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    Hello everyone,
    I have a question about what to do when your giving a no contact dance, and the custy wants more. I dont do contact, but i want to keep him in the back with me as long as possible but dont want to be grabbed at. If anyone knows some good tricks to avoid being grabbed, and still make loads of cash...SPILL THE BEANS PLEASE!!!
    A second part to my question is this, what do i say to them when they ask if i do extras afterhours? I usually just say if your good to me here, then i will be good to you later, then at the end of the night bolt for the change room and leave ALONE.... HA HA HA this doesnt always work. any ideas? thanks. xoxoxo Roxi
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    Just say no?

    I tell them RIGHT OFF THE BAT, "Baby, if you want a prostitute, buy a prostitute. I'm not your whore."

    Stringing these men along is more trouble than it's worth.

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    tell them if they want more they have to go up to champagne room. get your money up front. then when they get too grabby, kick their asses out! at least you get compensated for them being a huge pain inthe ass!

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    ^^^ And THAT'S when the guy pulls out a badge and arrests you for prostitution in a non-legal atmosphere.

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    there is no one answer to this this is the unsovelable mystry of being a dancer. sorry it dose go with the job. You don't have to take it but not every guy is going to love you for it and give you more money. Set your limits that make you feel comfortable and you will bank on the guys that like that. Don't adapt you standards for the custys no dollar is worth that. Hell that very thing is why i am not working right now the club in my area was full contact and what ever other nasty thing they did in there. Try to let the bouncers now your limits and tip them when they help you out.

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    I would be nervous even bending the rules at all for fear of a prostitution charge. =(

    Do undercover cops usually care about touching a guy's shoulders, neck, etc. or letting the guy touch your arms or (outer) legs?

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    ^ Depends on the legalities in your particular club and whether or not the boss paid off the cops that month.

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    Personally, I don't think it is cool to lie to people and indirectly steal from them. Just make the sale, and accept that certain customers aren't going to go for it. Stay focussed on the one's who do. I'm slowly climbing back out of my hole, so, this is well considered.
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    Maybe set an unreasonably high price on such behavior. For instance $100 per song in VIP above the regular VIP charge. The customer will balk at the price, but if you say something to the effect that you "don't do those things with just anyone with a $20 bill" then he will look at his time with you as more valuable, as you are *expensive*.

    Make him feel honored and priveledged to be getting the kind of entertainment at the price he is paying. Let him know that only an exclusive clientele has the privedlege of a more "hands on" expierence.

    But, some guys are just abusers who don't respect women, and those types need to be kicked to the curb. You'll know those types by their response to the "High price" you have set. They tend to look at strippers as public domain, and do get pissed at having to pay anything for dances, and expect to pay very little for FS!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny
    Personally, I don't think it is cool to lie to people and indirectly steal from them. Just make the sale, and accept that certain customers aren't going to go for it. Stay focussed on the one's who do. I'm slowly climbing back out of my hole, so, this is well considered.
    Good advice. Customers who want more than a dancer is willing to provide will never be happy unless she gives in and breaks the rules or crosses her personal contact limit line.

    When coming across a customer like this it is best to move on as soon as possible so you don't waste your time and energy on a customer who is not worth that time or energy. It is a better use of your skills to focus on customers who will appreciate what you have to offer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    Maybe set an unreasonably high price on such behavior. For instance $100 per song in VIP above the regular VIP charge. The customer will balk at the price, but if you say something to the effect that you "don't do those things with just anyone with a $20 bill"
    But doesn't that also set you up for a prostitutuion charge is they're a cop?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fan_Dancer
    Good advice. Customers who want more than a dancer is willing to provide will never be happy unless she gives in and breaks the rules or crosses her personal contact limit line.

    When coming across a customer like this it is best to move on as soon as possible so you don't waste your time and energy on a customer who is not worth that time or energy. It is a better use of your skills to focus on customers who will appreciate what you have to offer.
    that's pretty much what i was going to say. if the customer doesn't "get it" within the first few minutes, he will just continue to try. also, if he's dead set on getting extras, he's not likely to spend more money on you no matter what "non extra" things you do. he's going to go try and find someone else who -will-. i just tell them "good luck" and walk away with the money.

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    yes, be VERY carefull when hinting to extras for cash. even if you don't plan on doing it, it's still enough for a prostitution charge. all that has to happen is you verbally agreeing to exchange sexual favors for money. the list of what can be considered a sexual favor is long and the lines aren't well defined. most of the girls i know who got busted were busted for things like that, or for solicitation of alcohol, or for playing with another girls breasts. many girls who get arrested are clueless as to why before it happens. in fact, i think "good girls" (who are uninformed) are more likely to get in trouble sometimes because they aren't gaurded, since they don't think they're doing anything wrong.

