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    I am curious.

    I know that some of us have had BF's, SO's, even husbands who we met in a club.

    I am curious to know the related story.

    Now, I'm not talking about sugar daddies, or guys you thought might have sugar daddy potential, or regulars you dated because they were generous and respectful and you liked them and you didn't want to lose their business. I'm not talking about guys you dated once or twice just for the helluvit, or cute custies you took home for a one-night stand, or anyone you might have thought of as a trick (not that any of us pinkies would ever do anything like that, but I'm just covering all the bases here).

    I'm talking about a guy you met in the club who became your boyfriend (or husband--I know it's happened a few times.) I don't think there's any taboo against talking about this here the way there is about some of the other stuff I mentioned. (Is there?)

    Was he a regular?
    A casual customer?
    A fellow employee?
    A friend of a fellow employee?

    How did you get to know him?
    How much money did he spend on you in the club?
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    i met a guy my second week of dancing, i was fresh and naive!!

    him and his mate were there, tipping normally, not getting dances,and generally there just for the fun of it. i broke up with my partner of 3 years to be with this guy,we hung out for a week, after 2 weeks he moved in with me. him and his mates were awesome, but it just wasnt ment to be. he came back to the club after we broke up,and took me for a dance. lol that was weird.

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    My fiancee' came in the club when he was out of town on business. He saw me one night and thought I was cute so he said. I didn't get chance to talk to him so he came back another night, bought dances from me when the 2/$60 special ran. This was Memphis and guys always buy during the 2/1. I think he spent $240. We hit it off. He came in another time and spend money on me, and from that point on would come in and I would sit with him when it was slow but no more money changed hands. he was no longer a customer.

    Eventually I gave him my real name, and went to his extended stay suite to visit before work.

    I was in a HORRIBLE relationship with a guy who cheated on me and who was mean, even though we lived in an upscale neighborhood and he owned a business. I was basically going to work every night just to be out of the house, so about 4 months after I met my new guy, we left town, and never looked back. I didn't even have any money and just had the clothes on my back and my ex took my ID so I wouldn't leave, so my fiancee' took me to get a new Birth Certificate, a new ID, gave me money to open a bank account, get some new costumes, took me to Dillards and bought me $1000 worth of new clothes, and off we went to a new city and beyond.

    That was in 1999. I have never been back and of course we are still together.

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    Hmm.
    I've only had one "r"elationship come out the club - it was good; we were friends for a while even after we had finished dating, or sleeping together or talking about missing each other - whatever we were doing. I was travelling - which makes a difference - I'm unlikely to date someone I meet in a club someplace where I am living. He absolutely facinated me and I couldn't keep my hands, or feet or any other appendage off of him. It was a club with a drink commission, and he always bought drinks, but never dances (also makes a difference. I've said before that I don't find it sexy to be rejected, but I also can't imagine actually dating someone after they've paid me to sexually gratify them in some way). He did cease being a customer fairly quickly. He would occasionally show up at the club (presumably) to visit with me, but I found him distracting and didn't really like to have him watch me getting rejected by other guys (see my hangups!)
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    I met my husband there.He was my boss and owner's son.He would tip me ,but not much.
    Did you meet someone?

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    I met my fiance in a club. He was from out of town and just started coming to the club and hanging out. Turns out his company had him up in my somewhat rural area alone in a hotel room and he just wanted to socialize somehow. He seemed so sweet and lost I thought he was much younger than he turned out to be. That was due to a religious background which also made him seem to 'not fit in' in the club atmosphere.

    I don't know how we hit it off except I know that I fall for smart guys *like that* and he was a fucking rocket scientist (really!). We've been together two years now.

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    Thank you so much for sharing your stories.

    I just told my story in another thread, but I'll do it again:

    The one time I met a BF in a club--

    I was about 19. He was mid-twenties, hot and mean. This was a long time ago, before lapdances had come to New England. He probably tipped me a couple bucks on stage; I went and sat with him & his friend after my set. I was talking to his friend and he was sitting behind me. He grabbed my hair, close to the scalp, and twisted it. I turned around and smiled at him. He said, "Your friend C says my eyes look like I just got out of jail. What do you think?" I said, "Yeah, your eyes do look like you just got out of jail."

