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    First off thanks to all the girls who post on this site, shedding light on the industry. Whithout which I would be lost!
    So I have two questions...
    1. Is it possible to be a dancer and not have it change you? This is my biggest fear, I have heard of girls and seen a girl (distant friend) become really changed by the industry, becoming very bitter, outspoken, crude, cold and angry at the world or atleast just men. It seems like it can interfere with every part of your life especially your relationships. Saying this, I then find all you girls on this site to be really quite the opposite to how others have turned out.
    So how do you take dancing as just a job and not a complete lifestyle? Have you seen many girls change?
    Question 2. Is it at all possible for a dancer to remain in lingerie all night, say a G-string and a bra? Do any of you keep a bra and a G-string on? Do girls who show less still have the same earning potential as those who show more?
    3. How easy is it to leave the industry, I can see a lot of girls finding it difficult to go into other jobs once experiencing such amazing earning potential.
    Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

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    1. I dunno. I've always been the kind of person who knows what I can and can't handle. I think that starting at 25 helped me, too. If I would've started at 18, I don't think I couldn't have mentally handled it. The industry will change you, whether it's for the better or worse is up to you.

    2. I've never worked at a club that allows you to remain clothed, at least not on stage. Topless means bare breasted in the clubs I've worked in Denver, Dallas, and Vegas. Then again, rules are different depending on the state and club you're in.

    3. I gotta admit, the $$$ is hard to walk away from. I'm currently entering into a "respectable" indusdry but I intend to continue working one shift a week until I'm comfortable enough to completly leave. I'll miss the financial and scheduling freedom. I think it's important to know how to manage your money. If you're spending it as fast as you're making it, you'll find it really hard to leave.

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    The only input I can give is regarding #2....there are specifically bikini-type strip clubs in which you basically remain in a bikini all night. Lapdances may or may not be topless, depending on the location. There's one particular place like this in the Chgo-area, called Crazy Rock, and it's basically a lot of 18-20yr old customers who don't generally have a lot of money to spend. I would venture a guess and say the earning potentional is LESS than a higher-end topless or nude club, yet it would still be far better than, say, a standard office-type job.






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    1. youll never know how itll affect you until you do it. it seems to depend on how strong your boundaries and barriers are and the type of person you are. thick skin vs thin, high self esteem vs low, and most importantly in my mind how well you know who you are and whats important to you. starting dancing is walking into a whole new world and just like entering any new line of work itll take some adjustments and getting used to.

    2. at union jacks in portland you only take off as much or as little clothing as you want. theres one girl who works there who never shows anything on stage... keeps her bra panties and skirt on every set. she still makes alright stage tips but her main money is made in dances where she will get naked. its actually a damn good hustle. she's really hott and custys seem to be willing to buy the dance just so they can finally see her nekkid. shes definitely a top earner at our club and has been for a long time.
    some dancers at my club argue that keeping your panties on on stage gets you more private dances since theres still a mystery about you. i seem to make the same amount of money either way. but in regards to not taking anything off all night even in dances, id say that would definitely affect your income and kind of makes me wonder why you want to be a stripper if you dont want to take off any clothing? perhaps its the wrong field for you.

    3. i havent tried to leave yet but i do work two jobs (one dancing one "straight") and i can definitely say that the money i make dancing has really taken away my motivation to work full time at my straight job. its hard to go back to working for 10 bucks an hour 40 hours a week when i know that 3-4 days at the club makes me more than a 2 week paycheck at work. for me my plan is to save all i can and dance till im sick of it and then go into the next venture with a good sized savings account to back me up.