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    I don't promise custys anything I can't or won't give. Its not worth the risks or the headache.
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    i dont promise anything. im quite vague.

    either way it works for me. and its not something i genrally have to do often half the time once they get to champagnbne room, they start behaving themselves because they dont want kicked out.

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    I usually say something like "I can't, I have to get up really early tomorrow morning & I need my sleep". Or "I've been dancing all night and I'm exhausted, the only thing that I want to do tonight when I'm off from work is go home & fall asleep".

    That so far has shut them up. I guess if they persisted, I wouldn't waste my time because if they are dead set on meeting afterwards or want extras in the club and you keep telling them no then they're a waste of time and usually those are the type that don't spend much anyway. Those are usually the type that think because they payed cover charge or tipped you a dollar on stage shouldn't have to pay for a dance or if paying $10 for a dance should be allowed to touch anywhere they please. They just aren't worth your time. There's someone else in the club with more money & less hastle.

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    Kick them in the nuts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CorsicaFire
    But doesn't that also set you up for a prostitutuion charge if they're a cop?
    Yes, probably. However, the cops who work those kind of busts have a tendency to look for the slightest infraction. If the laws are no contact, then the hand shake the two of you shared could lead to a prostitution bust. Places like Washington state have vauge definitions of what is lewd or obscene conduct, leaving it up to the LE officer to determine if the dancer broke the law or not.

    So, pretty much in most places, if a dancer is doing a lap dance, she is breaking the law anyway. As soon as a dancer steps off the stage, she is in a legal gray area of prostitution vs. "just a dance".


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    Ack the laws are completely stupid. IMO "prostitution" should regard hand/mouth/genital-to-genital contact. Other body parts should be ok as long as the genitals are covered completely.

    This country is so immature. >=(

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    its unfortunate to see that im not the only one with this problem... i like pin up girls suggestion... "kick em in the balls!" brilliant!

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    Illegalizing prostitution is ridiculous in the first place. As long as the woman is consenting, what the hell is the problem? I know many prostitutes who do quite well for themselves. And here's a thought: if an actress gets paid to act in a pornographic film, she is getting paid TO HAVE SEX in front of a camera, right? That's prostitution! If it's legal in front of a camera, why is it illegal otherwise??

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    I dunno, I just say "We don't do that around here, we're dancers, not prostitutes"

    Seems to shut them up so far.

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    I was thinking of trying a dirty talk hustle, until I realized that I can't say those kinds of things in front of guys that creep me out. If you can handle it, just try talking up the things you are legally allowed to do, but in more graphic terms.

    When a guy says to me, "so what are you doing after work?" I say, going home and straight to bed cause I'm exhausted. Last night a guy was trying to talk me into coming to New York for a weekend so he could "massage me all weekend" and I said, "what makes you think I'd even want to be massaged for that long? Sounds boring." That shut him up, haha. He also said that old guys only care about pleasing a woman and it could be non sexual. I looked at him all confused and I was like, "Oh. Old guys don't like getting laid?" This guy was killing me.

    Just try to come up with an inventive way to shoot them out of the water. If they want you to come to their hotel, say you don't deal with travelers cause they might have the bird flu. Whatever works.

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    If they ask you what they "get" for the dance, be vague and say something (hintful and seductively)like, "I gaurantee you will like the dance I give, I've been doing this for (insert time) and I know what I'm doing." I would AVOID saying anything that could get you caught up in a prostitution charge. This can sometimes get you a dance from the too cheap to get an escort seekers. Get the $ up front and don't waste time on the extra losers. Follow the club rules, don't break them for some cheap asshole thats trying to get as much bang 4 his buck....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Anona
    Illegalizing prostitution is ridiculous in the first place. As long as the woman is consenting, what the hell is the problem? I know many prostitutes who do quite well for themselves. And here's a thought: if an actress gets paid to act in a pornographic film, she is getting paid TO HAVE SEX in front of a camera, right? That's prostitution! If it's legal in front of a camera, why is it illegal otherwise??

    YESSSS. So should we videotape lapdances and say that the custy is paying the dancer as an "actress"?

    It all makes no sense.

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    When a guy asks you to go back to his hotel after work, say "you know, after what I've heard on the news I'm afraid to even step foot in a hotel with the big scare of bed bugs". Then he'll be paranoid all night that he's going to be bitten by bed bugs and any little tiny feeling he gets on himself, like if a fly's in the room crawling on him, he's going to jump up out of the bed, switch the lights on and check the bed, all night! hahahahahaha!!!!! He won't get any sleep and will feel like crap for his plane ride home or office meeting the next day!

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