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    How do you tell her to settle down?

    Last night, I was in the shower thinking about a lapdance I got when I visited a club in Oklahoma (as a customer). This girl was really hot, totally my type, and since the club was really busy I asked her for a dance. I quickly realized that she used my dance as an opportunity to drum up business from the guys who were watching, rather than dance for me... she was putting on this wild, crazy show rather than the slow, intimate kind of dance that I like. A few times she would even get on all fours and just bump her ass into my chair over and over.

    Me being the PL I am when it comes to strippers, I bought two dances from her and tipped her afterward, but it was not an enjoyable dance for me. Of course our enthusiastic audience bought several more from her when we were done, but I definitely don't feel that I got my money's worth. So how do you tell a dancer to tone it down and be sexier??

    I tried to think of how I would want to be told if it was me, and I couldn't think of an answer. I don't dance "crazy" anyway and I couldn't imagine doing some of those moves because they are just not sexy to me. What would y'all say to a girl who was using you as a prop for a show rather than giving the dance you paid for?

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    Default Re: How do you tell her to settle down?

    I just look elsewhere.

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    Yek, this has happened to me quite a few times.

    As you certainly know, seating choice has a lot to do with her ability to use you to put on a show for others.

    Lately, I've tried "be gentle with me" with moderate success.

    I must be way too bored, but recently when I was getting a lap from one of these gals who started the dance by jiggling around and squealing "don't grab my titties too hard!" I responded by saying: "Please be gentle with me."

    She didn't get it initially and started in with boucing her boobs in my face while giggling, and being a little showy. I gave absolutely no body language feedback and stared past her watching the game on the TV across the room.

    About a third of the way into the first song, she starts to get it, then wipes her nose a couple of times. (good ol' passive aggressive me making her nervous) Then she says: "Oh, be gentle with YOU" and then starts to try. Then I grinned at her and gave her the gentle daring eye clutch while thinking, "okay, I'm going to give you a second chance, now let me really get into your dance". After the second dance, she got too nervous and said she had to go onstage (lied). She went backstage to do a couple of lines and have a stiff drink.


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    Unfortunately...that is just probably her style. I had a similar experience in Seattle last week. I picked a "my type" and she was waaay to bouncy and all over the place...wouldn't settle down. Picked a new one and went on to spend $400 with her.

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    Geez, azcustomer, that's sad. I've worked with a lot of girls who can't do intimacy; it freaks them out. I guess she was one of those girls, and I guess the one in the OP was too. But geez, it doesn't have to be lovemaking! I realize mine are more intimate than most, but what's wrong with a little sensuality?

    Do any guys really like that crazy loud bouncing around? Is there anyone that would really like to see a stripper on all fours on the floor banging her ass into the chair?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    s there anyone that would really like to see a stripper on all fours on the floor banging her ass into the chair?
    This is another one of my personal pet peeves. Sometimes I wonder if they are trying to punish 'sporty' for showing up to the party with some glancing blows to the head.

    It's on my list of tackiest LD moves.


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    Wow, that's actually a common thing?? I only saw it this one time! She wasn't hitting me anywhere (although granted, I don't have a "sporty" to show up) - she was just on the floor, on her hands and knees, banging her ass over and over against the edge of my chair. Sheesh. I can't believe there are multiple girls doing this all over the country!

    Anyway, I like your "be gentle with me" idea. I'll try that next time this happens. I think with a self-conscious girly laugh it could work without being rude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah

    Me being the PL I am when it comes to strippers, I bought two dances from her and tipped her afterward, but it was not an enjoyable dance for me.
    You should have cut your losses after one dance, and definately don't tip extra if you didn't like the dance.

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    Yeah, I know. I already said I'm a PL, in the worst sense, when it comes to strippers and other hot girls.


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    I've got a fairly wide birth when it comes to what I like in a LD. Nevertheless the one thing I won't put up with is a dancer who is disinterested in doing her job or just too stupid to at least ACT like she wants to be with me.

    I don't coach or criticize, I just stop after one dance and look elsewhere. Eye candy is for the stage; If she's on my lap I expect her to be dancing for me, not the room. If I even see a dancer looking in the mirror too much I stop and move on.
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    I tell her to slow down, and say don't move faster than my hands are on you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    Yeah, I know. I already said I'm a PL, in the worst sense, when it comes to strippers and other hot girls.

    Seems like the problem is that you are highly attracted to this dancer and would like to get more dances from her, but her behavior is completely unacceptable. Been there a few times myself, and assuming there's nothing better within eyesight, I simply explain the situation to them like this: "can we talk for a second? I'd really like to spend more time with you and enjoy more of your dances, but I'm not a violent person and you're making me uncomfortable with all this ass-slamming. Do you think we can work something out or would it be better for me to spend my money on someone else?"
    A little Dr. Phil-esque, but might be worth a shot.
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    Good tips. I'll definitely remember these next time!

    I try to stay out of the clubs when I'm not working because I have a tendency to find one girl I think is the hottest and just hand over my wallet.

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    I've had this type of thing happen a few times, and I just don't have the patience for it, no matter how hot the dancer is.The last time it happened, I stopped the dancer in the middle of the dance and asked her, "Are you dancing for them or for me?", to which she replied "Both". I answered "Well, then you better get them to pay for their half of this dance".

    She settled down quickly after that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    Good tips. I'll definitely remember these next time!

    I try to stay out of the clubs when I'm not working because I have a tendency to find one girl I think is the hottest and just hand over my wallet.
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    So how do you tell a dancer to tone it down and be sexier??
    "Slow it down, it's not a race."

    Failure to comply means failure to earn more of my money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    What would y'all say to a girl who was using you as a prop for a show rather than giving the dance you paid for?
    I'd say, "Sweetie, I think we're done now. Thanks!".

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