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    I've been dancing for a little over a month now. I'm almost 30 and I know there's no way I could've handled dancing at 18 or 21 or even 25. I think I entered it at the right moment in my life but everyone's different and can handle different things. I do believe I see things very different than some of the girls at my club, especially the younger ones. I can see how it could easily suck you in and how you could easily make it your life. I'm really glad that I didn't dance any sooner because I don't think I'd be strong enough to handle everything that goes on there. Even with me being a little older, I still have to constantly remind myself on things and put myself in check all the time with things. It does make me wonder too why you'd consider going into dancing if you don't want to take your clothes off. You know, at first I felt that way and thought I could only work at either a bikini bar or topless bar but I work at a nude club and am so much more comfortable with it. I think if you're serious about wanting to dance,you need to investigate the clubs you're thinking about working at. What I found in my area give or take 10min to 3 hours away from home driving distance is the more nude, the less contact there is. I was willing to trade for removing more clothing for less contact. I don't know if all areas are like this, this is just what I found near me. I wasn't comfortable doing lapdances and sitting on a guy which was a topless bar so I work in a nude club that has airdances and tabledances. For starting out especially, I wouldn't have gone any other way. I think the longer you do it, the less intimidating it gets. Its all what you're comfortable with. Before you dance, you really need to ask yourself what you will and will not do, what you are and not comfortable with and what is and what isn't a deal breaker. And if you do dance, try to stay true to yourself. You are going to have people offer you lots of money for things you might not want to do. For example I had a man offer me $3,000 for one night with him. Now, that's great money but I WILL NOT EVER go home with someone. It's just not what I'm comfortable with. I might not make as much money as some other girls but it's my body and it's what I'm comfortable with and that's how you need to look at it. Good luck!!! I'm really happy I did it but I really think it takes finding the right club and finding what makes you feel comfortable.

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    1. I don't think it's possible, or at least healthy, to be alive and not change. Most experiences will change you at least superficially. Your fundamental character and beliefs may or may not change, depending on how strong they are to begin with.

    2. Yes, sort of. You would want to work at a bikini bar and, generally, the income potential at bikini bar will be lower than at a topless or nude bar of the same quality.

    3. Like your first question, this depends upon the individual. If you love dancing, it's going to be hard to leave. If you hate regular 9-5 jobs, it's going to be hard to leave. If you pigeonhole yourself and don't develop any other skills to allow for alternative careers, it's going to be hard to leave.

    Good luck

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    1. I have been dancing for 5 months now- and yes, it has changed me! For the better, and like several have said before me, had I started dancing at 18, being young and impressionable, that could have changed me for the worst. I am 28, and I have to say, I have become so much more comfortable with my own sexuality because of dancing, I work at a club where the commradary between the dancers is tight, and because of that I have made so many new friends- contrary to stereotype, we don't have drug or alcohal problems, no hank panky(Ma 3 ft rule), Funny thing is 6 months ago I would have categorized dancers in the general stereotypes that surround our jobs! We serve a purpose, we give men a chance to fantasize with cheating on their spouses, we listen to their problems, we do our job- and that is what it is a job- when I walk in the door to my club, I am brittany, the second I walk out I am just me again!

    2. I work at an all nude gentlemens club, you have to get nude on stage- and because of our 3 ft rule, getting naked on a "lap" dance isn't so difficult(now anyways, that took some time getting used to).

    3. I own and operate a small horse farm- so I do have a normal job, and I could survive on that alone- I just like the extras(don't we all), as far as working a 9-5 job, I never have nor could I ever- something about sitting behind a desk or counter that just makes my skin cringe- I am too high strung!!!

    my advice would be to treat it like a job because that is what it is- the key is you have to be comfortable and either love it or be damn good at faking it because that is how you make money. If you are afraid of becoming a career stripper take steps in using a portion of what you make investing in your future, ie school, trade, etc.
    Good luck honey!!

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    I just want to point out that dancing while young is bad for some, but not all. I started when I was sixteen, and it has taught me sales skills, self-confidence, self-worth, how to protect myself, and not to mention, own my own house, land, and car before I was nineteen. It's a golden opportunity if you look at it the right way.

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    1. Yes, it can definitly change you...but I agree with everyone else that this biz cannot change your core values. Ive seen green girls change, but were simply green--thats all--the skanks were once skank ass girls and now theyre skank ass strippers. You may go thru a period where you will be very sensitive, and u may not want ur boyfriend to touch you etc. I went through that, but it didnt last long. If u dont wanna be a "lifestyle stripper," dont be hang out with other dancers--u will talk about work ALL the time. And dont islolate yourself. and dont tolarate abuse from club managers-they can make u feel low and u become accustomed to it.
    2. Depends on the club. even if you choose not to take your top off during LDs, you still will be required to onstage--unless its a bikini club. If you feel shy wear pasties or glitter.
    3. Most do this for a certain amt of time--and get out. Career dancers save, are very disiplined and have wise investments--u only have so long until you need surgery to keep up w/ the 19 year olds. Im saving $ for a biz I'm starting, then i wont have to dance.
    I'm getting my Dial-A-Stripper service up and running again. If you are in NYC or NJ and are interested in private party dancing, email [email protected] with your SW handle, contact info, photo (if you have one) & best time to call and I'll get back to you asap.

    If you're having a party and need strippers, email me with the details and any questions you have. Thanks!

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