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    Default A great lap dance

    I just started working at a lap dance club for the first time (only did stage shows and air dances before).

    I know that good lap dances are an art form (and I want to learn!) but I feel clueless as to how to give one. And as I don't feel I can give a good one it is really hard to sell a dance that I myself am not confident in! Ack!!

    I'm not sure how to be super sexual and build in intensity while still keeping the rules. Our club rules are:

    1. one foot always on floor
    2. NO nudity
    3. no grinding
    4. minimal time on lap

    So ummmmm........what makes a great lap dance??



    (BTW: I'd go buy some lap dances to see, but I'm so flat broke I can hardly buy food right now )

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    Default Re: A great lap dance

    A lot of eye contact is very important. I stroke the chest while making eye contact or pinch their nipples while knealing down in front of them and smile. Or I will lean down and blow on their ear or whisper something to them. I just pay a lot of attention to them and try to make them feel they are the only man on the planet.

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    it's the little things... fingernails lightly on the neck, resting your hands on his shoulders while you dance, eye contact (but not too much.. you have to go inbetween.. and some guys get nervous). the best advice i can give is to make it seem as natural as possible. like, make every move seem like you're doing it because you FEEL like doing it, not because it's a trick to make money (even if it is). did that make any sense? i've been drinking OE tonight.

    *sigh* you know it's been a bad $week$ at work when i'm drinking 40s (1.20 each!) on a wednesday night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny
    i've been drinking OE tonight.

    *sigh* you know it's been a bad $week$ at work when i'm drinking 40s (1.20 each!) on a wednesday night.
    word.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenidlady1
    I just pay a lot of attention to them and try to make them feel they are the only man on the planet.
    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny
    The best advice I can give is to make it seem as natural as possible. like, make every move seem like you're doing it because you FEEL like doing it, not because it's a trick to make money (even if it is).
    From the customer point of view - spot on. OK, we like to see the sights, but we also like to think there's a degree of interest in us as a person as well.

    Nothing worse than a robotic lap dance:

    31 seconds - slip dress off...
    63.5 seconds - take bra off.....
    Etc.

    Phil.

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    i can give you a tip on what NOT to do:
    i did a double dance with this girl tonight, and she was so hammered she didnt realize how hard she was landing on the custy or on me, she was practically slamming her body into him instead of grinding. i felt bad for his nuts lol.. so.. remember your weight (and this girl was a waif so i can only imagine what i would have felt like doing that) and how hard you come down on someone.

    don't look bored, don't look around while you're dancing as that shows him you are not there mentally at all. don't smack gum, or blow bubbles, while dancing, it's distracting to the guys.

    and i cant say enough how much eye contact helps.

    Love it!

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    i would agree with pretty penny. i sell a lot of dances, and usually it's because i leave a guy desperate for another one at the end of a song. the only way you can grab the money of a guy who was not necessarily planning on spending $200 on lapdances at the stripclub on a wednesday night is to make him feel like something really special is happening, and it's because you've suddenly realized that he is the most charmingly attractive guy in the county (even if the guy is stinky and gross). it does take a lot of energy, but we are at work afterall.

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    I usually get into a slightly more provocative position right before the beginning of the next song so he'll want to continue into the 2nd, 3rd, 4th.... I also make eye contact consistently and blow lightly on his neck and ear while whispering something sexy. I'll tell him how much I'm enjoying myself and ask him "May I continue" or I'll state in a raspy voice, "Oh I just have to keep going" rather than asking him if HE wants to keep going. He's more likely to want to keep me happy since I'm enjoying myself so much ;-) Yes it's all a big game but the better you play it the more money you'll make. Just be a great actress.

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    As one customer (one who actually does go to the club planning to spend several hundred on lap dances) I agree with those who say the personal touch stuff is what really counts: eye contact, gentle hands on the neck and back of the head, soft breath on the neck and cheek, etc. You can do all that within your rules, I think.
    One suggestion that I take issue with is the "steam it up at the end of the song" idea. Lots of dancers do that, and some really crudely -- they cruise lazily through 90% of the song, try to get me excited at the end, and assume I won't remember the lazy 90%.
    Maybe it works with drunks or something, but I find myself thinking, "wow, this dancer thinks I'm stupid" and that, at a minimum, ruins the atmosphere. I don't mind spending money, but I want to get an honest effort in return.
    Much better for me is a slow ramp up over several songs -- when it just gets better and better it is pretty easy for me to decide not to stop.
    Just my two cents.

