I’ve been going fairly regularly since my divorce three years ago; for the most part, relatively high end clubs but ones that include lap dances.
The following do’s and don’ts won’t just make the dancers lives easier, but that often translates into a friendlier attitude and more flexibility about the rules: A win-win situation.
No. 1 rule: While some whores work as dancers, by no means are all dancers whores. If you don’t remember anything else, remember that. If a girl does outside work, she’ll let you know; you’re not going to talk her into it. NOTHING pisses off a dancer more than the assumption you can do the nasty just because she works at a strip club.
No. 2 rule: Basic rules of etiquette: 1) be at least relatively clean (brush your teeth, take a shower, all that good stuff), 2) follow the bikini rule (unless otherwise directed, don’t touch anything that would be covered by a bikini), and 3) no bodily fluids, ever.
Again, not only does this make it more enjoyable for them, but by doing so you’ll develop the type of friendly relationships that makes the experience more fun (and can often lead to more flexibility with the rules, once they get to know and trust you). Again, if they end up being open to “more” (and often after you get to know them, they will), they will let you know. Otherwise, it’s not worth the hassle (and the much inflated price you’ll pay even if they do let you.)
No. 3 rule: You and the dancers: you ain’t friends. Want proof? Answer two questions: Do you know their last names? If you do see them outside of the club, is money involved (either cash or gifts)? For my friends the answer is yes and no; the opposite is true with most dancers. That means don’t be their sugar daddy, best friend, confidant, try to save them it ain’t real, and it’s the way something fun can grow into something weird (and very expensive).
No. 4 rule: The goal isn’t to be friends, it’s to be friendly. The best way to think of a dancer is a waitress at your favorite place who brings you some bare skin rather than the daily special. You can legitimately get friendly with such a person, share personal information and develop a nice work-place relationship that makes the interaction better for both.
Rule No. 5: If you can’t tip a buck, don’t go. However, don’t tip anymore more (that’s the basic stage tip I’m taking about) unless there’s something special: the industry is trying to make the basic tip $5, and there’s no reason for that.
Rule No. 6: You want attention, a good time, etc? Be a good customer. If you never spend more than say $20 in the place, there’s a limit how much time they’ll spend with you (and the quality of that time).
Rule No. 7: Sit with whoever you want. You’re the customer, which means if you want to switch girls (even regulars), do so!!! I’ll usually give a small ($40) tip to a long-time regular girl when I’m making that clear (e.g., by sitting with someone else, turning down dances I’ve bought in the past)…but the same way they owe you nothing, you owe them nothing.
Rule No. 8: Don’t pay for anything you haven’t asked for or agreed to. Dancers seem to get all bent out shape if you don’t pay them if they talk to you. I agree with that if you’ve nagged them to do so, but if they’ve hung around trying to push a dance, that’s on them. Similarly, if someone comes up and gives me a 30 second massage (without me asking) and then expects $30—sorry, that’s the strip club version of the guys who used to wash your windows as you sat in traffic, whether you wanted them to or not.
Anyway, good luck!


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