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    Okay, so I'm guilty of telling customers my real name. It just doesn't bother me. But I always make it clear that "Ashley" is the name that I go by at work, and that is what they need to call me.

    Last week, one of the waitresses at work directed me to a table because someone asked for me. Or so I thought. When I approached the gentleman, he said, "Oh, I'm sorry, I wanted the 'other Ashley.'" I explained that I'm the only "Ashley" at the club and he must be mistaken. He described a girl that introduced herself as "Ashley," and everything about her was opposite me...dark hair, skinny, etc...we both shrugged and then he bought several dances from me. No biggie.

    Last night, I was called to go see one of my floor hosts, because again someone had requested "Ashley." By the time I made it downstairs (about 1 1/2 minutes, tops) he had gone with another girl. She was skinny and had dark hair. I didn't put it all together until after he was done getting dances from her and I approached him and said, "You were looking for Ashley." He said, "Oh, I already found her, thanks." WTF??

    Let go of your real name; be your stage name at work! It is confusing for the customers, girls and support staff if you insist on having people call you by your real name, especially if someone already dances by it! Lucky for me, I actually made some money off of her mistake!

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    Dude, how many people did she TELL?!

    One time, the DJ accidentally called one of the girls to the stage by her REAL name! He corrected it before she got on... But, dude.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21
    Dude, how many people did she TELL?!

    One time, the DJ accidentally called one of the girls to the stage by her REAL name! He corrected it before she got on... But, dude.
    Well, this happened twice in the span of 7 days or so, so I wouldn't doubt if she's told damn near every person she met...It obviously wasn't just a onetime oversight...

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    I will tell custy my real name at work, because I'm not really worried and it a very common name. But at work, I am Carmen and Carmen only! I should have thought of a real fake name when I started.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Glamazon
    Well, this happened twice in the span of 7 days or so, so I wouldn't doubt if she's told damn near every person she met...It obviously wasn't just a onetime oversight...
    Could it be that she used to dance by that name elsewhere, and those guys know her from another club?, Or maybe its her fake "real" name?
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    ^^That's what I was thinking. Could be regs from a previous club. But she really should tell people to ask for her by her stage name. I think I'd approach her and tell her that her customers keep getting confused over it; maybe she'll stop it.

    Or, maybe you'll get more customers that way

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    Quote Originally Posted by JustJayda
    Could it be that she used to dance by that name elsewhere, and those guys know her from another club?, Or maybe its her fake "real" name?
    I thought of that, but the guy last week only knew her from the week before...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    ^^That's what I was thinking. Could be regs from a previous club. But she really should tell people to ask for her by her stage name. I think I'd approach her and tell her that her customers keep getting confused over it; maybe she'll stop it.

    Or, maybe you'll get more customers that way
    The situation has been handled; the floor host last night was as confused and frustrated as I was over it, so he spoke with housemom and indeed it was her real name...housemom let her know that it was not okay, since we already have an "Ashley."

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    Hmmm. I use a backup stage name, but no one at my club dances by it, so i suppose this is ok for now?

    Most of the time I don't have to use my backup stage name... but here I thought I was so clever for employing this strategy. I guess it can backfire.

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    So what do you do in that situation? So everyone knows her real name. Isn't it going to confuse the customers a LOT now that they'll have to learn a new name??

    Oy

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    the club where i work knows me as 'piper', my first stage name when i worked there, now after i've been gone for so long i had changed my name to 'annika' and i'm using 'piper' as my fake real name. all the employees still get asked where 'piper' is when my old customers find out i came back and dancers that forget my new stage name somtimes call me 'piper' around the customers so it works for me right now. if i ever heard of a piper coming to the club i would adjust my name stradegy to ommit the confusion. i just don't get girls who try to go by their real names in the club when they are told to use a stage name. i can understand giving any name at all to shut up the annoying guys or the ones that -must- know and are spending loads of cash, but just throwing out there..it bothers me.

    i'm glad it was fixed, but girls should really be advised against using two names like that. i know there are special cases, like my situation, but i don't tell every one my other name unless the won't let go of the subject, or someone slips up and calls me by it.

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    Well...I dunno. I mean, it is her real name. I think I'd be annoyed if someone told me that I couldn't tell customers my real name just because someone else was using it as a stage name. I understand that it has caused some confusion, but at the same time, it's her business whether she wants to reveal her real name to people who ask, isn't it? She just needs to say, "But there's another Ashley here so if you ask for me, make sure you use my stage name."

