, most uncreative most idiotic thing I've ever heard of. You'll all be glad to know when I do hear that line, do you know what I've been saying, "I've never heard such BS in my entire life!!!" And then I've walked away and it's felt great! The past 2 nights I'm getting toucher and toucher towards customers! Tonight this ahole, smacked me hard on my ass, this is a no touching club and you get one warning from bouncers, the second, you're out. Anyway, when he paid me he wanted change back and I told him no, I'm keeping, the rest is for the smack on my ass. Oh, he was pissed! Hahahahahahahahaha, finally a custy's turn to get pissed for a change! And I don't care!

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