    I fucked him that night, and I was with him for the next three years. He was a sociopath, but I was kind of looking for something fucked up at the time. I got it out of my system after a while and managed to extricate myself and get my life back on track.
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    I met my husband in the club. He was with a friend of his who was a regular of the bartender. We hit it off as I took a short break to have a coffee and cigarette (I have since quit that nasty habit though) He is the only man I ever broke my no seeing customers out of the club rule over. It was me who actually asked him out. I wanted to see if we had chemistry in a different environment so I asked him for a daytime date. At the end of that date I requested he not come into the club anymore because I didn't want the boyfriend line to be blurred by customer behavior. We started dating exclusively and married a few years later. He is my rock and I feel blessed to be married to such a fantastic man.

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    Oh, as for non-customers:

    a DJ or two (when I was very young and didn't know any better! No offense to Djoser and the other cool DJ's here--but I discovered pretty quickly that it's usually more drama than it's worth!)

    An owner. Okay, he wasn't exactly a BF--it was kind of a long, protracted, on-again, off-again affair (though he wasn't married--I don't play that). It was actually one of my favorite relationships ever, despite the fact that we couldn't have been more different and it was doomed to failure from day one. But lots of fun! And I genuinely just...liked the guy. Could never quite explain it. I maybe even loved his little Eye-talian self (not that I ever admitted that to him or to myself at the time!)
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    I was a lot more open to meeting someone for a relationship when I was younger. One guy I met I was with for a year and a half. We were f buddies for a long time after that. I credit him for turning me onto to BDSM. I've never really been the same after that.
    After that relationship ended, I met a guy who I credit for turning me onto ice. That lasted for a couple of months. It was a nightmare- your classic abusive relationship. Since then I have been really leery of men I meet in the club. I've really never been the same after that one. Especially since he stalked me and to this day I still keep an eye out for him.

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    I met my bf in the club about 6 months ago. He got dances from me--maybe around $300. There was something about him that I really liked. He never asked me out, I gave him my e-mail. He lives in another state so he only came in that one time. So far my insticts about him have been right on--he's a great bf.

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    It would never, ever happen with me. Once I was really tempted, but I have a strict rule about never taking things OTC. I don't give out email or phone numbers or anything. This one guy was really great and we totally hit it off, and I was sorely tempted to go out for breakfast with him... but it would've crossed a major personal boundary and I couldn't do it. I wished I'd met him anywhere else but what happens at the club STAYS in the club for me.

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    I met my fiancee at my club, about two years ago. He came in one night, got a few dances, and from there he came in almost every time I worked. He never spent more than 45 bucks, but he didn't pressure me. He was so nice, sweet, intelligent, and honest. He had given me his phone number a while ago, and one night I realized I liked him. A LOT. I probably had just thrown it in my locker and lost it, so I asked him for his phone number!! I was still with my loser boyfriend at the time too. Before I called him, I gave him his last dance. I told him if we saw each other outside of here he could no longer pay for dances with me. At the end of the last dance, I sat on his lap and put his arms around me. It was the first time he'd ever really touched me. That night eventually led to a BJ, and two years later were now engaged.
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    ^Thanks for sharing, Carmen.

    Your story seems to disprove my assertion (made in another thread) that it is utterly impossible for a guy to make the transition from "regular" to serious boyfriend.

    I will now officially apologize to TOO.

    Sorry, Baby.

    (Not that I think he should be trying to make this transition himself. Let's just make that clear, okay? )

    I am noticing some patterns, however, in the custy-to-boyfriend equation:

    1) They don't generally spend a ton of money. (Do you think this is important? Why? If they were really big spenders, do you think you'd be more likely or less likely to consider them as potential boyfriends? Would you be more likely to think of them as PLs, or as sugar daddy material rather than boyfriend material? Or do you think it would only add to the attraction if you knew that he could take care of you? I know it depends on the individual, but I'm just wondering about your general feelings on this topic.)