    Maybe she's accustomed to working under her real name and only changed it because they told her that there was already another Ashley. I almost always used my real name; for some reason that was just more comfortable for me. It was unusual enough that I don't think I was ever told, "Oh, you can't use that because we already have one." Maybe once...and it bugged me. I was like, 'But it's my name.'
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nicolina
    Well...I dunno. I mean, it is her real name. I think I'd be annoyed if someone told me that I couldn't tell customers my real name just because someone else was using it as a stage name. I understand that it has caused some confusion, but at the same time, it's her business whether she wants to reveal her real name to people who ask, isn't it? She just needs to say, "But there's another Ashley here so if you ask for me, make sure you use my stage name."

    Maybe she's accustomed to working under her real name and only changed it because they told her that there was already another Ashley. I almost always used my real name; for some reason that was just more comfortable for me. It was unusual enough that I don't think I was ever told, "Oh, you can't use that because we already have one." Maybe once...and it bugged me. I was like, 'But it's my name.'
    The problem isn't that she's telling customers her real name. As stated, I do it all the time. The problem is that they are requesting her by that name. She was simply told to make it clear that her stage name is how she is identified at work.

    It is simply part of the business that we have to deal with. My real name is also taken at the club I work at and has been since long before I started there.. I don't get upset when I hear "Jamie" being called to stage or requested by a customer. That's just the way it goes...

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    Quote Originally Posted by CorsicaFire
    So what do you do in that situation? So everyone knows her real name. Isn't it going to confuse the customers a LOT now that they'll have to learn a new name??

    Oy
    The thing is, she has a stage name!! She should be using it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by CorsicaFire
    So what do you do in that situation? So everyone knows her real name. Isn't it going to confuse the customers a LOT now that they'll have to learn a new name??

    Oy
    Who cares if it confuses her customers - she should know better than to use her real name at work anyway, ESPECIALLY when there's someone at the club using that name. The customers will only be inconvenienced a tiny bit, and they'll move on. She may lose a little money because of it, and frankly, that's HER problem.

    If it were me, I'd handle it by telling her that HER customers are getting ME when they ask for that name and unless she wants to LOSE those customers, she should tell them her STAGE name. What a moron

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    she should know better than to use her real name at work anyway
    Why? I did it for years and never had a problem. I mean, I understand that you generally can't use the same name as a dancer who was there before you. But I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with using your real name as your stage name, or with telling customers your real name when they ask. Nobody believes you anyway.

    (And I did work at a club where there was an "Ashley" and an "Ashley B." It seemed to work out fine for both of them.)
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    I almost forgot. At my first job dancing, a girl w/ my real name used it as her stage name. Eventually my fellow co-workers and some of my customers found out my real name.

    After that, the other dancer was known as "Big tall ___"
    I was known as "The other ___" or "New ___"

    It wasn't that big of a deal. It sounds like we worked in a smaller club though. I do not give out my real name anymore.

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    This is why I insist on people using real or real-ish names for their stage name. This way they can easily get out of the question with "what I just told you IS my real name". If they further insist on it isn't, tell them to put $100 down on the table now and then you'll go get your driver's license to prove it to them. I have been doing that for years, and have yet (unfortunately as my stage name - Vanessa - is my real name) to have anyone put the money down It would be damn easy money ... they always tend to shut up after that.

    Also, this is a strong case for getting everyone in the club to call you by your stage name and never ever to reveal your real name to anyone (except when you had to show ID naturally).

    BTW, I havn't really read this thread so I apologise if my response isn't in tune with the thread.


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    Nic - taking that small phrase out of context to beat a dead horse here. No one cares if a girl wants to use her real name at work. We DO care if someone uses it inappropriately such as in the case OP described.

    And frankly, if you have a stage name and tell customers your real name instead, I think that's pretty stoopid. Pick ONE name for the club and use that for everyone. This way if customers come in asking for you, there is no confusion. Duh.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    Nic - taking that small phrase out of context to beat a dead horse here.
    I know. I have no idea why I even bothered to respond. Just bored, I guess.
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    Yeah, god knows I've never gotten all worked up and beaten that poor horse way past death

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