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    hello

    my friend alex is one of the only people that knows that id like to be a stripper.
    he asked me if id do like you know..a sexy dance for him (so i can practice..and i bet he just wanted to watch). he sed i didnt have to take my clothes off(and i wouldnt have for HIM either...). but...

    i was SO EMBARASSED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    i stalled so much. its like , i can dance sexy with confidence with nobody around...OR with a big crowd. but its SO embarassing to do it just in front of ONE person, (or a few) people. im assuming i wont have any problem dancing on stage,since just being on stage makes me feel confident and i dont mind if a crowd is around me. but i know lapdances how you usually make most of your money...but i get to embarassed 2 dance in front of one person.

    i tried to do a lapdance and "strip show" for my boyfriend once...i could tell he liked it..but i cut it short and i felt so awkard and embarassed. i couldnt even do my best.

    i guess my fear is trying and being sexy...only to be laughed at..or not to be found sexy at all.

    how do you get OVER THIS??

    thanks to anyone who helps!
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    First of all, I think for your first time or just starting out to not dance for someone you know. I personally would've been embarrassed too and wouldn't have been able to do it. Before I started dancing I did a lot of practicing in those high platform shoes, by myself. While I was getting ready in the morning, when I was bored, etc. I would do it in my bathroom in front of the mirror so I could watch myself & see how I was doing. I did that for a couple months before I started dancing (I did it for that long because I was contemplating if I was going to dance or not). When I started dancing, I hadn't danced for anyone yet so my first table dance was my first table dance for anyone. And I think that way was best. I know I could've have done it for someone I know, I think there's more pressure for someone you know then for a stranger. Just practice by yourself and when it's your first night just do what you've been practicing in the mirror. Yes, your first couple of dances will feel a little weird but by the 4th or 5th, it'll be a piece of cake. The main thing to remember is dance SLOW & SENSUAL. Most newbies take really fast, like club dancing and you don't want to do that, that screams newbie. I have no regrets! I love dancing. Just do the practicing in the mirror and make sure you wear & get used to those shoes. Wear them around the house, do housework in them, vacuum, anything and everything! Good luck!!

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    THANKS. ya i know...dancing in front of someone you know is harder!!!
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    Yea, I woudl've been just as nervous as you. He is your friend, not a customer. Makes a huge difference.







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    Quote Originally Posted by Windy
    THANKS. ya i know...dancing in front of someone you know is harder!!!
    I know, since I was playing sex chess with a girlfriend of mine a couple years ago. Each pawn equals an article of clothing, the larger pieces are sexual favors. We were in the initial stages of the relationship, fucking each others brains out, and very confident and open with each other.

    Well she took my queen, which meant I had to do something very special, and she asked me to strip for her. In spite of the fact I have always been a good dancer, have always been in very good shape and proud of my body, and never shy about nudity whatsoever, and we were banging the hell out of each other--it took me by surprise and so I really didn't do all that well, I thought--of course the music was bad--all we had was a dinky little laptop (a nice one, but no laptop is renowned for audio excellence, lol).

    Well, sorry to go on, but I know how you feel. But there are some important differences between at home and onstage. You are a very attractive woman, to say the least, and you are bound to get a lot of attention, and guys will be lining up to givee you money--this always helps a lot! The stage is intimidating, but as anyone will tell you who has been in theatre, once you get up there and start performing, it's a lot easier to relax.

    The music will be better, coming from a large professional club system, and this will also help you get into it a lot more. You should try to pick some good music beforehand that you really like and practice to it at home, maybe without your guy a few times, and also with him again. The more you do it, thee easier it will get, trust me. It might also help to visualize yourself dancing without fear, while in a totally relaxed or meditative state. Visualization is often a big factor in many success stories.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser
    I know, since I was playing sex chess with a girlfriend of mine a couple years ago. Each pawn equals an article of clothing, the larger pieces are sexual favors.
    D., is there a guide to this variation of the game? I'm quite interested and, besides, have been meaning to get back into playing chess.

    Update: Found some strip chess rules:
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    Only very insecure, needy people and junior high school kids laugh at others as some sort of attempt to feel superior. Weak.

    On the other hand keeping a straight face when someone does a face plant into turf is not easy.
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    Um, you've posted your pictures before.

    Honey, with your looks, you could make the chicken dance look sexy as hell.

    Of course it's different for friends/acquantainces. I'm about to buy a plane ticket to help you 'work through some issues'.


