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    Hi all, Lexi here...i am a newbie so bear with me....i just got on this website and did so because i have a situation...i have become really close friends with one of my customers...we started hanging out about 4 months ago and have screwed around some but never slept together. Over the past 4 months or so, we have become very good friends but I think some people think we are more than that. He is not necessarily my type (that i am used to going out with) and maybe at the beginning I thought about dating him, but now it would just seem awkward. I am not sure if he has feelings for me other than being friends but I am pretty sure if i were forward enough, he would sleep with me but he really isnt the aggressive type. He recently took me out to the cape for the weekend and we had a great time. I would like to keep our friendship as it is, but sometimes I think about doing more. Anybody in a similar situation that could help me out with suggestions. Thanks.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Alexis123
    Hi all, Lexi here...i have become really close friends with one of my customers...we started hanging out about 4 months ago and have screwed around some but never slept together. Over the past 4 months or so, we have become very good friends...He is not necessarily my type...and maybe at the beginning I thought about dating him, but now it would just seem awkward. I am not sure if he has feelings for me other than being friends but I am pretty sure if i were forward enough, he would sleep with me...I would like to keep our friendship as it is, but sometimes I think about doing more.
    I sort of do this from the other side of the fence - having become friendly with several dancers over the past few years. We just drifted into it over a period of time and, without really intending it, have become quite close. The nature of the relationship varies depending on the dancer, but there's now a lot of affection between us.

    Answer I'd give is just go with the flow. If you're going to stay friends, you'll end up comfortable with that. If you wind up lovers, it'll be because that seemed right at the time.

    I guess the basic question you've got to answer anyway is why hasn't he tried to move things on further? Is it because he doesn't want to, or is it because he's one of these guys who's not good at reading women and maybe doesn't realise you sometimes think about being more than friends?

    I'd also wonder if some of his reactions were/are down to the fact you were probably very cautious when you first started seeing him OTC. The dancers I catch up with were understandably very wary about letting a guy they met at work into their private lives - maybe his early experiences have conditioned him into thinking that friendly is what you want?

    Remember, if he values your friendship, he might just be worried that if he hits on you, he might damage that friendship.

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    I have a platonic customer friend. I met him years ago. He comes to see my shows, and doesn't hide his lustiness for my nudity, lol.

    But there's never been any sexual tension or suggestion- his wife knows me, I've been over to their place for dinner. They want to set me up with their son, actually, lol.

    It's doable. I don't have this relationship with anyone else, and don't know if I could, but when it works it works.

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    I have that. He bought my ticket to move to Australia to be with my love. He says I'm his inspiration to find love. It's nice.

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    I also have a friend like that. His initail intentions were to get into my pants but I detered his advances. In that time we found out that we really liked each other and have become the best of friends. Whenever he's in town he takes me out to eat, he's met my husband and we've gone out of town before.I've actually become his wingman now, helping him pick up chics!

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    yes, we go on shopping trips, to shows etc. I've known him for 4 years, he is the best!

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    sounds like he coulda also be one of those shyish guys that doesnt make first moves. i would say go with the flow until you know what kind of relationship you want with him then make it clear to him which one you want,,, because you may not want to string him along if you just want to be friends... say obvious things like wow you are such a great friend,, etc..

    my ex roomate,, he was in love with me,, but we were really close friends before i moved into the place with him,, and i had a crappy bf at the time,, and just after i moved in we broke up. then my new roomate started bringing me roses etc.. but i had no attraction to him at all,, and i tried to make him know that i was only interested in him as a friend... but when i started dating someone else there was a lot of hostility and it was very uncomfortable to be around him and he didnt make living in the same place very enjoyable..
    so,, just becareful you dont hurt him too bad ,, he sort of sounds like my old roomate...

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    thanks to everyone for their responses, i guess i just feel bad sometimes that maybe i am leading him on. It is not my intention, i really do care for him...im just worried that he may want more...and at times, i think maybe i just need to stop and see what is standing right there in front of me. I also sometimes get jealous when he has other girls at work dance for him. I really dont know why, but it just happens.
    muah, lexi

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