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    I’ve been going fairly regularly since my divorce three years ago; for the most part, relatively high end clubs but ones that include lap dances.

    The following do’s and don’ts won’t just make the dancers lives easier, but that often translates into a friendlier attitude and more flexibility about the rules: A win-win situation.


    No. 1 rule: While some whores work as dancers, by no means are all dancers whores. If you don’t remember anything else, remember that. If a girl does outside work, she’ll let you know; you’re not going to talk her into it. NOTHING pisses off a dancer more than the assumption you can do the nasty just because she works at a strip club.

    No. 2 rule: Basic rules of etiquette: 1) be at least relatively clean (brush your teeth, take a shower, all that good stuff), 2) follow the bikini rule (unless otherwise directed, don’t touch anything that would be covered by a bikini), and 3) no bodily fluids, ever.
    Again, not only does this make it more enjoyable for them, but by doing so you’ll develop the type of friendly relationships that makes the experience more fun (and can often lead to more flexibility with the rules, once they get to know and trust you). Again, if they end up being open to “more” (and often after you get to know them, they will), they will let you know. Otherwise, it’s not worth the hassle (and the much inflated price you’ll pay even if they do let you.)

    No. 3 rule: You and the dancers: you ain’t friends. Want proof? Answer two questions: Do you know their last names? If you do see them outside of the club, is money involved (either cash or gifts)? For my friends the answer is yes and no; the opposite is true with most dancers. That means don’t be their sugar daddy, best friend, confidant, try to save them it ain’t real, and it’s the way something fun can grow into something weird (and very expensive).

    No. 4 rule: The goal isn’t to be friends, it’s to be friendly. The best way to think of a dancer is a waitress at your favorite place who brings you some bare skin rather than the daily special. You can legitimately get friendly with such a person, share personal information and develop a nice work-place relationship that makes the interaction better for both.

    Rule No. 5: If you can’t tip a buck, don’t go. However, don’t tip anymore more (that’s the basic stage tip I’m taking about) unless there’s something special: the industry is trying to make the basic tip $5, and there’s no reason for that.

    Rule No. 6: You want attention, a good time, etc? Be a good customer. If you never spend more than say $20 in the place, there’s a limit how much time they’ll spend with you (and the quality of that time).

    Rule No. 7: Sit with whoever you want. You’re the customer, which means if you want to switch girls (even regulars), do so!!! I’ll usually give a small ($40) tip to a long-time regular girl when I’m making that clear (e.g., by sitting with someone else, turning down dances I’ve bought in the past)…but the same way they owe you nothing, you owe them nothing.

    Rule No. 8: Don’t pay for anything you haven’t asked for or agreed to. Dancers seem to get all bent out shape if you don’t pay them if they talk to you. I agree with that if you’ve nagged them to do so, but if they’ve hung around trying to push a dance, that’s on them. Similarly, if someone comes up and gives me a 30 second massage (without me asking) and then expects $30—sorry, that’s the strip club version of the guys who used to wash your windows as you sat in traffic, whether you wanted them to or not.

    Anyway, good luck!

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    Rule #6 contradicts Rule #5.

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    Not that I disagree with the general premise behind this list but it should be stated that it suffers from the very same problem that all such lists do. It seems to suggest that there is a one size, fits all answer on proper club etiquette. Every club has its own customs regarding proper dress, tipping, dances, etc. A wise customer in an unfamilar club should try to learn how that club operates.

    And with respect to #5, I've never heard of any such push to make $5 tips standard, at least not around here. Does anyone really think that clubs would be dumb enough to potentially sacrifice alcohol and cover revenue over that? Besides, a dollar is a hell of lot closer to zero than it is five.
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    not necessarily...I think what he's trying to say is that #5 refers to tipping the girls on stage, i.e. $1 a girl at least...#6 I believe refers to more along the lines of how many dances, since most clubs are 20/25/30 a dance, generally, depending on the average price at those clubs in that city. If you look at it that way, where he's saying in #6- if you can't get more than one dance, you're not being a good customer.
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    Yes, but some dipshit who sits at the tip rail and only tips fifty cents a song isn't being a good customer either, and is likely to find that he's not getting as much attention as the guys who tip better.