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    give them sexy bedroom eyes. Make them feel like they are THE ONLY guy in the room, the sexiest guy in the room , and thereis nowhere else youd rather be. I see to many girls give dances with this bored or disgusted look on their face, like they would rather puke than keep dancing. The worst dance I ever saw was this very sloppy looking girl bouncing up and down soo hard on this guys lap it looked painful. Dance slow and sexy, weather it be a grind or an air dance. I usually just ask the guy...what do you think is the sexiest part of a womens body? I use that info to my advantage. Legs? great, I wrap them around him. ass? I shake it on him and make sure he gets a good view of it. one guy told me he loves hair, so I ran my hair up and down his chest, and shook it between his legs. He actually got goose bumps.

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    I always go slow and smile warmly at them and act as if you get turned on by your own touch. Remember usually where your eyes and hands go their eyes will go too. Run your nails on the outside of their thighs and look at them as if you want them sooo badly. Keep movments slow and graceful..If you can do stage shows and air dances you will master lap dances easily... Go GIRL!!

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    Well this is my first Lap dance experience: (I enjoyed it very much)

    Well, she took me into the back room, we talked for a bit about her new puppy... and then she told me to spread them... hehe, quite a change of subject I must say.
    And she proceeded to grind on me, and rub her boobies in my face! Wee! She then turned around and sat on my lap and made my hands grab her breasts, and she looked in my eyes as if she wanted to kiss me (which she didn't it was just a good effect!)

    She sat on my lap as I gently rubbed her sides and back, and when she laid back on me I would rub her stomach softly.

    She then rubbed her hand on my crotch, (and yes I was a little up... ok!?) and she smiled and rubbed it, I couldnt help but smile and kind of giggle... and she said I was so cute and kissed my neck, and then she went to my crotch and put her lips on it, and proceeded to blow the area and warm it up for a good 5-10 seconds.

    It was pretty awsome for my first one. I'm guessing she did a little extra(?) since it was my first time and it would be good to give me a good impression so I come back to her.

    I tipped 8 dollars over the 20 dollar Topless dance fee. She said the people get 8 out of the 20 dollars, so I thought it'd be nice to eliminate that.

    Is that a usual lap dance or is it special? =P

    I hope it helps to show what I liked! haha.

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    ^^that sounds similar to a dance I would give in a nude club, but in a topless I probably wouldn't do as much. I'm sure she'll give you a good dance again if you go back to her because you tipped well.

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    ^ Oh I didn't realise I tipped good.

    Hehe, thats good to know.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sperkzy
    and then she went to my crotch and put her lips on it, and proceeded to blow the area and warm it up for a good 5-10 seconds.


    I tipped 8 dollars over the 20 dollar Topless dance fee. She said the people get 8 out of the 20 dollars, so I thought it'd be nice to eliminate that.


    I hope it helps to show what I liked! haha.
    So THAT's why guys blow on us!! lol

    Yes, that was a great tip - and rather thoughtful too. I'm glad you had such a great first experience!

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    Well, the thing is. Blowing can be good for a girl sometimes.

    But you have to get the selected area perpared first. If its a womans nipples, if you gently rub them, lick them, and get them to a very sensitive point, blowing gently on them gives a great tingely sensation.

    Same with a girls pussy.

    But, I guess it is preference to the certain girl.

    And just Blowing on it... without any prep, is rather stupid. . .

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    It's not a HUGE tip, but it covers her dance fee and that's really decent. I know I appreciate any and all tips, just as most dancers do. I'm sure the dancer you tipped will remember that.

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    Another blast from the past worth reading. There's several good tips in that thread.

    Quote Originally Posted by pheno View Post
    When you lead a nontraditional life don't try to measure it with traditional milestones.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlexxaHex
    It's not a HUGE tip, but it covers her dance fee and that's really decent. I know I appreciate any and all tips, just as most dancers do. I'm sure the dancer you tipped will remember that.
    I'm going back soon, I hope she remebers me!

    Cause I cannot forget her.

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    OMG what she did was ruin you for every dancer that is not going to do all that for you!!!!And I don't really think 8 dollars is all that great for the things she did:/
    AS far a your questions,No not all dances invole all of that cock stroking,biting,blowing,ect.So yes I would say that is very"special"Others might say thats prostition.I dance and I don't shake hands with their penis thats just not my job.But I can see how you enjoyed your dance.And to you girls I just wanna say thanks, thanks alot for making my job harder!!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by poisonivy72680
    OMG what she did was ruin you for every dancer that is not going to do all that for you!!!!And I don't really think 8 dollars is all that great for the things she did:/
    AS far a your questions,No not all dances invole all of that cock stroking,biting,blowing,ect.So yes I would say that is very"special"Others might say thats prostition.I dance and I don't shake hands with their penis thats just not my job.But I can see how you enjoyed your dance.And to you girls I just wanna say thanks, thanks alot for making my job harder!!!!
    Hehehe. Yay, I feel special.

    What should I have tipped?

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    Ya I'd be in so much trouble if I did that here in Oregon! Six inch rule baby. IF I did that here I'd want a fifty dollar tip.

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    To each her own...that kind of dance is mild contact for the club I work in.

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