    2) They are usually encountered in the club just once or twice before you decide if you're interested or not.

    3) Lapdancing is an Issue: Either you don't think you could seriously date someone you'd lapped, or, if you've already danced for the guy you're interested in, the ITC lapdances have to stop once the OTC relationship begins.

    Interesting.
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    This is what "cured" my strip club habit, instantly, and I was a guy who would spend $50-75 a visit while being very respectful. I'm also a gambler who would occasionally drop a few hundred in excess winnings from time to time. Now if I ever go at all, I rarely tip (maybe $3-5 total while I have two drinks and enjoy the view). I'd say that this has saved me several thousands of dollars in the years since I stopped going as a "PL." I don't even consider that tipping but just paying a bare minimum to avoid being kicked out.

    I can get rejected for free plenty fine, and if you fuck even ONE customer, you are rejecting me for that customer. That breaks the spell of the fantasy, and it can't be unbroken.

    Since I doubt any of these dancers will fuck me just to even the score, I decided to just cut my losses and have a new motto: NOT ANOTHER DIME. Well, almost not. This is a stalemate, but at least now I get to keep all my money. I noticed I was "banned" before and this post might be deleted, but a very LONG article I've been researching through this forum is about to go up on my site, and will be read by tens of thousands of men to whom I will give similar advice: NOT ANOTHER DIME.

    Fact is, we can live longer without sex than you can without money, and unless you want to see more and more men become like me, you're going to have to stop the OTC bullshit or open up the "game" to all customers. I also didn't like feeling that if I did "catch a fish" (i.e., get a stripper) that I had to throw her back or risk running afoul of the management.

    If I'm still allowed to post when I'm done with the article, I'll gladly provide a link to it. You girls have no clue how much you are destroying your industry with this double standard, combined with the internet where guys can put the pieces of what used to be a mysterious puzzle together.

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    ^^^
    Honey, the OTC "bullshit" is just... life. Some girls like you, some girls don't. I rarely date my customers, particularly when I'm home because a) (the first and best reason) I rarely want to. There are relatively few guys I'm interested in dating. I will say that there are some guys that I'm glad I met, that I would not have met had their money not been in the picture. Still didn't want to date/fuck them though. b) I generally like having customers more than I like having a boyfriend. I don't even like dating, in general. You have to be pretty interesting and charming to make me want to do anything besides cultivate online relationships in which I never have to actually see anyone. This isn't "bullshit" or a game of any kind. It 's just a matter of girls finding other guys more attractive than you. There is no avoiding it; it happens to everyone. Literally. Everyone. Even Brad Pitt got dumped for another guy. (Me, I couldn't even begin to count the guys on Tuesday who wanted girls other than me.) There is no point in being sensitve about it, and no girl will talk to you about unless you ask - if you don't want to know, don't ask. It is not a rejection scenario; that's like saying every girl who is dating someone other than you is rejecting you. It's absurd.

    In terms of destroying our industry. I don't know. Most of my customers have a pretty firm grip on what I provide and what I don't, and they don't need the internet to want to date me or get pissy when I won't. And I encourage customers to know what ticks us off, and that we want their money not their company. I personally want EVERY customer to make the connection between what they spend and how much we entertain them.
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    Translation: "Somebody is fucking strippers and it's not me!"

    And excuse me "catch a fish"???

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    one of the other girls' husband (boomer) came in and brought his friend with him, boomer told his friend that i gave the best dances i the club, so i gave him one.

    a few weeks later i went to a barbeque at their house, and he was there, we ended up hitting it off, and started hanging out. after a few weeks, we started dating.

    about not getting dances from me anymore- i love it when he comes in (usully on slow nights, when there's no one there anways, and he comes in like an hour or so before close) and he'll get 2-3 dances from me! it's just a big tease bc i make him stick to the rules of the club, i.e. no touching, no grabbing, etc. its fun to watch his reaction, and make him wait another 2 hours for me to get home before he can actually do something about it!
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    I met my current bf of almost 3 years at the first club I ever worked at. He was the GM at the time. When I first saw him, I thought he was HOTT!!! Alas, I have a strict "no dipping my pen in company ink policy".