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    Though I agree with "rule" 1-4, the other four I don't for one in "rule" no.5 you say tip no more then 1$ and go on and say that the industy's trying to push a 5$ basic tip on stage how did you come to that? I work in a stripclub and I can say you are wrong about that. Basic rule I tell everybody if your gonna sit stage side make sure you tip the girl, If you figure average stage sets are 2-3 songs and last anywhere from 3-10 minutes make sure you throw the girl a couple bucks weather it be 5 bucks over 10 minutes that isnt much, I get complaints from customers all night long about wh ythe girls dont go over to them and dance in front of them during stage sets, my answer to them is reach in your pocket and pull out something thats green and about 6 inches long and has some dead guys picture on it and then maybe she'll come over to you. I know when my and friend go out to Deja-vu or 2001 in tampa we tip at least 2$ a song per girl meybe its because we know how the business goes and how much these girls work for there money. I dont do lapdances mainly because I work in SC but I wil tip while there on stage and I explain this to the girls and most understand and I can have a regular conversation with them being I know in the ins and outs. Rule No.6 is mostly true, but some people cant afford to spend a couple 100 a night and most girls will understand that, we have a customer that comes in twice a week spends about 10 on stage and gets a lapdance from the same girl and he gets friendly attention from the house girls beign they know his deal. Rule #7 I have a hard time agreeing with mainly because of the way its written the way it sound to me is: "here's some money leave me alone until im finished with this one and then I'll come by you when I'm ready." No.8 I cant disagree,but I cant agree with this one because for one if a girl is sitting with you talking with you for a while. Tipping them isnt expected,but you can throw them a 5 or a 10 but, if they just come over and give you a mini lapdance or a massage that you didnt want then know you dont have to tip

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    "QUOTE" No.8 I cant disagree,but I cant agree with this one because for one if a girl is sitting with you talking with you for a while. Tipping them isnt expected,but you can throw them a 5 or a 10 but, if they just come over and give you a mini lapdance or a massage that you didnt want then know you dont have to tip "QUOTE"

    Well I think I agree in the sense that he meant go ahead and tip a girl for her time if you appreciate her. But if she comes over and comes off like a ROB (rip of bitch) and demands money for something you truly didn’t agree upon you are not required too.

    Id like to ad my own # 9) Don't "Lead a dancer on" in the sense that you will give her money in the future and neglect to do so. Or if you bought lap dances or time with her and when she gets up to leave don’t say "I'll pay you to sit here for a while" and expect to pay later, pay up front for a negotiated time.
    Many times I've heard this line sometimes it pays to stay, but most of the time I don’t get the extra "promised money" I usually turn this one down anyway because paying for conversation can be tricky. I won't stay 20 min for 25 bucks no way. I can measure the beginning or the end of a lap dance and conversation in between. But paying for time can be indefinite. However sometimes this can turn out to be a good, move most of the time it isn’t so unless it's really slow I can't afford to be paid for time unless they pay me accordingly.

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    I am going to wright a list to show everybody that I know how it is done.

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    I have only one tip for enjoying a SC: bring a lot of money and spend it freely.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    Yes, but some dipshit who sits at the tip rail and only tips fifty cents a song isn't being a good customer either, and is likely to find that he's not getting as much attention as the guys who tip better.
    Egads! Tipping with coins is grounds for a beating!

    That makes a $5 bill your only option for tipping around here. Maybe that's why no one tips! I'm trying to change that, but it's not working...

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    Well, I wasn't referring to anyone tipping with coins - I've never seen it, thankfully. And yes, it would definitely move me to violence. When I said "fifty cents a song," I was talking about the frequent wankers who grudgingly hand over one lonely $1 bill for a two-song set. Bonus asshole points when they act like they're doing me a huge favor.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    I’ve been going fairly regularly since my divorce three years ago; for the most part, relatively high end clubs but ones that include lap dances.