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    Wow.. I know exactly what you're talking about. I've been dancing for a little while and am totally comfortable with lap dances at the club but the other night my fiance of 2 1/2 years and I were drinking a little at home and he asked me to give him a lap dance. I've never been so nervous in my life! Trust me though, it's completely different when you're with a complete stranger as weird as that may seem, you'll do great!!!
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    I have a hard time dancing for people I know. I feel completely stupid, but if I don't know them I can slip into my little alternate persona and go to town. Its woerd I know but its true. You'll do fine on stage don't stress.

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    My SECOND lapdance was for my friend and now husband. I felt a bit silly, but I got over it.

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    I know several dancers socially. They have zero interest in dancing in front of me if I go to a venue to pick them up. I'd rapidly lose their friendship if I were idiot enough to ask them for a private dance outside of the venue.

    Even the dancer's I know as casual friends say it's sometimes embarassing if they're dancing in my line of sight. I think a lot of it's down to not being able to adopt a dancer persona. When I'm about they tend to slip back into "real world" mode, (cos we hold perfectly normal conversations). Accordingly, if they dance they tend to behave as Sarah the person, not Susie the stripper and hence feel embarassed.

    Cuts both ways - I feel uncomfortable looking at a dancer if I can tell from her body language that she's embarassed. It's a lot easier if both of you are strangers.

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    I tried doing a lap dance for my bf before I started and he criticized me, it sucked. However doing it for someone you dont know in the club environment is soooo diferent! Trust me it'll be better on the inside. Good luck!
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    I don't think I've ever given away a free lapdance. You'd be amazed at how well you do when there is money involved - and when you are your "other" self, somehow something kicks in and you become Super Sexy Woman.

    At first, you might move awkwardly, or be a little unsure of yourself. I know I was very nervous before I went onstage my first time, but then the next few times, I got less and less nervous and felt almost empowered by being on stage and having a guy's full attention (and wanting to pay for my attention). Some guys really LOVE the new girls, though. They think it's hot that you are such a newbie and want to 'show you the ropes' in the lap dance room. Just be aware that you are a Goddess and that your time and sanity are precious. Learn the club rules and stick to them. Don't give away too much of your time or let them grope you for free. Believe me, they will try.

    On stage, and in VIP, move slowly, like you are high on ecstacy and want to get fucked.

    And this is a golden chunk of advice to all new girls: when you are lying on your back with your legs spread, avoid doing the 'dirty hooker foot' thing where your feet are pointed outward. It just looks funky.

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    I feel your pain Windy. My bf & i go to the SC quiet a few times and now he's been asking me for his own personal dance. Ever since then i've been in a panic to look like the absolulty sexy women we see on stage. I practically find myself studying there moves. I want it to be perfect.
    To the amazing SW girls: May i ask how do you practice moving your body so beautiful slow & sensual even when the music is faster tempo? How do you "unprogram" yourself from dancing "club-like"? Heck, basically how did you all learn to move your body so smoothly (it so hard to explain...i probably sound crazy)?

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    I pretend Im dancing for my hubby.

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    DirtyLittleSecret - the slower movements come with time and practice. Just move like you are underwater - move like you would in bed, or like you are high on downers but all your movements are clear. I can't really explain it. You just 'feel' it one day.

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    Dirty Little Secret: I learned how to do that dancing to Jungle Techno - the tempo is so fast that you have to take it down to half- or quarter-time in order to move to it unless you're on insane amounts of uppers. Once I got the hang of it from that (I'm a filthy little rave kid), it was easy to do it to slower tunes. It's also a lot easier if you have very strong core muscles (abs, obliques and back) so that you're solid and grounded in any position.

    Two things to watch out for when dancing slow, though:
    (1) Don't always move the same way. Try and vary your approach to dancing a song depending on the feel of the song -- I dance lower to the ground, a little dirtier, and touch myself a lot more when I'm dancing to "Number One Crush" by Garbage; when I'm dancing to Tori Amos' "Cornflake Girl," my hips are higher, there's more of a smoothness to the movements; and when I'm dancing to "Seven Nation Army" by the White Stripes, it's faster, with a lot more agressive movements and some very silly little fillips like miming smoking a cigarette at the appropriate lines.
    In short, make it yours. Some guys don't give a shit, but I've attracted a few high-spending customers because, as they put it, "You dance up there! I haven't seen that all night!"

    (2) Number one will help you with this -- don't look bored. The easiest way to keep from looking bored is not to let yourself look bored. The jaded stripper stare on stage is easy to get when you're having a crappy night and dancing slow and sensual; it's also an enormous turn-off for the customers that are paying attention to the stage.

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