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    Default What do you do when they are trying to cum during the lap dance?

    Ok so I just started and I was wondering if anyone could help tell me what to do when they are trying to come during a lap dance. Is there a way to avoid this I know that I want to make them fell good and obviously I am b/c they keep saying they are about to cum but I don't want them to Can anyone give me some tips

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    I start giving an super mega air dance. Hopefully, they will get the point and stop trying to air hump me. If they dont get it and keep trying I end the dance. There is just no point in me staying around for them to pop on off.
    Youre already making them feel good with your presence not need to make them feel that good. Guys that try to purposly cum during a lap dance are worse off than the guys that ask us out every night.
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    I stand up and put my foot in their lap to get the point across. That way they can gave at my gorgeous legs and see me dance, but if they get grabby, I can kick them where it couts. THEN they calm down. Kneeling in their lap works well too, because you have a knee ready to strike foul play as well

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    Default Re: What do you do when they are trying to cum during the lap dance?

    You are posting as a newbie with just a few posts, so I'll try to eloborate from the blue perspective.

    If the guy is shaking his hips trying to grind you or anything similar, IMO, he's a creep and you should consider drastic alternatives.

    If the guy is telling you to do something to 'get him to cum' - then he's asking for some serious 'extras'. Consider the risks/rewards of being labelled an 'extra' girl. In the middle to upper class clubs, 'extra' girls get treated as ho's by customer and workers alike.

    If you are just noticing that the guy's pants are a little more damp than usual, honey that's what's called 'pre-cum'. When men get erect, they naturally secret a lubricant to help with things. This is probably the most sensitive and un-talked about subject between customers and dancers because as customers, we all know they feel it, while the dancers don't want to freak the customers out by claiming they've 'cummed in their pants'.

    I have no idea how the dancers deal with this, I just offered this post in an effort to open up the discussion for some meaningful exchange.


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    Default Re: What do you do when they are trying to cum during the lap dance?

    Well I stood up and he just wanted to keep pulling me down on him. But I didn't want to end the dancing b/c he was going to buy 4 more dances were I make 20.00 a piece off them if it was good. I just kinda started to pull back some more and take charge thanx for the advice girls I really needed it!

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    I just look at him and say 'hey baby you do realise if you get off I charge an extra $1000 on top of what you owe me for these dances.' Usually the guy stops. You have to be careful though because if hes a cop you can get busted. Or I will just puts my hands on his lap and look at him and say 'relax baby and let me do the work, your just here to enjoy the ride.' I give him a few chances if he doesnt stop I just sit over him with my crotch above him and kind of air dance. I am a heavy grinder so I get a lot of guys like this. Usually once I stop the grinding they get pissed and stop and I can continue.

    Also if you get to uncomfortable just stop the dances. You will make the money up somewhere else.

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    theres a guy like this that comes into my club. when i went to dance for him the first time, the floorman was like "this guy's really nice, he tips well and he'll be really sweet to you" but i was new and he had tipped the floorman before we walked into vip. he was kind of nonchalant about his motives. the second time i met him, he bought two 100$ dances but during the second one it was obvious what he was trying to do. i cut off contact and tried to hide how extremely grossed out i was. i havent seen him around since. eew.
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    Default Re: What do you do when they are trying to cum during the lap dance?

    To my knowledge, this hasn't happened to me because I work in an air dance club but if a guy was either getting off or trying, I'd stop dancing right there and walk away, it's just not worth it to me. Call me a prude if you will but that's just f&cking nasty. If some PL is that desperate then he needs to go home either rent a porno movie, get some magazines, download porn online or hire a prostitute but don't come into my place of employment & think you can do that with me!

    I'm just wondering, how can you tell that's what he's doing? How do you know he's doing that and not just enjoying the and really getting into it? I know if he's moaning and being obvious but what about the guys that are not obvious, the ones that can nearly get away with it with nobody really knowing?

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    Default Re: What do you do when they are trying to cum during the lap dance?

    well If I can't notice then ok but when there sitting there asking if I have ever got anyone off doing the dance and I KNOW thats what they are trying to do then its f**king discusting and I can't stand it. I'm there to dance for them not get there nasty ass off!!!

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    I agree with Cally- Tell him an extra wad of cash is required if he blows his load.

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    I get far away and dance in front of them for the rest of the song, then get paid and refuse anymore dances, especially with those asses that grab your hips and try to hold you down ( i think i have learned to spot these guys in general convo though, they are the ones that ask to touch when you meet them or ask you to flash them, grab your ass or are grabby at all- I always refuse dances to people who do those things when we meet or when they are asking me for a dance)

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    Default Re: What do you do when they are trying to cum during the lap dance?

    Tricky situation if you are new, but trust us RUN! I had a guy buy a dance my first night at a new club, and when I ask for another dance he said "That's okay, I already came." Then went to "Clean up." No wet spot or anything! Freaked me out so bad, when he asked for another dance later, I told him I was busy.

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    Default Re: What do you do when they are trying to cum during the lap dance?

    I dont know what type of club you work in, but if its a "grind factory", just tell him "let me do the work." i wroked in a spot like that and guys would try to bounce you on their dick! i thought i had to grind like crazy to make $ when i first started---but every club has a "culture."
    dont worry about "making them feel good." you're not a sex toy. dont grind on them unless they pay alot of $ for it. or offer them a private dance.

    you should learn some other moves that look freaky & acrobatic without dick contact.

    try this: while facing away from him, put his legs together with urs on the outside, then bend forward to the floor with your hands on the floor holding u up and your feet wrappeda round the chair for balance, then clap your butt in the air. youre baarely touching him and he gets a great view of ur butt. its great for bachelor parties.

    one thing that annoys the living hell outta me is when girls dont give a striptease--they just take off their clothes when the guys sits down, jumps on and grinds away... take off your clothes slowly...it gives more time that u wont have to touch/grind him and it hieghtens the anticipation when you do touch him.

    when u take your time, they do one of 3 things,
    1. they get impaitent and only want one dance because u didnt grind them to death (it doesnt matter anyway because they didnt pay enough for the privilege).
    2. they spend more because they want to be touched and theyre turned on
    3. ...Well...I cant think of a third thing but u get my point right?

    customers are always looking for the most for their money--they have that right, YOU have the right to find customers that gives you the most money for least amount of work.

    besides, grinding put zits on ur butt...save the skin on ur butt for someone willing to give you more $$ for it.
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