    The following do’s and don’ts won’t just make the dancers lives easier, but that often translates into a friendlier attitude and more flexibility about the rules: A win-win situation.
    I agree with the intent but disagree with the content and more succintly the delivery.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    No. 1 rule: While some whores work as dancers, by no means are all dancers whores. If you don’t remember anything else, remember that.
    Perhaps better said if you are looking to buy sex, dont shop in a strip club.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    If a girl does outside work, she’ll let you know; you’re not going to talk her into it. NOTHING pisses off a dancer more than the assumption you can do the nasty just because she works at a strip club.
    A cow in a dairy farm tends to be pretty wary of people who come there looking to buy beef.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    No. 2 rule: Basic rules of etiquette: 1) be at least relatively clean (brush your teeth, take a shower, all that good stuff), 2) follow the bikini rule (unless otherwise directed, don’t touch anything that would be covered by a bikini), and 3) no bodily fluids, ever.
    Agree. Must be my dribbling that is a problem.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    Again, not only does this make it more enjoyable for them, but by doing so you’ll develop the type of friendly relationships that makes the experience more fun (and can often lead to more flexibility with the rules, once they get to know and trust you). Again, if they end up being open to “more” (and often after you get to know them, they will), they will let you know. Otherwise, it’s not worth the hassle (and the much inflated price you’ll pay even if they do let you.)
    Kind of similar to being a regular customer at Hertz and then wanting to keep the car.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    No. 3 rule: You and the dancers: you ain’t friends. Want proof? Answer two questions: Do you know their last names? If you do see them outside of the club, is money involved (either cash or gifts)? For my friends the answer is yes and no; the opposite is true with most dancers. That means don’t be their sugar daddy, best friend, confidant, try to save them it ain’t real, and it’s the way something fun can grow into something weird (and very expensive).
    Does beg the question... save them from what? Pretty much everyone i know goes to work to pay off some bills or debts.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    No. 4 rule: The goal isn’t to be friends, it’s to be friendly.
    IMO the goal is to be entertained.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    The best way to think of a dancer is a waitress at your favorite place who brings you some bare skin rather than the daily special. You can legitimately get friendly with such a person, share personal information and develop a nice work-place relationship that makes the interaction better for both.
    I just think that if you are going to get attention or attitude it is so much better if it comes from someone good looking.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    Rule No. 5: If you can’t tip a buck, don’t go. However, don’t tip anymore more (that’s the basic stage tip I’m taking about) unless there’s something special: the industry is trying to make the basic tip $5, and there’s no reason for that.

    Rule No. 6: You want attention, a good time, etc? Be a good customer. If you never spend more than say $20 in the place, there’s a limit how much time they’ll spend with you (and the quality of that time).
    Yep. No money No honey.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    Rule No. 7: Sit with whoever you want. You’re the customer, which means if you want to switch girls (even regulars), do so!!! I’ll usually give a small ($40) tip to a long-time regular girl when I’m making that clear (e.g., by sitting with someone else, turning down dances I’ve bought in the past)…but the same way they owe you nothing, you owe them nothing.
    If you owe nothing why do you tip when spending time with another dancer.

    Quote Originally Posted by dtrotts
    Rule No. 8: Don’t pay for anything you haven’t asked for or agreed to. Dancers seem to get all bent out shape if you don’t pay them if they talk to you. I agree with that if you’ve nagged them to do so, but if they’ve hung around trying to push a dance, that’s on them. Similarly, if someone comes up and gives me a 30 second massage (without me asking) and then expects $30—sorry, that’s the strip club version of the guys who used to wash your windows as you sat in traffic, whether you wanted them to or not.
    How many times have you spent a lot of time and effort on a potential customer? How pissed off would you get if the potential customer wasted a lot of your time with no intent of giving you any business? I tend to find it simpler to offer a drink and politely say no very early in the piece if i have no intention of buying a dance.

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    QUOTE=NoCoverLover:
    Egads! Tipping with coins is grounds for a beating!

    That makes a $5 bill your only option for tipping around here. Maybe that's why no one tips! I'm trying to change that, but it's not working...
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    Just tip American. Never had a lady complain. Fall over in shock, sure. but complain? Nope.

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    I live in Australia, where a $5 note is the smallest. What do you want them to do, tip me COINS?!

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    Quote Originally Posted by NoCoverLover
    That makes a $5 bill your only option for tipping around here. Maybe that's why no one tips! I'm trying to change that, but it's not working...
    Quote Originally Posted by lilithmorrigan
    I live in Australia, where a $5 note is the smallest. What do you want them to do, tip me COINS?!
    I think when the OP made the list, he was probably making reference only to American clubs, which is why I chimed in with the "one size does not fit all" comment.

    Truth be told, I gotta agree with NCL that an absense of $1 notes, or even $2 notes makes the long held notion that stage dancing is just advertising for lap dances pretty much an absolute. It effectively forces dancers to actively hustle unless a customer wishes to tip a gal $5 to ask her for a dance.

    Truth be told, if there were no $1 bills down here, I would barely tip the stage at all, and that's not good, because its through use of those measley $1 tips that I find the majority of my lap dancing partners.
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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish
    I think when the OP made the list, he was probably making reference only to American clubs, which is why I chimed in with the "one size does not fit all" comment.

    Truth be told, I gotta agree with NCL that an absense of $1 notes, or even $2 notes makes the long held notion that stage dancing is just advertising for lap dances pretty much an absolute. It effectively forces dancers to actively hustle unless a customer wishes to tip a gal $5 to ask her for a dance.

    Truth be told, if there were no $1 bills down here, I would barely tip the stage at all, and that's not good, because its through use of those measley $1 tips that I find the majority of my lap dancing partners.
    True. Tipping is rarer in Australia. I made probably $80 in tips tonight and normally I'd be surprised at a tip in Australia. But when they DO tip, oddly enough, it's usually 50s. O.o;

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