    Well, he ended up putting in his two weeks and on his last shift I gave him my #. We met up for breakfast that morning after he left the club at 4am. We were at that Village Inn for 3+ hours!

    I never thought I'd find such an amazing person in a SC! He's funny, intelligent, sweet, thoughtful, supportive, & patient. He treats his mom and sister well. My friends and family love him, and we have so much fun together!

    Ironically, I had dated the stereotypical abusive, deadbeat, loser stripper boyfriends before I started dancing...
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    VG, thanks for cleaning up the messy thread drift. Talk about hijacking a thread for purely selfish reasons.

    I was intrigued to find CFH was my exact polar opposite, though. Amazing. But these angry, clueless guys usually have some horrible history of rejection they are trying to cover up by lashing out at all the dancers at once.

    "Not another dime." How cute. Since the guy is used to earning dimes, perhaps he would be more welcome at the corner video store where they actually accept that denomination.

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    ... Um what do you mean you're no longer a "PL". You're the biggest "PL" I've ever peed my panties over!

    ... Anyway I've dated two guys from the club. One was hot and I loved him to death but never f'ed him b/c I found out he was married and lied about it. The other I met because he was friends with another dancer and used to drive her to work because she had no car. I was with him for a year and a half and it was a nightmare!!!!!I'll never ever ever ever do it again!
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    Yep, I met my hubby in the club I was in a relationship at the time (an on again-off again four year disaster), and he came in there looking so cute and terrified, throwing all his money at me. For some reason, I gave him my number (which I NEVER do!). We talked occasionally, and a couple of months went by and I found myself single again, so I decided to call him up. We went out and the rest is history!
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    i dated a guy i met in the club seriously it was a disater. that was becuse of the guy o choose was a total loser not becuse of how i met him. as for the comment from custermer from hell let me tell you something we as dancers are HUMAN we like men and sometimes we are attracted to men that we come across sorry for your luck you have never been on the reciving end of that you should not go into the club looking for that to happen when it dose it is rare its like winning the lottery it could happen but it most likely won't. So keep your broke ass out the club asshole.

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    I'm sure he's as lovely in person as he is in his posts - wonder why he never got a girl... hmm

    If you're working a lot and dont have the cash/inclanation to go out then yes, u might meet someone through work. As someone else said we are only human!

    I agree with all Nicolinas points except No1. as she did ask specifically for relationships that weren't about money.



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    There have been two dancers I've become involved with.

    The first was a dancer who would smile at me on her way into the dressing room when she would show up at the club. I would hang out at the club after drinking a lot at a nearby bar before driving home. After a few times seeing her I finally decided to ask her for a dance. Being shitfaced and not thinking clearly I remember being nervous deciding to get up and go over and ask her. Too drunk to think clearly and know that my chances of rejection were close to zero...

    I still remember heading with her over to the lap dance area and she sat down facing me and I touched her arm with my hand and the feeling was electric. I had never had such a reaction from just lightly touching someone. We did a few dances and she was like the world's sexist blanket on me. After we were done we sat down and set a date in a few days to see each other.

    She hated dancing and was always asking me to come in and hang with her while she worked. Which meant that she would get almost no dances since she would just sit and talk with me all night. We both liked to drink a lot and were probably a nuisance to the other dancers. She was almost always on the verge of getting fired and management made her agree to a minimum number of dances a night to keep her job there at the club. So we ended up doing dances towards the end of the night to make sure she kept her job whenever she came up short. Getting dances from her was awesome. I remember her saying from time to time while she was giving me a dance "You get the good stuff motherfucker"

    The second was a dancer I met about a month ago when visiting a friend at her club. I wasn't really in much of a lapdance mood that night but there was one girl who asked me and I agreed. We did one and came back the table and started talking. Did another. Talked some more and holding hands. One of those wonderful and rare times where everything I said and everything she said was perfect. And finally we did a few more dances towards the end of the night. After we were done she just kind of laid on top of me and held my hand for about twenty minutes. We got up and basically said we liked each other and exchanged phone numbers. And have been seeing each other since.

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